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    What are additional mistakes you believe parents make? http://lnk.ms/f3ZDz

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    Sexual assaults with an object comprised of 2.5 % of reported assaults. Accurate or not? http://lnk.ms/f3Y35

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    Record shows that 70% of teen girls who have been sexually assaulted knew their attacker. http://lnk.ms/fCTC4

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    A Myth: Young women are at a higher risk of being abused because they're considered more attractive? http://lnk.ms/f3TTT

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    Do you believe that alcohol use is the largest risk factor for sexual assault? Yes or No? http://lnk.ms/f3Sxx

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  • Anti-Porn Blogger

    ..Hello Mike. 

    Belated thanks for your kind and thoughtful comment from quite some time ago that you left on my profile.  I would also like to thank you very much for all of the important work that you are doing.  What you are doing is extremely necessary and meaningful and is really making a difference!  I only wish that I had encountered your work before I dated for many years myself and learned many very serious and damaging lessons the hard way.

    I am creating a new web site and I'm linking to you on it and I hope that many people will check out all of the very helpful information that you are making available to people.

    Thanks again for all that you do. You're setting an excellent example for all men everywhere of integrity and humanity. Please keep up your excellent work!

    Anti-Porn Blogger

    2 years ago
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    Just dropping by to say hello!

    Hope you have a wonderful day!

    ♥

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    Heya



    Thanks for accepting me Break-the-silence-and-Make-a-difference, I just want to say I ♥ your page. I’m here to support girls and boys who have been sexual abused. It’s good to know there are lots of people out there trying to help me get the word out.



    ♥ Cassieopia

    4 years ago
  • Judyth Piazza

    Have a great week!!!!!!

    JP

    http://thesop. org

    4 years ago
  • Ryan Feldhausen

    Thank you.
    We went to go see Batman And Hancock at the outdoor theater
    but it got really late and we didnt get to see handcock
    but it was still fun.

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    I cannot thank you enough for your kind support and friendship! Welcome to
    our ever growing family of friends. I'm really happy you have decided to
    become friends of the Wake Up (to child abuse) MySpace Music page. Just by
    adding us to your friends you have already demonstrated that you have a good
    heart and are willing to take a step towards ending the hidden suffering of
    so many.

    We also dare to hope you will be able to persuade some of your other MySpace
    friends to join our just fight against child abuse by adding us to their
    friends too. The larger our family of friends becomes, the more people we
    will be able to reach and educate about this terrible ‘disease’ sweeping
    across the world which blights the lives of more children than you may
    imagine. Please take a moment to read some of the statistics on child abuse
    highlighted on our profile and within our blogs. I am sure you will be just
    as shocked and appalled as we are when you find out the full extent of this
    scourge.

    The innocent children suffering such terrible abuse need all the help they
    can get. Increased awareness of this foul concealed crime will help to
    prevent more children living through the agonising torment which I was
    forced to experience.

    I hope you have a great day and look forward to hearing from you soon with
    your views and comments on this important issue,

    Ralph

    4 years ago
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    to the Beauty Zone, our friendship is an honor and blessing, thank you.

    Keith

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  • General

    Writing Books

    The Date Safe Advocate

    Producing Podcast Shows.

    Pledge to Protect.

    Promoting Positive Change in Society.

    Presenting "Can I Kiss You?" in schools.

    Working with students.

    Sharing with parents.

    Finding people who "Open the Door."

    Hearing students tell me, "I was a friend tonight."

    Speaking Out for Right When No One Else Will.

     

     



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  • Books

    May I Kiss You?  A Candid Look at Dating, Communication, Respect, & Sexual Assault Awareness.  .. .. Mike Domitrz (WI: Awareness Publications LLC, 2003)...

    Voices of Courage: Inspiration from Survivors of Sexual Assault.  Mike Domitrz (WI: Awareness Publications LLC, 2005).

    Allies in healing: When The Person You Love Was Sexually Abused As A Child. Laura Davis (NY: Harper Perennial, 1991).

    The Courage to Heal Workbook- For Women and Men Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse.  Laura Davis (NY:  Harper Perennial; 1st edition, 1990).

    Clandestine Confessions.  Nina Holden (Gavta Publishing, 2005).

    The Date Rape Prevention Book:  The Essential Guide for Girls and Women.  Scott Lindquist (Sourcebooks Inc, 2000).

    Ditch That Jerk : Dealing With Men Who Control and Hurt Women.  Pamela Jayne (Hunter House, 2000).

    Emotionally Involved: The Impact of Researching Rape.  Rebecca Campbell (Routledge, 2001).

    Getting Free: You Can End Abuse and Take Your Life Back. Ginny Nicarthy (WA: Seal Press, 1997).

    The Gift of Fear.  Gavin De Becker (Dell, 1998).

    Growing Beyond Abuse: A Workbook for Survivors of Sexual Exploitation or Childhood Sexual Abuse.  Signe L. Nestingen and Laurel Ruth Lewis (MN:  Omni Recovery Inc., 1990).

    Growing Beyond Survival: A Self-Help Toolkit for Managing Traumatic Stress.  Elizabeth G. Vermilyea (MD:  Sidran Press, 2000).

    Healing the Trauma of Abuse:  A Woman's Workbook. Mary Ellen Copeland and Maxine Harris (CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2000).

    The Hired Hand: A Case of Clergy Abuse.  Donna E. Scott (America Publishing, 2001).

    I Can't Get Over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors, 2..nd.. edition.  Aphrodite Matsakis (CA: New Harbinger Publications, 1996).

    I Never Called It Rape: The Ms. Report on Recognizing, Fighting, and Surviving Date and Acquaintance Rape.  Robin Warshaw (NY: Harper Perennial, 1994).

    If He is Raped: A Guidebook for Parents, Partners, Spouses, and Friends. Alan McEvoy, Debbie Rollo, and Jeff Brookings (FL: Learning Publications Inc., 2003).

    If She Is Raped: A Guidebook for Husbands, Fathers, and Male Friends. Alan W. McEvoy and Jeff B. Brookings (FL: Learning Publications Inc., 1991).

    If You Are Raped:  What Every Woman Needs To Know.  Kathryn M. Johnson (FL: Learning Publications Inc., 1985).

    It Happened to Me: A Teen's Guide to Overcoming Sexual Abuse.  William Lee Carter (CA: New Harbinger Publications, 2002).

    Male On Male Rape.  Michael Scarce (MA: Perseus Publishing, 1997).

    May I Kiss You?  A Candid Look at Dating, Communication, Respect, & Sexual Assault Awareness.  Mike Domitrz (WI: Awareness Publications LLC, 2003).

    No Secrets, No Lies:  How Black Families Can Heal From Sexual Abuse.  Robin Stone (Broadway Books, 2004).

    The Other Side of Silence: Women Tell About Their Experiences With Date Rape.  Christine Carter (Avocus Publishing, 1995).

    Rape in Marriage.  Diane E.H. Russell (Indiana University Press, 1990).

    Real Rape.  Susan Estrich (Harvard University Press, 1988).

    Recovering from rape (2..nd.. edition).  Linda Ledray (NY:  Henry Holt and Company, 1994).

    Safe Beginnings:  Protecting Our Children from Sexual Abuse.  Shirley Paceley and Orieda Horn Anderson (Blue Tower Training Center, 2003).

    Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest And Its After Effects In Women. Sue E. Blume (Ballantine Books Inc.,1997).

    Sex in the Forbidden Zone: When  Men in Power .. Linda P. Rouse (FL: Learning Publications Inc., 1986).

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About me:

A Dating or "Hook-Up"
Question for you:

Do most people "ask" before kissing someone? Do they ask specifically what the other person is comfortable doing BEFORE they try it? Do they actually say, "May I . . .?"  Why don't they ask first?  Because most of us don't know how and so we tell ourselves, "I can't.  Asking would be weird and it would ruin the moment."  The fact is that no one has ever taught us how easy "asking" is and how much safer it is for everyone. Have you or people you know ever felt pressured into a sexual act when it wasn't wanted? Have you ever had a friend tell you, "I didn't want to, but I felt like I had to do something." Asking takes away the "felt like I had to" and empowers individuals -- because now they are being given a choice!

Through interactive presentations, educational resources, and unique national initiatives, The Date Safe Project (www.datesafeproject.org) is committed to being the nation?s leading organization for teaching how "asking first" makes all the difference in creating fun & safer intimacy and in decreasing occurrences of sexual assault. Changing the old system of "you make your moves until the other person stops you" to now saying, "Ask first."  Why?  Talking is more fun and a lot less stressful than guessing.  Instead of relying on messages like "No Means No," live by "Give your partner a chance to say, 'No' or 'Yes' -- the only way to truly give a person a choice is by asking first."

If someone tells you, "Asking ruins the moment," respond by saying, "If asking ruined the moment, you must not have had much of a moment to start with!"  This approach of "asking first" forces the person "making the moves" to respect their partner's wants and comfort zones.  Unless you are a jerk who doesn't care about your partner as a human being, who wouldn't want to give his or her partner a choice before you do something with his or her body?

How do you share this message with others?  Check out the fun and interactive books, t-shirts, and temporary tattoos on the right side of this page.  Your friends will be asking to borrow the book from you.  When it comes to the tattoos and the shirts, they'll be asking you, "Where I can get those?"  They are a blast to wear and send a great message.

"CAN I KISS YOU?"
What is a fantastic way to bring this message to all the students at your school?  The Date Safe Project has one of the most hilarious and hard-hitting one-man shows touring the country today -- titled "Can I Kiss You?".  From middle schools to college campuses, this program is one of the hottest events in North America -- drastically changing the way students handle communicating, dating, hooking-up, and intimacy.  Visit www.canikissyou.com to bring this incredible show to your students.

Take the Pledge
You can start making a difference today by downloading the  "Pledge to Protect" -- a great bond between you, your friends, and family.  Once you download the pledge, print it out and have all your friends and family join you in signing this wonderful commitment to look out for each other.  Check out the What Are You Spreading? section below.

To learn more about this revolutionary approach, visit The Date Safe Project today.  A better understanding of consent leads to healthier dating environments and to a greater awareness toward the many issues surrounding sexual assault.

MORE GREAT WEBSITES:

www.canikissyou.com

www.voicesofcourage.com

www.mayikissyou.com

www.datesafeproject.org

www.datesafeshow.com

P.S.  Do you use i-tunes to listen to music?
We have a new podcast show about to be broadcast on i-tunes!  You can be on the first episode by going to www.datesafeshow.com and scrolling down to the show titled "Relationships, Intimacy, & Respect."  Then, read how to be on the show.  We are taking questions and comments from people throughout the world.  Get involved today!


WATCH VIDEO (click on below link):

1. Male giving "The Look"

2. Female Sending Body Language

3. Average Couple
WARNING:  All comments on this site are watched closely to insure a "safe" and respectful environment for everyone.


Resources:  

Are You Giving It Up Online?  Read this fantastic article for MySpace users. Click here.

May I Kiss You? is an in-depth look at the realities of dating and intimacy.  Mike Domitrz's candid advice, real-life scenarios, and over 20 interactive exercises will revolutionize your approach to dating while building respect and heightening awareness of sexual misconduct and assault.  People from all over the world are experiencing incredible success with this innovative, respectful, and fun approach to dating. Plus, you can read the whole book in under 2 hours!!  Only $14 -- click here to get now.

Can I Kiss You? T-shirts
Wear this eye-catching, fun, and educational shirt.  Your friends will laugh as they read "Can I Kiss You?" across the front of your shirt and then they will say, "Wow!" when you respond with, "Hey, did you read the back of the shirt?  The back of the shirt says, 'Do You Ask?' Take One Moment to Care?  Do You?"
Pick your shirt size out today for only $15.00 -- just click here.

Can I Kiss You? Tattoos
These popular and catchy temporary tattoos are huge hits across the country.  Promote this unique and poweful message with a truly fun approach.  Each tattoo is 1.5 inches by 1.5 inches -- great for you to wear on your cheeks, hands, arms, and easily visible locations (and then wash right off)!  Get 200 tattoos for only $25 and share them with your friends!  Click here to purchase now.

Voices of Courage takes you from tragedy to triumph.  Inspiring lessons unfold in this one-of-a-kind book by twelve survivors of sexual assault.  An eye-opening journal of personal growth and recovery, Voices of Courage will forever change your perspective on life after a sexual assault.   Each of the 12 chapters is a different survivor of sexual assault's personal journey to survival.  Don't miss out on this one-of-a-kind book!  Plus, All profits go to organizations addressing sexual assault!  Only $15 -- Click here to buy now.

 
"Asking First" Fun & Powerful Poster Series

Check out this sensational poster series for students (both high school and college students).  The images and the messages get everyone talking.  The set is 12 different posters from all different viewpoints (genders, cultures, etc...).  To see all 12 posters, go directly to www.doyouask.org.
                                                

 

Spread the PLEDGE!!!  

Will you help us make a difference?  E-mail and post this site (www.myspace.com/datesafe) to as many places as possible on the internet.  Tell everyone on myspace to come here to sign the "Pledge to Protect."  Spread the word so that we can get over 100,000 people to sign the "Pledge to Protect" by the end of this year (2006).  Read the pledge below.  If you agree with the pledge, please post a comment on this page saying, "I Pledge to Protect!"  Here is the pledge:

PLEDGE TO PROTECT..RM..

I, ___________________________, pledge to do my best to protect my family, friends, and peers in potentially dangerous situations where drugs, alcohol, a violent person, or other threats to their safety and well-being are present. I will do this by having the focus and self-control necessary to remain aware of my surroundings, the wisdom to identify dangerous situations, and the courage to confront my friends when their judgment is impaired.

I recognize that these dangerous situations may arise at times when people feel safe and comfortable, such as at bars, parties, or in the context of a romantic relationship, and I realize that it may not always be easy to protect people from harm in these situations (example: when alcohol is influencing the situation and a person is trying to ?hook up? with another individual). By remaining watchful and showing care and concern, I may help to prevent a sexual assault from occurring.

I understand that the ONLY person responsible for a sexual assault is the person who engages in sexual contact without the consent of the other person. Through my own positive words, actions, and beliefs, I am taking the responsibility of helping to end sexual assault. I will share with people the importance of consent and the need to obtain consent with your partner. I will inform all of my family, friends, and peers that if anyone ever sexually touches them without their consent, I will fully support them (from simply listening to helping them seek support from proper professionals). I will treat all survivors of sexual assault with my respect and admiration. Sexual assault is a horrific and traumatic crime. My active commitment to this project will help reduce the violence in my community and create a safer atmosphere for everyone.

Sign this agreement Right Now by posting a message on this page that says, "I Pledge to Protect."

Remember the goal -- 100,000 people posting the message "I Pledge to Protect" on this myspace page.  Post your message right now!

 

Who I'd like to meet:

People who care about respect, consent, safe intimacy, and healthy relationships. Individuals and organizations who believe in supporting survivors by giving them our admiration.

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  • Status: Married
  • Hometown: United States of America
  • Zodiac Sign: Aquarius

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