"Women stay because the fear of leaving is greater than the fear of staying. They will leave when the fear of staying is greater than the fear of leaving."
Female
40 years old
Rocky Mount, North Carolina
United States
Helping raise awareness for Domestic Violence!
I also like to spend time with my wonderful husband and my 2 wonderful sons, ages 13 and 16. I like to go camping, any outdoor activities. I love art and love to draw and I like to write poetry.
Stop The Violence
She was a shell
Empty and alone
Where could she go?
Who could she tell?
Was easier to stay
To accept defeat
Everyone told her
That's the way it should be.
They all looked away
and left her alone
they turned their heads
to any broken bones
They told her to be strong
for that was the plan
Her only goal
should be to please her man
She did her best
She gave it her all
When asked "What happened?"
She said
"Oh, Just a fall"
Years went by
she learned to adapt
she learned how not
to make him mad
She learned how to please
Just what to say
She learned to make sure
HE had a good day
Those looking on could not see?
Would not see?
The pain that was so deep inside of me
Was it easier to just look away?
Distance and time
closed for me
there was a hand that
could be reached
A hand with a face
from the past
A hand that only for a
short time would last
I held on to that hand
with all my might
I pulled myself up
I learned how to fight
A year has past
And now I see
just how wonderful
life should be
Written in celebration of my freedom
Dedicated to the face from the past,
(Someone's name)
Domestic violence causes far more pain than the visible marks, bruises and scars. It is devastating to be abused by someone you love and you think they love you. It is estimated that 3 million incidents of domestic abuse occur in the United States alone, each year.
Domestic violence does not only happen to adults, but over 40% of teen girls ranging between the ages of 14 to 17 years of age report daily of knowing someone their age being hit or beaten by a boyfriend. One out of 5 high school females report being physically/ or sexually abused by a person they have dated.
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SOME WARNING SIGNS OF DATING/DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Does your partner:
1.Insult you in public and private?
2.Check up on where you've been and who you've talked to?
3.Put down you friends and family?
4.Limit where you can go and what you can do?
5.Destroy your belongings?
6.Tell you jealousy is a sign of love?
7.Touch you in a way that hurts you or scares you?
If you experience any of these behaviors, please remember you are not alone--protect yourself and get more information about domestic violence.
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I got flowers today.
It wasn't my birthday or any other special day.
We had our first argument last night.
And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me.
I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said.
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today.
It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day.
Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me.
It seemed like a nightmare.
I couldn't believe that it was real.
I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over.
I know he must be sorry.
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today.
And it wasn't Mother's Day or any special day.
Last night he beat me up again.
And it was much worse than all the other times.
If I leave him what will I do?
How will I take care of my kids?
What about money?
I'm afraid of him and scared to leave.
But I know he must be sorry.
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today.
Today was a special day.
It was the day of my funeral.
Last night, he finally killed me.
He beat me to death.
If only I had gathered
Enough courage and strength to leave him.
I would not have gotten flowers today
by Paulette Kelly
About me: My name is Angela, I am 38 years old, I am married to a wonderful man and have 2 great teenage sons, by a previous marriage. I have lived my whole life in some type of abuse. My mom was abused by her boyfriends and husbands, from the time I was born. I witnessed it all. At a early age my sister moved in with her grandparents, we had different fathers. I was left to deal with all the suffering. After my mom divorced from my sisters dad, she married a man a lot younger than her that abused her on a daily basis. He also abused me mentally, phsically and sexually from the age of 5 until I was about 13. He finally was sent to prison for breaking and entering. I tried to tell my mom, but she did not believe me. Which is alot of the reason her and I do not have a great relationship to this day. As I grew up, I did alot of experiencing with drugs and alcohol, which lead me to the same type of men. I met the first one after my divorce to my first husband. It started out great, then he would not let me talk to my friends, he would call me names and tell me what I could and could not wear. He eventually would hide my clothes or burn them, then he started beating me with table legs or anything else he could find. He did all of this in front of my young sons at the time. He made them stay in there bedrooms and they were not allowed to come out, except to eat. One day one of my best friends (who babysat my sons) had had enough ( she noticed that my youngest son, who was about 2 at the time, had welps from a fishing pole on him) and came to my house with the Sheriff and got the children. She told me I could stay if I wanted, but she was taking the kids. I got in her car with only the clothes on our backs and never looked back.
My second experience started only a short time after. All started the same way at first,he was sweet and treated me like a queen. Then the verbal and mental abuse started, followed by the physical. Only difference this time, was that I had given custody to my ex-husband, so the children were not involved in watching their mom being beaten and abused this go around, and most importantly, they weren't being abused themselves. I ended the relationship with him, but it didn't stop. He would stalk me and cut my tires on my car. He would even wait for me to come home (I lived back and forth between 3 of my friends)and he would come into there homes and beat me in front of them and their children or whoever else may have been there. I had restaining orders, but that did not stop him. Eventually, he kidnapped me one day and took me to his parents home.(They were at the hospital) There he held me for 3 hours beating me and choking me until I almost blacked out. Finally I begged him to let me go, told him I loved him and we would work things out. He took me to my friends office and threw me out of the van onto the pavement. When I barely walked in, my best friend took me straight to the Sheriff's department. They charged him with Assault with a deadly weapon with intent to kill, second degree kidnapping and assault on a female. He spent 6 months in the County jail, 6 months house arrest and 3 years probation. Then I heard he married a 19 year old girl, had a baby boy and is doing the same thing to her. I am now going through it again, but now it's with one of my best friends, she was the one who was there for me and helped me get out of the second relationship. Her and her mom stood by me in court and helped me to get away from him for good. Her mom and I are so worried that he is going to hurt her really bad or even worst. She has a 13 year old daughter who is being terribly affected by this. He has started with the verbal and mental abuse, not only toward her, but toward her daughter, her mom and me. He does not allow her to talk to us or go anywhere with us. He tells her what she can and cannot where and has recently bruised her up pretty bad.
I just want to be able to help my friend and other women and children who are going through this type of violence and I guess this is the first step that I can take.
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Domestic Violence
919-828-7740
866-291-0855 toll-free
Sexual Assault
919-828-3005
866-291-0853 toll-free
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919-828-3067
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"Come said the wind to the leaves one day, Come o're the meadows and we will play. Put on your dresses scarlet and gold, For summer is gone and the days grow cold. "
Echo the long-drawn sighs Of the mounting wind in the pines; And the sobs of the mounting waves that rise In the dark of the troubled deep To break on the beach in fiery lines. Echo the far-off roll of thunder, Rumbling loud And ever louder, under The blue-black curtain of cloud, Where the lightning serpents gleam. Echo the moaning Of the forest in its sleep Like a giant groaning In the torment of a dream.
O Music, lead the way-- The stormy night is past, Lift up our hearts to greet the day, And the joy of things that last.
It was a little budding rose, Round like a fairy globe, And shyly did its leaves unclose Hid in their mossy robe, But sweet was the slight and spicy smell It breathed from its heart invisible. ~Emily Bronte
May you have a day full of beauty. Your friend, Kim
"October gave a party; The leaves by hundreds came- The Chestnuts, Oaks, and Maples, And leaves of every name. The Sunshine spread a carpet, And everything was grand, Miss Weather led the dancing, Professor Wind the band." - George Cooper, October's Party
Have a beautiful autumn day, my friend. Blessings, Kim
I am so sorry to hear about all that is happening in your life iwth your mom. That can be so hard on a good day---and worse when life is lemons. Know I care, and I will keep you in my prayers. I have not been able to be on daily as I like myself with all teh new kids here, but I try my best as well--our friends know we still love them. Hugs to you friend, and hang in there.
It's beach weather today! After a week & a half of nothing but clouds & rain, it's nice to see us living up to our nickname of the Sunshine State. lol. And thanks for being patient with me. My kids & my mother were sick for a few days. All better now. :) Hope you're having a wonderful day! (((HUGS)))
