My name is Brett. If you happen to run into me in person and wish to adress me, its good to use my name and not my screen name... That annoys me to no end! So, you're reading this to find out about me... HA! Who could I be?
Well, I'll start by saying that I am a truly passionate person in regard to the things, feelings, values and most of all to the people I truly care about. One thing I am passionate about is music. I enjoy just about every type of music out there, but musical theater is a favorite. I also love design... in everything. I like looking for art in unexpected places, this is part of my facination with very large cities, also my love of nice, quality, well designed things. Simple looking things can be very beautiful and also very complex... but very complex looking things can also be very simple and beautiful. Both of these happen in nature, and in almost everything we see... Now, before you write me off as hyper-gay for being so interested in the things mentioned above, I should mention that like anyone I have lots of additional interests and qualities that add to and ultimately help define who I am.
I like to fix things, or rather I like to take broken things apart and attempt to reassemble them. Often these ventures are unsuccessful, but enjoyable and almost always educational. In addition to disassembling things, I have also, over the years become very adept at assembling things, namely furniture-out-of-a-box, though I much prefer actual furniture.
I love spending time outdoors hiking, exploring woods, getting lost on a walking tour of a city, things like that. I'm also a very social person. I love people, and I like to constatnly be surrounded by them. Alone time is important, but I get plenty of it, and like to spend most of the available spare time I have with friends, family, etc. Anyone who knows me will tell you that I always say: "I'm alone when I sleep, and that's all the alone time I need." I usually go to bars a couple of times a week. This is less about drinking and more about finding something to do that involves people. If an alternative activity including other people is available, I would much prefer that, however with lack of viable options I quite frequently settle for bar. Preferred options: Small gatherings at peoples homes or in restaurants, one on one lunches with friends and late night walks (the secondary purpose being exercise, the primary being conversation) on the trails here in JC and in Columbia.
My friends and family are very important to me. They are a trustworthy group of people who are all well intentioned and good hearted, and as such they take care of me, as I do them. Because I make friends very easily, I have a lot of them but actually have a relatvely small number of close friends.
I should probably explain at this point that dispite the fact that I grew up here, and that my family is here, I feel very out of place in Jefferson City, not only Jefferson City, but in Mid-Missouri. Ideally, I'd probably be living in Chicago. I've been lucky enough to have lived there for several months. The experiences I had during my brief stay there played a fundamental role in the development of my sense of self and in my ever evolving views of the world around me. I can't imagine where or who I'd be without those experiences. When I moved back to JC, because I ran out of money, I started working at CCRSI again, until I found a new job. Well, now it is almost two years later, and here I still am. The people here, and the lifestyle here, while familiar, are not as comfortable for me as those in the city are, though they do seem to fit as well. Don't get me wrong, mid-Missouri has some wonderful people, who I have been incredibly lucky to meet since I've been back. These people help make my life here enjoyable.
The fact that I'm not where I thought I'd be at this point in my life isn't an excuse to be miserable all the time. I'm a happy person because I want to be a happy person. Attitude, I think, is an extremely important part of being happy. I think its less about where you are, and more about who you are, and who you spend your time with...
So by now you're probably wondering if and/or when I'm going to get to the part that tells you if you measure up for what I'm looking for in a guy aside from whatever I happened to click in the little boxes that display near this little blob of text under the heading "interested in." In the past I'd spent a lot of time on here "looking for a boyfriend" However, because people aren't products on a shelf, none of the people I've tried to select from here have ever really panned out into exactly what I am searching for. I'm more looking to make friends with people, and see where that goes... ultimately, I want to end up with a guy to spend my life with, but I think it best to let it happen in time and not try to force it.
I'm relatively opinionated but at the same time, very open minded. I enjoy conversations with people who can clearly express what it is they are trying to communicate so that I can learn from the benefit of their experience and knowledge. I value honesty and openness above everything else where friendships and relationships are concerned because I believe they are the basic tools for good communication, without which successful relationships of any sort cannot be formed or maintained. Sometimes my honesty gets me into trouble by complicating situations or steering them in directions I'd rather they not go, but I still believe in its importance. On a related note, I should mention another of my more charming qualities: sometimes I don't know when to stop talking or to stop thinking about things... I'm also famous for providing my unsolicited opinion.
Though I'm not always sure of where I'm going, I have a pretty clear picture of who I am, and who I want to be. I like to always have some sort of long term goal that I'm trying to work toward. I constantly strive to better myself, and my environment and am always trying to grow as a person. There is no reason to ever stop learning, and I don't ever want to. As long as there are things to learn and try, I will be learning and trying them. That hunger is a quality I value in other people as well.
I'll do anything for the people I care about and am one of the most dependable, forthright, and trusting people you'll ever meet. Though the subject matter I've discussed here may paint a picture of me as a very serious kind of person, the contrary is true. I'm usually pretty witty and entertaining to be around. My sense of humor tends toward what most would probably consider smart humor, but often I very much enjoy sophomoric humor as well. The two mixed together are the best... probably why I really enjoy South Park.
Okay, well, I guess if you've read this much you should at least be commended for that. Feel free to say hi to me either here on or on AIM which I'm almost ALWAYS on, my name on there is 'riverwestbrett'. The address to my website is my name, only with the JC dropped. http://www.brettsing.com, if you're not a premium member, which almost no one is, and you want to see more pictures go to that address. I usually try to keep recent pictures on there. Well, thank you again for reading, and I wish you happy guy-hunting! :o)
