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Let me share my testimony as I tell how God called me out of homosexuality. I believe that what God has done for me, He can also do for you.
If you are struggling with homosexuality, I'm living proof that there is hope through Jesus Christ.
I can offer insight and help provide resources for those seeking a way out.
Visit my MYSPACE page. http://www.myspace.com/jbministries
Please take a few minutes and watch the Testimony of Janet Boynes on the 700 Club
VENUS MAGAZINE WAS A PREMIER LESBIAN MAGAZINE TARGETING THE AFRICAN AMERICAN GAY AND LESBIAN COMMUNITY.
NOW THE CREATOR AND PUBLISHER CHARLENE E. COTHRAN HAS "COME OUT" AND WALKING IN VICTORY AND NOW USING VENUS MAGAZINE TO SHARE THE GOSPEL OF THE KINGDOM.
WWW.VENUSMAGAZINE.ORG
“June is a month of celebration for the gay community all over the world. I am honored that CBN has chosen this week to broadcast my story on The 700 Club!
I pray that my testimony will fall on the ears and into the spirits of those
struggling to leave the gay lifestyle. There IS a way out!”
- Charlene E. Cothran , Editor/Publisher, Venus Magazine -
CHARLENE COTHRAN 700 CLUB INTERVIEW
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TO READ CHARLENE COTHRAN'S TESTIMONY "Redeemed! 10 Ways to Get Out of the Gay Life, If You Want Out"
VISIT THE VENUS MAGAZINE WEBSITE OR VISIT Selena(A Former Lesbian's)MYSPACE BLOG.
PASTOR D.L. FOSTER:FOUNDER OF WITNESS FOR THE WORLD AND AUTHOR OF "TOUCHING A DEAD MAN". HE IS ONE WHO WALKS IN VICTORY OVER HOMOSEXUALITY.
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JOIN PASTOR D. L. FOSTER ON BLOGTALK "SEXUALITY AND THE WORD" EVERY WED. FROM 1:00-1:30 P.M. EASTERN TIME CALL IN AND TALK (646) 716-4996
PLEASE TAKE A FEW MINUTES TO WATCH THIS VIDEO BY
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WITNESS! exists to bring alive the message of freedom from homosexuality through the power of the Lord Jesus Christ by exalting a dymanic profile of the grace of God. Our aim is to purposefully create a community of overcoming overcomers who are not ashamed of God's deliverance. WITNESS! unapolegetically seeks to evangelize, equip and educate, impact and influence.
JUST AS GOD HAS EMPOWERED THE CATERPILLAR TO CHANGE INTO A BEAUTIFUL NEW CREATION, HE EMPOWERS ALL WHO TRUST HIM TO CHANGE INTO NEW CREATIONS. 2 CORINTHIANS 5:17
NO ONE CHOOSES TO HAVE SAME SEX ATTRACTIONS BUT ALL CAN CHOOSE TO CHANGE.
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From Homosexuality to Holiness
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"My People perish for lack of knowledge..." Hosea 4:6 The word perish in this scripture means "cut off". You are CUT OFF from what you don't know. It is my desire to help Christians who Struggle with UNWANTED homosexual desires to connect to resources that will provide information needed to walk in freedom.
Someone can deposit one million dollars in an account for you today but until you are notified of your millions you are CUT OFF from your money. You are cut off from what you don't know. It is important for anyone who wants to walk in victory over any habitual sin to spend time with God in prayer and in His Word so that you might learn more about God, yourself and others. For those of us who choose not to live as homosexuals it is important to learn as much as we can about homosexuality from a Christian perspective. Some say, "what is wrong with two people loving each other? God couldn't possibly see anything wrong with two men or two women in a loving relationship. God is a God of love." The Word of God says, "There is a way that seems right... but the end thereof is death." We must learn to love and be loved God's Way.
GOD LOVES YOU!
The Rainbow is a token of God's Faithfulness. The next time you see a rainbow remember that God is not a man that He should lie nor the son of man that He should repent. If God promised it, it shall come to pass. Trust in the LORD with ALL your heart and He will direct your path.
WWW.PEOPLECANCHANGE.COM
NO ONE CHOOSES TO HAVE SAME-SEX ATRACTIONS
ANYONE CAN DECIDE TO CHANGE!
IT’S YOUR LIFE AND YOUR DECISION!
The Door of Hope
"Jesus said, 'I am the door'"
(John 10:7).
This 60-Day interactive course will teach you to enjoy a newfound relationship with the Lord and how to find freedom from homosexuality. It is possible, and you can learn how.
Enroll today vist WWW.SETTINGCAPTIVESFREE.COM
I COMPLETED THE DOOR OF HOPE COURSE WHEN I FIRST LEFT THE LIFE AND HIGHLY RECOMMEND THAT YOU DO TOO.
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VISIT THE HOMOSEXUALS ANONYMOUS FELLOWSHIP WEBSITE FOR INFORMATIVE AND INSPIRING ARTCLES FOR OVERCOMING HOMOSEXUALITY.
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THESE BOOKS CAN HELP MAKE THE PROCESS OF CHANGE A LITTLE EASIER.
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VISIT REGENERATION MINISTRIES, WITNESS MINISTRIES, EXODUS AND LOVE ONE OUT (FOCUS ON THE FAMILY) TO BUY BOOKS TO ASSIST YOU IN CHANGE OR IF YOU DESIRE TO ASSIST OTHERS.
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LINDA JERNIGAN AUTHOR OF RESCUING HOMOSEXUALS IN THE HOUSE OF GOD IS FREE INDEED. VISIT WWW.RESCUINGHOMOSEXUALS.COM..HTTP://EXODUS.TO/..
"SUPPORTING THE RIGHT OF HOMOSEXUALS TO CHOOSE CHANGE."
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IF YOU ARE A PARENT, FAMILY MEMBER OR FRIEND OF ONE WHO STRUGGLES OR ONE WHO CLAIMS THE IDENTITY OF GAY, LESBIAN, BISEXUAL OR TRANSGENDER PLEASE CONTACT WITNESS MINISTRIES, EXODUS, PFOX, LOVE ONE OUT (FOCUS ON THE FAMILY) OR LOVE IN ACTION MINISTRIES.
IF YOU ARE A STRUGGLER OR A LOVED ONE OF A GAY IDENTIFIED PERSON AND DESIRE HELP CONTACT ROBERT TAYLOR AND METANOIA MINISTRIES, NEW BEGINNINGS.
BEGINNINGS: Hope & Healing
for Families & Friends of a Gay Loved One
Your lifeline after a loved one says "I'm Gay". Created for those whose loved ones are struggling with homosexuality / gay lifestyle. Encourages and equips families and friends in their faith. Answers to burning questions: What should I do next? What shouldn't I do? Who do I talk to about this? Where is God in all of this?
ROBERT TAYLOR DIRECTOR OF METANOIA MINISTRIES
WWW.METANOIAONLINE.ORG/INDEX.HTM....
JUST AS GOD HAS EMPOWERED THE CATERPILLAR FOR CHANGE INTO A BEAUTIFUL BUTTERFLY, HE EMPOWERS ALL THOSE WHO TRUST HIM FOR CHANGE.
ELDER MB (HIS QUEEN) THE AUTHOR OF "EXPOSING THE HIDDEN TRUTH OF HOMOSEXUALITY" AND ONE WALKING IN VICTORY.
WWW.MYSPACE.COM/DEVILCHASER
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE GAY!
EVANGELIST MIRIAM PASSMORE OUT FOR REAL AND WALKING IN VICTORY. AUTHOR OF "ESCAPING THE GAY LIFESTYLE".
http://www.miriamisout.org/index.html
A dynamic one-day conference on homosexuality that balances truth-in-love with grace and compassion.
Please call
(800) A-FAMILY (232-6459) for more information.
I HAVE ATTENDED A "LOVE ONE OUT" CONFERENCE AND I HIGHLY RECOMMEND THAT YOU DO TOO. TO FIND A CONFERENCE NEAR YOU PLEASE CALL THE NUMBER PROVIDED ABOVE.
Although you might be in a homosexual relationship God cares about you and desires that you not be abused or mistreated. No matter if you identify as "gay" or "straight" God does not desire that you be used as someone's punching bag or the target of someone's anger and self-hatred.
I am sad to say that I abused in my relationships while in "the life". If you are an abuser please get help and stop the abusing. If you are being abused please get help and get out of the relationship.
National Domestic Abuse Hotline (800) 799 - SAFE
FREEDOM!:LIVING MY LIFE LIKE IT'S GOLDEN-JILL SCOTT
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Broken But Not Bound is a wonderful online group created by our friend April.
If you have been molested and in place where you are ready to forgive and walk into your future letting go of the past, join this group.
First and formost is Jesus Christ Who suffered and died and then rose on the third day for me that I might have freedom from sin and the curse of the law.
My mother who is a mighty woman of God, my children who love me unconditionally.
All who have resisted the lie of homosexuality and uncovered the hidden truth that homosexuality is an illsion not able to fulfill the emotional needs God created us with. My heroes are those who have come into the reality that only God is able to fulfill our deep emotional needs and are now learning to love and be loved as God's way.
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SELENA REALLY COMES OUT!
There were times that I told the Lord that if changing my sexual orientation were possible I didn’t want to change, but as time went on and it seemed that the statics that I had heard concerning the longevity of lesbian relationships, which is on the average of five years, I began to say, "God, I don’t want to leave homosexuality because it is the only way I have known love, but if you want me to leave homosexuality, I will." One morning while getting ready for work, I was watching the DayStar Network. They were presenting a week long series of programs posing the question , "is it possible to be Christian and gay?" It was the first time that I had seen any Christian approach the subject of homosexuality in Truth and Compassion. After watching the television program that morning, I decided to walk away from my lesbian life. I have to tell you that I was afraid. In my mind I had tried many times to walk free from homosexuality without success, and I was afraid that I would fail again. I remember what my therapist told me years before, "Selena, insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome".
I knew that if I were to succeed in walking free from my lesbian life, that I was going to have to do things differently this time. I decided to obey God and not only repent for my sin but to begin the process of renewing my mind. I knew that I had to learn to stop having lesbian fantasies and I had to stop all forms of self gratification and learn to allow God to fulfill my deep emotional needs for acceptance, identity, security and purpose. It has been fours year since that day and God has been faithful. It has not always been easy but God is faithful. To read my testimony please visit the
Equipping For Change Ministries website. EFCM does not exist to promote homophobia, but to declare the truth in love. The truth is that no one chooses to have homosexual desires but all who choose to can change.
EFCM exist to assist the Body of Christ to reach out to the gay and lesbian community in truth with compassion. The truth is that homosexuality is a sin but God loves those who experience homosexual desires. He loves those who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender. Even if the person who identifies as gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender chooses not to change, it doesn't not change the fact the homosexuality is a sin nor does it change the fact that God loves the homosexual. Just as God has empowered the caterpillar to change into a beautiful butterfly, He has empowered all those who trust in Jesus Christ to change into His sons and daughters. I dedicate my MySpace page to all Christians who struggle with unwanted homosexual desires. When I went to tell my aunt that I was coming out and living as a lesbian, she spoke a word to me that I have never forgotten. she said, "Selena you are going to come out of homosexuality, and when you do you will bring thousands with you." Eight years after giving me that word, I walked out of homosexuality and have a desire to help other Christians do the same.
If you struggle with unwanted homosexual desires and would like for me to add you to my prayer list please send me a message and it will be an honor and a priviledge to pray for you. I have created EQUIPPING FOR CHANGE MINISTRIES to help those who struggle with UNWANTED homosexual desires to connect to resources needed for change. Please make sure that you visit the websites. You will find great information and be able to read a little more of my testimony and while you are there please sign my guestbook. God bless you and thank you so much for visiting my Myspace page.
Never forget that GOD'S THOUGHTS AND PLANS FOR YOU ARE FOR GOOD AND NOT FOR EVIL...
Jeremiah 29:11. GOD TRULY LOVES YOU!
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Every week we will dig out nuggets from God's Word to provide encourgement and insight in experiencing freedom from homosexuality. If you don't struggle with unwanted homosexuality, you are invited to listen that you might gain insight to help you minister graciously in truth with compassion to those that do. All are welcome to listen in.
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Living Single, Celibate and Happy: Another Part of My Testimony
After struggling with same sex desires from childhood I decided at about the age of 42 to live openly as a lesbian.
Just before my 50th birthday I made the decision that homosexuality is an illusion promising what it can never give.
This past April,(2008), I celebrated six years out of the life, I used to feel ashamed that I was so old and it took me so long to finally take God at His Word; but I choose to be a trophy of God’s grace and a witness to the fact that in Jesus no matter how old or how young you are, you can change your life through faith in Jesus Christ.
I am now 56 years old and living single, celibate and happy and for that I am so truly grateful to God my father and to my Elder Brother Jesus Christ Who is my Merciful and Faithful High Priest. I am also grateful to Holy Spirit Who is my Comforter, Teacher, Helper and Leader into all truth. God has been faithful to His Word and Compassionate Nature as He has helped me to learn to live single, celibate and happy.
There was a time that I used to claim that I was celibate but what I wouldn’t tell people is that I had a problem with masturbation, so although I was not having sex with anyone male or female, I was comforting myself through masturbation.
At the same time that I celebrated six years of freedom from homosexuality, I also celebrated six years of freedom from masturbation. When I decided to walk away from my life in homosexuality, I decided to also close the door once and for all on masturbation. I believed that if I continued to masturbate that the door to homosexuality would be kept open.
I had tried to be free from homosexuality in the past and this time as I choose to be free from homosexuality, I knew that there were things that I had to do to help ensure my success in experiencing freedom. One of the things that I had to do to ensure my freedom was to stop masturbating. You have to understand that when I say that I celebrate 6 years of freedom from masturbation that I am not bragging on myself but I am truly grateful to God for His faithfulness in helping me expereince freedom from masturbation.
For in the past in trying to be free from masturbation the longest I had succeeded in living free from was 6 months, so to be free for 6 years is an awesome thing for me.
So when I say that I am single celibate and happy, you can take it to the bank that I am truly single, celibate and happy.
(My son's 4 year old female American Bull Dog, Buddah)
You Can Teach An Old Dog New Tricks: Another addition To My Testimony
There is an old saying that “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks.” What is meant by that is, sometimes people get too old and set in their ways to learn to do things differently.
They compare a person set in their ways to an old dog. My son raises American Bull Dogs so I have been taught and experienced it for myself that it is easier to teach a young dog then it is an old dog. Once an old dog gets conditioned to do things a certain way it is hard to train them to do thing another way.
As I was praying today, I heard the Lord say, “You can teach an old dog new tricks and you are proof of it.
You see, I had just celebrated my 50th birthday about a month before I decided to stop living as a lesbian and learn to live and love God’s way. I will soon be 57 years old and I am continuing to learn to live and love God’s way.
I used to be ashamed of the fact that I was so old when I decided to truly walk free from homosexuality. I have not met very many women my age who formerly identified themselves as lesbian and are now living life as God desires. But almost every day I meet women and men in their late teens and early twenties and even in their thirties who formerly identified as lesbian but now living life God’s way.
I am no longer ashamed of being “old” but I stand as an example to those who have lived a long time in homosexuality who are wondering if it is too late for them; my answer is NO!, it is never too late to begin life anew in Christ Jesus; it is only too late when you are dead.
Being the age that I am has given me the privilege to speak into the lives of young men and women who might not other wise listen to those who are closer to their age.
I thank God that many young women are not waiting until they get my age to decide to live aright for the Lord but I also want to encourage older women and men who are closer to my age that it is never too late. It is never to late to turn from fornication.
You might say, “old people don’t have sex”, and I say wait until you get my age and older.
You will come to understand that your sex drive doesn’t disappear or go into retirement.
The rise in HIV infection among older Americans is proof of that. It is never too late to turn from pornography , it is never too late to stop cheating on your spouse, which the Bible calls adultery. It is never too late to turn from sin to the Living God and learn to live and love His way.
I want to encourage you it is never too late in God to teach an old dog new tricks, for I am proof that it is never too late to turn from sin to the Living God.
Justice and Respect
We do humbly ask forgiveness...
by Pastor Bob Stith
A conservative Christian pastor spoke this repentance (adapted from the confession of a fellow pastor) from the pulpit to an openly gay man who, having returned to Christianity after many years, was visiting his church.
Apology issued by Bob Stith, Pastor, Carroll Baptist Church, on behalf of the church to Steve Shalchlin as a representative of the homosexual community, November, 1998.
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We in the church of the Lord Jesus Christ must acknowledge that by sins of both omission and commission we share responsibility for the struggles and confusion of sexuality in general and of homosexuality in particular.
We have placed an over emphasis on sexual sin and not enough emphasis on freedom and healing of sexual sin. We have often failed to provide either a safe place or a redemptive place for sexual strugglers.
We do humbly ask forgiveness.
We have often failed to truly distinguish the sin from the sinner. Consequently our words and our actions often communicated harshness, condemnation and rejection. Even those genuinely seeking change have at times been met with ridicule or a painful, deafening silence. By categorizing sexual sin in general and homosexual sin in particular as being more loathsome than other sins we've fed the dynamics of shame which have kept many captive.
We do humbly ask forgiveness.
We have not lived in transparency. We have often cloaked our own weakness and pointed instead at the sins of others. We have settled for a form of godliness which manifests respectability but has no power to change the core of our being.
We do humbly ask forgiveness.
We have manifested more of an interest in being right than in being loving and often succeeded in being neither.
We do humbly ask forgiveness.
Ignorance, prejudice and fear have often caused us to draw back from those whose sins are different from our own.
We do humbly ask forgiveness.
When some who desired change sought help we often communicated an expectation of immediate and complete change. When that didn't happen we often became uneasy and drew back from you. We did not acknowledge that growth in Christ is process and not event.
We do humbly ask forgiveness.
Our fear of AIDS has at times caused us to avoid and reject homosexuals in general and AIDS sufferers in particular.
We do humbly ask forgiveness.
We have often failed to present above all other claims and disagreements the Gospel of Jesus Christ to the homosexual community even though the heart of the Father continually calls out to all the children to come home.
We do humbly ask forgiveness.
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WHAT DOES CHANGE INVOLVE?
It is very important to have realistic expectations about the journey out of homosexuality. Sometimes people think that if they pray enough or wish hard enough, their homosexuality will just disappear. This is an unrealistic expectation. Changes in the area of sexual orientation happen as a result of a process that usually involves some hard personal work.
Imagine wanting a vegetable garden. You could pray for years that God would make vegetables grow in your backyard. When nothing happens, you might even decide to be angry with God for not hearing your prayers. However, the reality is that while God can make vegetables grow, we must prepare the soil, plant the seeds, water and weed, and do other work. This gives the best chance that there will be an abundance of vegetables to harvest. In the same way, individuals who want to experience changes in their sexuality must do a lot of work as part of the process. God certainly does His work, and by His Spirit accomplishes things that we cannot do ourselves, but we need to prepare the space in our lives and cooperate with what God wants to do.
How long the process of change from homosexuality to heterosexuality takes depends on a number of factors. These include:
1. The root issues that are involved. The more difficult or complex the underlying factors involved in a person's same-gender attraction, the longer the process of change may take. For example, the process may take longer for a person who has experienced severe sexual abuse in childhood than for someone who has experienced mild sexual abuse.
2. How much support a person has. The more helpful things a person puts in place, the better progress he or she can expect to make. For example, a woman who only attends the support group will most likely make slower progress than another woman who is also in individual counseling, involved in a church fellowship, and has friends with whom she can share what is happening in her life.
3. One's ability and willingness to face difficult personal issues. As the process of change involves facing difficult personal issues and the pain related to these issues, a person's ability and willingness to face these things will affect their rate of progress. Related to willingness is the question of whether a person truly wants change.
It is not unusual for the process of change to take 5-10 years. This is no reason to despair. Significant relief from the intensity of homosexual feelings can also come much sooner. If God is part of the process, He will walk with you, protect you, direct your path, and shine His light into the darkness. Remember the ultimate goal in life is not heterosexuality versus homosexuality, but following God and giving one's life to Him.
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Is This Guaranteed To Work?
As with any deep personal issues which a person may want to change, there are no guaranteed results. No one can promise you that in so-and-so many years, you will experience a complete change of sexual orientation. Many people do experience a complete change of sexual orientation. Where before they were only attracted to the same sex, they are now only attracted to the opposite sex. Other people experience significant progress toward that goal. They may now be fully attracted to the opposite sex and ready for marriage, with very little same-sex attraction remaining. For others, there may be great change in their attraction toward the opposite sex without any change in their attraction to the same sex. Others still may become able to make healthy choices in terms of their behavior yet find that their attractions and desires remain the same. When two people are dealing with the same issue, it is normal to expect different outcomes. So change does happen but we can not guarantee the amount or speed at which change happens.
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The Best Foundation For Embarking on a Journey of Change
1. Life is bigger than sexual orientation. Do not let your desire to leave homosexuality become the primary focus of your life. Do not become obsessed with changing, as this also is unhealthy.
2. God loves you and accepts you as you are today. What you think, feel and do may certainly affect your perception and experience of His love, but His love for you is not conditional on anything you think, feel or do. You do not need to change first, or be perfect, or get straightened out, in order for God to love you.
Sometimes we are tempted to go to one of two extremes. The first extreme says that God loves everybody except for me -- I'm not good enough. This is simply a lie. No one is "good enough" for God to love them, yet because God created us, He loves each of us. The Bible says "while we were still sinners Jesus died for us..." (Romans 5:8). God loves us in the midst of our brokenness and sinfulness. To go to the other extreme of saying that God loves me exactly as I am and therefore I do not have to be open to the change He wants to bring in my life, is not true either. God loves us as we are, but loves us too much to leave us this way. He wants to bring us into wholeness and into an even greater understanding of what it means to be His son or daughter.
Part of knowing that God truly loves us and accepts us is coming to love and accept ourselves as we are today. We need to accept the part of ourselves that experiences same-gender attraction, and work toward meeting the legitimate needs and resolving the hurts that have brought about such an attraction.
3. You do not have to identify yourself according to sexual orientation. From a Christian perspective, a person's primary identity is as a well-loved child of God. That is who you really are, whether or not you know it at this point. You do not have to use a label such as gay or lesbian. Instead of saying "this is who I am," you can describe what you feel or experience with a simple statement such as "I am dealing with homosexual feelings," "I am attracted to other men/women," or "I experience same-gender attraction."
Especially when the process of change is discouraging, and at times it will be, it is important to remember that we belong to God and nothing can take us away from Him. That reality can help us keep the right perspective and keeps us focused on God's goodness and love to us, and His faithfulness to us in all circumstances.
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For many people, change happens as we effectively do two things:
1. We need to deal with the root issues of our homosexual attractions. These are the negative and damaging events and dynamics of childhood, such as sexual abuse, rejection, deficits in our relationship with our parents, shaming, etc. While we cannot change what happened, we can change how it affects us today and how we understand what happened.
2. As the root issues are being resolved, we also need to undo unhealthy patterns of living and thinking and learn new ones instead.
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The Process of Change
1. The process of change is both different and the same for everyone. Each person has a unique personality, personal history, support system, and so on. At the same time, there are many common threads that run through most people's process of change. Childhood sexual abuse and issues with one's father or mother are two common roots that need to be worked through by many men and women. A feeling of being somehow "different" and accepting the labels that peers put on this different-ness is also a common story.
2. Change happens in the three areas of behavior, fantasy, and attraction. As change is a process, it is important to realize that change in one area may happen sooner than change in another area. While we can make choices about what we do and what we think about, we have less control over feelings and attractions. Do not be discouraged when one area starts to change and another does not -- this is normal.
3. Things get worse before they get better. As we begin to work through difficult issues from the past, there is often much pain to face. Things may seem worse simply because we are starting to face past issues which before we ignored or denied.
God is faithful to guide us to the right people, church, friends, resources and other things that we need on this journey. And most of all, He himself walks with us!
This article is derived from the article “Getting Out: Some things you should know about the journey out of homosexuality” by New Direction for Life Ministries of Canada. Used with permission.
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COMING HOME:
AN OPEN LETTER TO THE BLACK GAY and LESBIAN COMMUNITY
Dear Brothers and Sisters,
Is there a longing in your heart to come home? Has your struggle with sexuality kept you from the relational blessings of God? If so, it's time for a change. As your brothers and sisters who have had like experiences dealing with sexuality, we are offering you our help to make it back to that place where you used to be with God. Or if you have never experienced the joy of knowing Him, we invite you to read on.
Gospel music pioneer Andrae Crouch sang a song many of us heard growing up. Do you remember it?
"Take me back, Take me back Dear Lord, to the place where I first received you."
We're alike, we're different
Perhaps more than anyone else, we understand the pain that you may have suffered at the hands of people who said they represented God, but failed to give you the compassion, love and acceptance you needed to overcome the wounding in your heart. We know how it feels to sit in churches where you are the object of ridicule and scorn. We can identify with the intense struggle not to give in to something your heart knows is wrong, but your body feels is right. We take this opportunity to call on every African American church to stop contributing to the anguish and suffering of sexually confused black men and women and begin promoting healing through the ministry of reconciliation.
Yet the church and its oft times wayward characterizations of gays and lesbians are not your only problem. In your own community many of the new HIV infections are in men of color. Hundreds more are dying silently of AIDS as a result of shame, guilt and self-embraced ignorance. Far too many of those men continue to have condomless sex without disclosing the fact that they are infected.
Sex parties and pornography exploit the loneliness many same-sex attracted individuals experience. While white gays continue to make advances politically, financially and educationally, black gays struggle for basic equality in the gay community. Unfortunately, white gay racism and elitism continues to grow. On top of all of this are substance abuses and sexual fetishes which reduce the quality of life.
For financial gain, some misguided therapists have spread falsehoods about "sexual orientation." To date, there has been no credible scientific or biological causation for sexual orientation. Studies conducted by individuals with a predisposed agenda have been proven many times over to be false. We believe this is a primary source of the suffering of same-sex attracted people. Lies delay healing but truth brings freedom. Accepting a lie keeps you in rebellion. In a rebellious state there can be no peace with God. If you truly want to save your lives, don't take it into your own hands, submit yourself to God.
It's a journey many of us as former gays and lesbians have had to walk through. That's why we are making a special effort to reach out to you who may not have heard that the choice to change is still available to you. Please understand that the challenges facing you are not entirely caused by "homophobia" and hate. And please know that the way to escape those problems is not necessarily by "coming out."
We know that the hype surrounding homosexuality is at a breaking point. Both sides have become polarized and extremes have formed. Accusations, unfair portrayals and stubborn anger has kept too many men and women from getting back home. It's time for a change. You deserve a better life and you can have it.
Coming home means coming out
We have to let you know that getting home won't be easy. Despite what you may have heard about "instant deliverance" and "miraculous breakthroughs" we've discovered that God is a Father who purposely teaches His children through process. Coming back to Him regardless of how many years you have been "in the wilderness" of homosexual living will require committment and endurance. Coming out of homosexuality may be one of the most difficult things you have ever done, but difficult is not synonymous with impossible. God specializes in things which man thinks are impossible.
Our ministries to the sexually broken are a simply a labor of love. Therefore, our letter makes no specific political or denominational claims. It seeks no financial gains, but is birthed out of a heartfelt desitre to show you a better way to live.
For those who would reject our invitations to find peace, we say that you have a human right to be gay or lesbian. If that's your choice then we accept that. But we want you to know that you have a greater spiritual right to be free. The choice is yours. Please don't stand in the way of those who no longer want to see themselves as gay or lesbian. Don't take away their choice to change.
We also understand and acknowledge that the term "exgay" may be misleading. It's not our intention to pretend that we are completely healed or that all of our past dysfunctions have evaporated into thin air. Yet, while the term "exgay" does not adequately convey the process of change that we are going through, our living, thinking and desires have undergone drastic transformation.
Booker T. Washington said, "Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome while trying to succeed." We can testify that we are new creations in Christ, we are no longer slaves to our former passions.
We no longer desire to live or identify as gay, lesbian, same gender loving or anything which calls attention to bodily passions. Rather we have a new identity in Christ and our future and hope is secure in that identity.
If you choose to, coming out of homosexuality will mean:
Submission to Christ's authority
Dealing with the roots of your sexuality issues
Being honest and accountable for your actions
Having a heart that is willing to acknowledge when you're wrong and then repenting
Accepting the grace of God as sufficiency for your sins
Planting yourself in a fellowship which embraces a balanced approach to overcoming
In short, the opposite of homosexuality is not heterosexuality but holiness (emotional, sexual and spiritual living which is pure and whole). That's the goal. That's the mark. And that's our passion.
"I feel that I'm so far from you Lord, yet I hear you calling me."
He is calling you. You've heard him while dancing at the club. You've heard him in the quiet of your home. Perhaps in the midst of doing what you've become sick of doing, you've heard Him calling you to come home. We're here to let you know that coming home is only a prayer away. We don't have all the answers, but we do have the most important one: God's loves you unconditionally.
Haven't you felt that feeling stirring inside you? It's the Holy Spirit urging you to answer God. We too, have been at that place where things and people could no longer satisfy. Not another lover. Not another drink. Not another club. Not another affirming seminar. Not another pride parade. Not another house party. It left us feeling empty, cold and just as rejected as the day we first assumed our gay identities.
If you are "same gender loving", we respectfully believe that's not God's will for you. We feel that loving someone of the same gender produces nothing fruitful or life-giving. It reflects nothing in creation, life or God's natural order and holds no possibility of continuation. God's will is that you grow, prosper and produce the fruit of right relationships. Many gays have attempted to reach these goals by alternative efforts but realbut real life should be lived with real results.
The co-signers of this letter, comprised of former homosexuals and those others who support our mission are united in our desire to present such opportunities for change. Please contact someone at one of the resources listed below and let them know you're ready to come home. We'll leave the light on for you.
In the love of Christ,
Pastor and Mrs. DL Foster, Atlanta
Kevin D. Giles, Los Angeles
Pastor Mike Lumberger, Pittsburgh Mignon Middleton, Washington DC
Min Marjorie Ellis, JD, LCPC Decatur, GA
Rev Robert Coggins, Atlanta
Kimberly Williams, Los Angeles
Mrs. Gwendolyn Shuman Fox, Atlanta
Rev Jerry E. Martin, II, Atlanta
Zalee Harris, Temple Hills, MD
Jacque Trim, McMinnville, TN
Elder and Mrs. Roger Ford, Chicago
Evangelist Miriam Passmore, Miami
Dr. John Diggs, Jr, MD, South Hadley, MA
Linda Carter, Mobile, AL
June R. Forbes, Richmond, VA
Elder Cheryl North, Gary, IN
Jackie Rice, Washington, DC
Pastor Victoria Jones, San Jose, CA
(WRITTEN BY PASTOR D.L.FOSTER FOUNDER OF WITNESS FOR THE WORLD. www.witnessfortheworld.org)
PASTOR D.L. FOSTER FOUNDER OF WITNESS FOR THE WORLD
If you desire to live in freedom from homosexuality, please consider being a part of Pastor Foster's "The system 2008. Watch the video below then Visit http:www.witnessfortheworld.org for more information.
UNDERSTANDING HOMOSEXUALITY
by Andrew Comiskey
Homosexual behavior is an attempt to fulfill normal needs for love, acceptance, and identity through sexual intimacy with someone of the same sex. Although the factors that
There is a Pause in the
Segment Towards the end. There was Warfare ...as you listen you will understand
why. As the Lord Moves us into Our Break Through Season, ALL Devices,
Strategies and the Schemes of the Enemy are Being Exposed and Annihilated.
Search yourself and Be LIBERATED.
RAMONA
And then don't ever forget my promises . I'm real and love you will all I am . This is for you . Feel me in your heart . Then you know I'm talking to you . AND ONLY YOU . Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me. In times of trouble,Can I tell you something… draw closer to me and listen to my words. Pay close attention cause I don’t want you to miss a single thing I have to say. I know I speak softly. I designed it this way so only my children would hear my voice. There are many voices going out into the world, many are shouts and some are barely heard, but there is only one heart whisper. It is my heart whisper and I wish to speak to you now dear child. Gather round, closer still, so that my presence surrounds you. You have been wounded, I know, but I also have deeply missed you. My desire is for you to know how deep, how wide, how far reaching my love extends towards you. My desire is for you to experience my grace on a level you have not known. My desire is for you to succeed above your expectations. I am calling you to something greater than yourself. It won’t be easy, but see that I have forewarned you. To make this happen, I am increasing your heart, if you let me. I will increase your heart and those things you see,
[6] And this is love, that we walk after his commandments. This is the commandment, That, as ye have heard from the beginning, ye should walk in it. [7] For many deceivers are entered into the world, who confess not that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh. This is a deceiver and an antichrist. [8] Look to yourselves, that we lose not those things which we have wrought, but that we receive a full reward. [9] Whosoever transgresseth, and abideth not in the doctrine of Christ, hath not God. He that abideth in the doctrine of Christ, he hath both the Father and the Son.
What an AWESOME Time in the Lord.... Prophet Cobey,
Minister Lawanda and I were Truly in the Presence of the Lord as WE
AGREED for Real Change. Warning Came yet the Love of Christ Will Prevailed.
THIS IS A WELCOME BACK SHOW FOR PROPHET COBEY FARMER. WE WILL BE TALKING ABOUT
STAYING TRUE TO GOD NO MATTER WHAT AND WATCH FOR THE TRAPS.
Stay Strong and Continue to Press in. The Battles and Issues
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You have been Given Favor over Money. Like back in the Day...At the end of the
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ADMINISTRATIVE PLACEMENT (GRACE) Thirdly, are those who Failed but (MERCY)
requires Summer School so that you may Prepare for the next school term and the
curriculum will be adjusted to your ability so that you may learn and Pass.
Some times set backs are set ups so do Not allow your Failures to define
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Greatness. Even the Failure has the Favor, Mercy and Grace of God accompanying
it Most failures are Product of improper testing or the absence of testing
before pursuing higher learning. That is why the Holy Spirit is OUR Teacher; He
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but Understanding). As I rest in the Teaching Realm for this hour, the Lord has
shown me that Many battles are due to Shortcuts, which have occurred in the
Education system both Naturally and Spiritually. So to those who grew up like
me; If you can, Thank the Teachers who pushed you BEYOND the Norm. But Praise
God for Keeping You Balanced. Failures are Delays NOT Denials. Don’t Give Up!!!
"IF YOU WANT TO BE USED GREATLY, YOU WILL BE WOUNDED DEEPLY"
Matthew 5:11-13 (KJV) "Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake. Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you."
John 15:20 (KJV) "Remember the word that I said unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord. If they have persecuted me, they will also persecute you; if they have kept my saying, they will keep yours also."
1 Peter 1:3-9 "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, which according to his abundant mercy hath begotten us again unto a lively hope by the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to an inheritance incorruptible, and undefiled, and that fadeth not away, reserved in heaven for you,who are kept by the power of God through faith unto salvation ready to be revealed in the last time. Wherein ye greatly rejoice, though now for a season, if need be, ye are in heaviness through manifold temptations: That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found u
OVERCOMER’S SEMINAR A Vision For Wilmington Ministries Invites You to come and participate in the growth and freedom of your “SOUL”.
Topic will include: a. Inter-healing. b. Works of the flesh. c. Soul ties. d. Understanding double-mindedness. e. Spiritual warfare. f. Deliverance from the power of darkness.
For two weeks: Monday - Friday 8:30am to10:00am. July 6, Through 17. Speaker Pastor Fred. (FREE). Where: 629 N. Avalon Bvld. Suite E. Wilmington Ca, 90744. Contact: At (310) 713-9877
Psalm 103:6... The LORD execute righteousness and judgment for all that are oppressed.
We have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.
When thou liest down, thou shalt not be afraid: yea, thou shalt lie down, and thy sleep shall be sweet.
Upon this I awaked, and beheld; and my sleep was sweet unto me. I will refresh those who are weary and will satisfy with food everyone who is weak from hunger. {1Jn 4:16; Pro 3:24; Jer 31:25, 26}
Happy Fourth of July. I thank God for this Nation, no matter what faults it might have, in my opinion it is still the greatest nation of earth. I just want to encourage you as you celebrate the the Birthday of our Nation and it freedom from England, celebrate the New Birth and your freedom from sin. For if Jesus hadn't done what He did there would be no United States of America. If you have never received Jesus Christ as Savior and don't know for sure if you are Born Again and free from sin, please pray the following prayer. God, I know that I have broken your laws and my sins have separated me from you. I am truly sorry, and now I want to turn away from my past sinful life toward you. Please forgive me, and help me avoid sinning again. I believe that your son, Jesus Christ died for my sins, was resurrected from the dead, is alive, and hears my prayer. I invite Jesus to become the Lord of my life, to rule and reign in my heart from this day forward. Please send your Holy Spirit to help me obey You, and to do Your will for the rest of my life. In Jesus' name I pray, Amen.” f you decided to repent of your sins and receive Christ today, welcome to God's family. Now, as a way to grow closer to Him, the Bible tells us to follow up on our commitment. * Get baptized as commanded by Christ. * Tell someone else about your new faith in Christ. * Spend time with God each day. It does not have to be a long period of time. Just develop the daily habit of praying to Him and reading His Word. Ask God to increase your faith and your understanding of the Bible. * Seek fellowship with other followers of Jesus. Develop a group of believing friends to answer your questions and support you. * Find a local church where you can worship God.
Happy Fourth of July. I thank God for this Nation, no matter what faults it might have, in my opinion it is still the greatest nation of earth.
I just want to encourage you as you celebrate the the Birthday of our Nation and it freedom from England, celebrate the New Birth and your freedom from sin. For if Jesus hadn't done what He did there would be no United States of America.
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There is a Pause in the Segment Towards the end. There was Warfare ...as you listen you will understand why. As the Lord Moves us into Our Break Through Season, ALL Devices, Strategies and the Schemes of the Enemy are Being Exposed and Annihilated. Search yourself and Be LIBERATED.
RAMONA
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[6] And this is love, that we walk after his commandments. This is the commandment, That, as ye have heard from the beginning, ye should walk in it.
[7] For many deceivers are entered into the world, who confess not that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh. This is a deceiver and an antichrist.
[8] Look to yourselves, that we lose not those things which we have wrought, but that we receive a full reward.
[9] Whosoever transgresseth, and abideth not in the doctrine of Christ, hath not God. He that abideth in the doctrine of Christ, he hath both the Father and the Son.
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What an AWESOME Time in the Lord.... Prophet Cobey, Minister Lawanda and I were Truly in the Presence of the Lord as WE AGREED for Real Change. Warning Came yet the Love of Christ Will Prevailed.
THIS IS A WELCOME BACK SHOW FOR PROPHET COBEY FARMER. WE WILL BE TALKING ABOUT STAYING TRUE TO GOD NO MATTER WHAT AND WATCH FOR THE TRAPS.
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Stay Strong and Continue to Press in. The Battles and Issues of Life can Only Make You Better...You are an OVERCOMER and You are Blessed. You have been Given Favor over Money. Like back in the Day...At the end of the year, your report card says Pass to the Next Grade. You have PASSED (FAVOR) the Test and did Not Turn Your Back On God. There are others who did just enough , but because they neither Passed Nor failed, God has given them an ADMINISTRATIVE PLACEMENT (GRACE) Thirdly, are those who Failed but (MERCY) requires Summer School so that you may Prepare for the next school term and the curriculum will be adjusted to your ability so that you may learn and Pass. Some times set backs are set ups so do Not allow your Failures to define You…Let them Design You by causing you to wake Up thriving and striving for Greatness. Even the Failure has the Favor, Mercy and Grace of God accompanying it Most failures are Product of improper testing or the absence of testing before pursuing higher learning. That is why the Holy Spirit is OUR Teacher; He will Not just pass us but will Teach us and lead us into ALL Truth (Singular but Understanding). As I rest in the Teaching Realm for this hour, the Lord has shown me that Many battles are due to Shortcuts, which have occurred in the Education system both Naturally and Spiritually. So to those who grew up like me; If you can, Thank the Teachers who pushed you BEYOND the Norm. But Praise God for Keeping You Balanced. Failures are Delays NOT Denials. Don’t Give Up!!!
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A Vision For Wilmington Ministries
Invites
You to come and participate in the growth and freedom of your “SOUL”.
Topic will include:
a. Inter-healing.
b. Works of the flesh.
c. Soul ties.
d. Understanding double-mindedness.
e. Spiritual warfare.
f. Deliverance from the power of darkness.
For two weeks:
Monday - Friday 8:30am to10:00am.
July 6, Through 17.
Speaker Pastor Fred.
(FREE). Where: 629 N. Avalon Bvld. Suite E.
Wilmington Ca, 90744.
Contact: At (310) 713-9877
Psalm 103:6... The LORD execute righteousness and judgment for all that are oppressed.
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We have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.
When thou liest down, thou shalt not be afraid: yea, thou shalt lie down, and thy sleep shall be sweet.
Upon this I awaked, and beheld; and my sleep was sweet unto me. I will refresh those who are weary and will satisfy with food everyone who is weak from hunger. {1Jn 4:16; Pro 3:24; Jer 31:25, 26}
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I just want to encourage you as you celebrate the the Birthday of our Nation and it freedom from England, celebrate the New Birth and your freedom from sin. For if Jesus hadn't done what He did there would be no United States of America.
If you have never received Jesus Christ as Savior and don't know for sure if you are Born Again and free from sin, please pray the following prayer.
God, I know that I have broken your laws and my sins have separated me from you. I am truly sorry, and now I want to turn away from my past sinful life toward you. Please forgive me, and help me avoid sinning again. I believe that your son, Jesus Christ died for my sins, was resurrected from the dead, is alive, and hears my prayer. I invite Jesus to become the Lord of my life, to rule and reign in my heart from this day forward. Please send your Holy Spirit to help me obey You, and to do Your will for the rest of my life. In Jesus' name I pray, Amen.”
f you decided to repent of your sins and receive Christ today, welcome to God's family. Now, as a way to grow closer to Him, the Bible tells us to follow up on our commitment.
* Get baptized as commanded by Christ.
* Tell someone else about your new faith in Christ.
* Spend time with God each day. It does not have to be a long period of time. Just develop the daily habit of praying to Him and reading His Word. Ask God to increase your faith and your understanding of the Bible.
* Seek fellowship with other followers of Jesus. Develop a group of believing friends to answer your questions and support you.
* Find a local church where you can worship God.
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I just want to encourage you as you celebrate the the Birthday of our Nation and it freedom from England, celebrate the New Birth and your freedom from sin. For if Jesus hadn't done what He did there would be no United States of America.
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