David Mills

About me:

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David's Video Greeting to MySpace Friends


My name is David Mills, and I live on Washington Avenue in Huntington, West Virginia. Welcome to my page! I’m glad you’re here.

I'm 49-years-old and have one 13-year-old daughter, Sophia, who lives with her mother. Until recently, I was Sophia's home-schooling teacher. Now, she knows more than I do about her school subjects. She introduced me to MySpace. I'm very proud of Sophia, but I've dropped a few notches on her list of priorities since she became a teenager. I know that her newfound independence is normal and healthy, but these changing circumstances do require me to psychologically reboot and to perhaps think about my own future and personal happiness. That’s the reason for this page.

I've been married twice: 1984-2002 and again, to my second wife, from 2004-2008. (In both instances, I was the petitioner.) I'm now single and looking for friendship, dating, or a possible long-term relationship. I continue to view marriage positively and, unlike many middle-aged men and women these days, I carry no residual emotional baggage or ex-spouse drama to sabotage a future relationship. I have a vibrant, non-neurotic personality and outlook. Life is meant to be enjoyed. I live in a seven-room, two-bath, mortgage-free home in a middle-class neighborhood of Huntington, West Virginia, about 500 yards from the Ohio River.

I'm a very friendly, soft-spoken, well-informed, bleeding-heart liberal. I get teary-eyed during Barack Obama's eloquent speeches. I also got teary-eyed during George W. Bush’s press conferences, though for very different reasons.

Most of my current, day-to-day activity focuses on my 85-year-old father, Harry, who suffers from advanced Parkinson's Disease and who requires my around-the-clock care. I suppose that I could be characterized fairly as a male homebody. (For those in the WV, KY and OH areas, Dad appeared for eleven years on WSAZ's Saturday Night Jamboree. This explains my adopted love of country music and the video files, below, showcasing my attempts to sing these old tunes.)

I have authored three published books, one of which is currently sold in bookstores nationwide. Despite my complete lack of training or any kind of professional background in the field, I’ve also authored one of the nation’s most-widely-used patient handouts in the practice of psychotherapy.

I'm told that I'm reliably positive, enthusiastic, cheerful and dependable. If one of your relatives calls me a vile name and accuses me of being the worst man on earth, I'd probably just thank him for his observations -- regardless of my true feelings -- and express to him my resolve for self-improvement. I would never embarrass you, publicly or privately, in front of your family or friends. My non-confrontational attitude does not mean, however, that I'm a wimp or incapable of asserting myself rationally in debate. It means only that I value, above all else, a peaceful, amiable atmosphere and will happily compromise to achieve a relaxed family setting. The woman I hope to meet will view this quality in me as a strength to be appreciated, rather than as a “weakness” to be exploited.

I am by no means an anti-social person. But I'm definitely no bar-hopping partygoer. Most people mistakenly view me as an extrovert, because of my public activities, such as writing and singing, and because I strive, as an act of good manners, to give the impression that I'm delighted to see everyone I encounter. But I find social contact with lots of people at once to be emotionally draining. I am a friendly introvert, who prefers the company of a single individual over group activities.

I am also a huge believer in the wisdom espoused by Dr. John Gray in his famous book Men Are From Mars. Women Are From Venus. I believe that once the fundamental psychological differences between men and women are fully understood and accepted, things go a lot more smoothly and happily for everyone. I would never try to change you or "make you over," and I would never consider it my place to criticize your children ever, for any reason whatsoever. "He who is without sin ..."

On the negative side, I'm certainly no skilled handyman. If the transmission falls out of your car, I'll take charge and make arrangements to have it fixed promptly. But I don't possess the talent to do the job myself. I'm also out to lunch on plumbing, roofing, heating and air conditioning repair. I can, however, repair and upgrade computers. I can’t tune up your car, but I can tune your guitar. I'm an on-pitch baritone singer and accomplished guitarist. (See my videos below.)

The Woman I'd Like to Meet:

I value courtesy, open-mindedness, intelligence, creativity, emotional sensitivity, and a humorous, lighthearted (but responsible) attitude toward life and relationships. Your age and appearance are not of particular significance to me. While it would be convenient (for me) if you live near Huntington, WV, I'd certainly be willing to travel to meet the right person. In fact, for reasons I describe below, I fully anticipate the necessity of travel. If you do live near Huntington, then I'll be delighted to admit I was wrong.

I believe that the key to success in any relationship is simply good manners. Sometimes the truth is much simpler than we think. If we plan to meet for dinner at 7 p.m., I'll be there on time. I'll be dressed appropriately. I'll greet you with a cheerful smile and an upbeat attitude. I'll open the door for you. I'll take your coat. I won't begin eating my food until the server brings yours as well. I'll not gawk at other women, not egotistically dominate the conversation, not talk and text to others on the cell phone while I'm with you, not make cute remarks full of "constructive criticism," and not spend the evening lying about my personal history. One of my favorite quotations is that of Dale Carnegie: "If we only treated our friends and loved ones as politely as we treat strangers seated beside us on a park bench, our relationships would improve immediately."

I’m hoping to meet a woman who’d enjoy being the main focus of a man’s attention and devotion, and who is willing and able to reciprocate by likewise giving high priority to a relationship. It is hurtful -- trust me, I know -- when only one person in a relationship is really trying, and the other is preoccupied, distracted and subordinates the relationship to a dozen other lofty concerns. I’m not “too busy” for you. And I hope you're not too busy for me.

Quite honestly, I face two frustrations in meeting a female friend here in West Virginia. First, this region is overwhelmingly Protestant fundamentalist and conservative Republican. (West Virginia cast its five electoral votes for McCain/Palin.) Most of the people here -- both male and female -- are friendly, generous, hard-working, admirable individuals. But they believe -- as is their perfect right -- in a literal interpretation of the Book of Genesis. Earth is only 6,000 years old, and anyone who accepts evolutionary science is a misguided fool. They also believe that anyone who rejects Christianity altogether is, by definition, an immoral tool of Satan to be shunned. "Be ye not unequally yoked."

Because I've authored books openly critical of young-earth creationism and Intelligent Design, women here quickly realize that, whatever their opinions of me personally, their friends and family will soon learn, through some roundabout means, of my highly "offensive" profession. It's the local equivalent of introducing your boyfriend as a serial killer just released from prison. With all the "good Christian" men available here, my presence in their lives would introduce a needless social conflict prudently avoided.

Secondly, through no fault of their own, many women of my age in this locality seem to harbor an unconscious, built-in, self-destruct mechanism. They complain loudly -- and quite justifiably -- that men don’t understand them, and men don’t listen to their problems, and men don’t genuinely care about them, and men don't help them with the kids, and men refuse to do housework, and men don't satisfy their emotional needs, and men are sexually selfish and uninformed about a woman's particular erotic desires and needs. I've no doubt that these criticisms are valid. But over and over again, these same women are romantically drawn ONLY toward men who are rough-neck, arrogant, insensitive, or even abusive. Other, non-bronco-busting men, like me, are viewed as boring or not brutish enough to suit their tastes. (I’ve never once roped a calf.)

Needless to say, after these women are emotionally neglected by every man they ever cared for, they develop a huge chip on their shoulder. Instead of questioning why they were repeatedly attracted only to men who mistreated them, they become embittered and view all men thereafter -- me included -- with an unfair cynicism and paranoia, regardless of how friendly or sincere you may be in introducing yourself to them.

I don’t mean to blame the victims here. Clearly, if men wouldn’t behave obnoxiously in the first place, the resulting (and understandable) female emotional withdrawal wouldn’t be an impediment for me to overcome. But this exaggerated mistrust of men is unfortunately an obstacle that many men here face, perhaps because the incidence of spousal abuse and neglect is, sadly, much higher here in Appalachia than the national average.

To summarize the last few paragraphs, then: the woman I'd like to meet would be neither an intolerant religious extremist nor a love cynic. Stated positively: the woman I'd like to meet would be open-minded, both on issues of science and on relationship possibilities, and would have time and inclination to give priority to nurturing the growth of a relationship. She could very confidently expect me to happily do the same.

From a woman's point of view, I can understand the perceived dangers of making a connection over the internet, though the dangers are, in my view, very different from those usually discussed. The real danger is not that you're going to accidently hook up with a serial killer who just escaped prison. Your danger instead is hooking up with serial liars and serial jerks. In my overly-lengthy profile here, I've tried to paint an accurate portrait of who I am. This profile would have been far more effective at helping me meet a woman if I'd omitted a majority of what I wrote here. I realize that. But women claim they want a man who's truthful with them.

If you're reading these words, then please do consider writing to just say Hi. It doesn't have to mean a thing. Even if you have no interest in me whatever, please share your thoughts about how I can make this page more effective at meeting the right person. It's sometimes difficult to objectively judge how we're coming across to others, and your suggestions may prove very helpful.

Your MySpace Friend,

David Mills sings: "Hello Darlin"



David Mills sings: "He'll Have To Go"



David on Air America and XM Satellite with Dan Barker



Atheist David Mills Floating in Zero G



Atheist David Mills LYNCHED in West Virginia



Blasphemous Poem About Nonexistent Jesus



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