Love, Spiritualality & Christianity
Family Time
Movies
Website Creation and Promotion
Designing and Building Loudspeakers
Fixing Cars
Dogs in General
Computers (just so they're fast and I can use them)
Physical Fitness (if I could quit smoking and get my fat butt back to the gym)
Music
I like all sorts of music as long as it's recorded good and I have a cool sound system. My favorite music is probably Contemporary Jazz, cause it's easy to listen to even if it's over a crummy radio. When I'm cranking it up at 120Db I like Classic Rock, Hard Rock, Heavy Metal, Blues, Hip Hop, Dance, Techno, Party Favorites, Orchestral, Classical and Gospel. Country is okay but I can't listen to much of it. Some of my favorite Music Artists and Bands are: Nora Jones, Diana Krall, Dean Martin, Frank Sinatra, The Dave Matthews Band, Madonna, Pink, AC/DC, Aerosmith, Van Halen (with David Lee Roth or Sammy Hagar), Creed, Randy Travis, Alan Jackson, I like the Boston Pops for orchestral and for thrilling vocals it's a toss up between Whitney Houston, Christina Aguilera or that chick from No Doubt.
Movies
I like any kind of movie with a really good story that's easy to understand and makes me feel good. Comedies are cool, but mainly the slapstick kind. Black comedies are too depressing and special effects movies like The Matrix are dumb. Shoot-em up action movies are even worse. Sci-Fis are cool as long as it's a solid story. Some of my favorite movies are "The Cutting Edge", "American Pie 1, 2, 3", Shrek, "I Robot".
Television
Not too big into TV, except for fresh episodes of Smallville. On cable I like the History Channel and Discovery. The "Closer" is pretty good and I kind of like "Saving Grace" as well.
Books
The KJV Holy Bible and Self improvement books that focus on the philosophy or success like Rich Dad Poor Dad or Closing Every Sale. For fiction I like books that make you go hmmm... and question our World as we know it, like the Martian Chronicles or The Outsiders. I used to be big into the Bible and I need to revisit that too.
Heroes
Jesus is my hero. I haven't had any earthly "heroes" for a long time... I suppose if we're talking about mortal child hood heros, I'd have to say my older brother Brett was one, Evel Kneivel another and maybe even Elvis... Even though he was just a cartoon character I really thought Speed Racer was a big influence on my childhood. I suppose I have to give some respect to Sweetness too. I still can't believe Walter Payton is gone. Mike Tyson was a blast to watch when he was kickin' butt - that whole Post Buster Douglas life ruined it for me though!
I'm into helping people... Whether it be my own hobby at home business doing Internet Marketing and website design, or in an employment situation. I love spending time with my family and friends. The Holy Spirit dwells within me, I love Jesus and fear God, who has blessed me with a beautiful wife Tamara and a really great son Kurtis, who we're proud of. Kurtis has a super cool girlfriend named Rebecca. We also have a big-ol' mean Rotty named Deezul.
After some research and self examination I figured out that my perfect job will be harder to find than I thought:
It turns out that my "personality" is one which is considered "INFJ" and shared by an estimated 1-3% of the population. An INFJ is in it's most basic interpretation, a person who exhibits both Introvert (shy) and Extrovert (out-going) traits, combined with a passion for idealism and helping people. Its weird combo that is summed up as "The Counselor", or "The Protector" and is shared among religious leaders, teachers, designers and prophets.
It would seem that even with an incomplete 10th grade education and after nearly 25 years of not being schooled, I have an IQ of 126 categorized as "Superior", which places me in the 95+ percentile range (top 6.5 percent of the population). Some occupations shared by folks with this IQ are presidents, teachers, doctors, lawyers, accountants.
My ideal job personality type is considered: Visionary; Because I could be a visionary in many people's eyes — able to think outside the box and to come up with my own solutions. I'm creative not necessarily in the artistic sense, but because I can expand my mind to do things differently from others, which unfortunately takes a while for colleagues to recognize and/or reward me for my entrepreneurial spirit and abilities before I am hated and despised! That could be because they envy me, or because they find my ideas rebellious because I am willing to go against the current status quo. All in all, I make it hard for people to pigeon hole me. That is why I, more than others, need a job that allows me to play to my strengths, break out of the mold, and truly excel.
According to a career test, I need to stay focused on Counseling and Guidance Careers which often demand a strong desire to improve the lives of others and need strong interpersonal skills working with people. It may also be important to me to work in a profession where I can be certain my efforts are making a difference.
To sum it up, I'm someone with no education (no degree), in search of a job which requires the intelligence level of a surgeon. My ideal work situation allows me to be creative, analytical and provide guidance to others while finding alternatives to authoritative instruction and processes, (because there is a better way if we look harder), which will ultimately result in helping people if I don't piss everybody off and get fired first! Oh boy :(... That means that at best, I share a combined IQ, Personality and Passion with umhhh... (3% + 6.5% = 9.5% / 2 = 4.75 %), roughly 300,000 other people in the World. When considering that my ideal jobs require much more than a GED, but than compounded by the fact that I'm too honest for decent "no degree jobs" like sales, too unlikable to be anyone popular, too old to start over, too tired and weak to work with my hands, un-talented in singing or art and too broke to get a degree or be a business owner, it makes my choices for earning a living absolutely terrible.
Hmmm, I think I'll see if I can find a "Insanity Test" online. Maybe I could qualify for Social Security... Or run for U.S. President...
Personally, I'm a Perfect Portrait of an INFJ - Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging
(Introverted Intuition with Extraverted Feeling)
As an INFJ, your primary mode of living is focused internally, where you take things in primarily via intuition. Your secondary mode is external, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit with your personal value system.
INFJs are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types.
INFJs place great importance on havings things orderly and systematic in their outer world. They put a lot of energy into identifying the best system for getting things done, and constantly define and re-define the priorities in their lives. On the other hand, INFJs operate within themselves on an intuitive basis which is entirely spontaneous. They know things intuitively, without being able to pinpoint why, and without detailed knowledge of the subject at hand. They are usually right, and they usually know it. Consequently, INFJs put a tremendous amount of faith into their instincts and intuitions. This is something of a conflict between the inner and outer worlds, and may result in the INFJ not being as organized as other Judging types tend to be. Or we may see some signs of disarray in an otherwise orderly tendency, such as a consistently messy desk.
INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They get "feelings" about things and intuitively understand them. As an extreme example, some INFJs report experiences of a psychic nature, such as getting strong feelings about there being a problem with a loved one, and discovering later that they were in a car accident. This is the sort of thing that other types may scorn and scoff at, and the INFJ themself does not really understand their intuition at a level which can be verbalized. Consequently, most INFJs are protective of their inner selves, sharing only what they choose to share when they choose to share it. They are deep, complex individuals, who are quite private and typically difficult to understand. INFJs hold back part of themselves, and can be secretive.
But the INFJ is as genuinely warm as they are complex. INFJs hold a special place in the heart of people who they are close to, who are able to see their special gifts and depth of caring. INFJs are concerned for people's feelings, and try to be gentle to avoid hurting anyone. They are very sensitive to conflict, and cannot tolerate it very well. Situations which are charged with conflict may drive the normally peaceful INFJ into a state of agitation or charged anger. They may tend to internalize conflict into their bodies, and experience health problems when under a lot of stress.
Because the INFJ has such strong intuitive capabilities, they trust their own instincts above all else. This may result in an INFJ stubborness and tendency to ignore other people's opinions. They believe that they're right. On the other hand, INFJ is a perfectionist who doubts that they are living up to their full potential. INFJs are rarely at complete peace with themselves - there's always something else they should be doing to improve themselves and the world around them. They believe in constant growth, and don't often take time to revel in their accomplishments. They have strong value systems, and need to live their lives in accordance with what they feel is right. In deference to the Feeling aspect of their personalities, INFJs are in some ways gentle and easy going. Conversely, they have very high expectations of themselves, and frequently of their families. They don't believe in compromising their ideals.
INFJ is a natural nurturer; patient, devoted and protective. They make loving parents and usually have strong bonds with their offspring. They have high expectations of their children, and push them to be the best that they can be. This can sometimes manifest itself in the INFJ being hard-nosed and stubborn. But generally, children of an INFJ get devoted and sincere parental guidance, combined with deep caring.
In the workplace, the INFJ usually shows up in areas where they can be creative and somewhat independent. They have a natural affinity for art, and many excel in the sciences, where they make use of their intuition. INFJs can also be found in service-oriented professions. They are not good at dealing with minutia or very detailed tasks. The INFJ will either avoid such things, or else go to the other extreme and become enveloped in the details to the extent that they can no longer see the big picture. An INFJ who has gone the route of becoming meticulous about details may be highly critical of other individuals who are not.
The INFJ individual is gifted in ways that other types are not. Life is not necessarily easy for the INFJ, but they are capable of great depth of feeling and personal achievement.
INFJs are warm and affirming people who are usually also deep and complex. They're likely to seek out and promote relationships that are intense and meaningful. They tend to be perfectionists, and are always striving for the Ultimate Relationship. For the most part, this is a positive feature, but sometimes works against the INFJ if they fall into the habit of moving from relationship to relationship, always in search of a more perfect partner. In general, the INFJ is a deeply warm and caring person who is highly invested in the health of their close relationships, and puts forth a lot of effort to make them positive. They are valued by those close to them for these special qualities. They seek long-term, lifelong relationships, although they don't always find them.
Warm and affirming by nature
Dedicated to achieving the ultimate relationship
Sensitive and concerned for others' feelings
Usually have good communication skills, especially written
Take their commitments very seriously, and seek lifelong relationships
Have very high expectations for themselves and others (both a strength and weakness)
Good listeners
Are able to move .. a relationship has ended (once they're sure it's over)
Tendency to hold back part of themselves
Not good with money or practical day-to-day life necessities
Extreme dislike of conflict and criticism
Have very high expectations for themselves and others (both a strength and weakness)
Have difficulty leaving a bad relationship
INFJs as Lovers
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"To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before." -- Rollo May
INFJs are warm, considerate partners who feel great depth of love for their partners. They enjoy showing this love, and want to receive affirmation back from their mates.
They are perfectionists, constantly striving to achieve the Perfect Relationship. This can sometimes be frustrating to their mates, who may feel put upon by the INFJs demanding perfectionism. However, it may also be greatly appreciated, because it indicates a sincere commitment to the relationship, and a depth of caring which is not usually present in other types.
Sexually, INFJs view intimacy as a nearly spiritual experience. They embrace the opportunity to bond heart and soul with their mates. As service-oriented individuals, it's very important to them that their mates are happy. Intimacy is an opportunity for the INFJ to selflessly give their love, and experience it in a tangible way.
Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, INFJ's natural partner is the ENTP, or the ENFP. INFJ's dominant function of Introverted Intuition is best matched with a personality type that is dominated by Extraverted Intuition. How did we arrive at this?
INFJs as Parents
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"You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth...
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable." -- Kahlil Gibran
INFJs usually make warm and caring parents. Their goal is to help their children become adults who know the difference between right and wrong, and who are independent, growth-oriented individuals.
Along the path to that goal they are generally very warm and caring, and are likely to treat their children as individuals who have a voice in family decisions. They want their children to be able to think for themselves, and make the right decisions. They also can be quite demanding on their children, and may have very high expectations for their behavior. Although they are generally soft-spoken and gentle, they may become stubborn and sharp-tongued at times when their expectations aren't met, or when under a lot of stress.
INFJs take their parenting role with ultimate seriousness. They will make sacrifices for the sake of their children without a second thought, and without remorse. Passing on their values to their children is a serious priority in their lives. Children of INFJs remember their parents fondly as warm, patient, and inspirational.
INFJs as Friends
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Although the INFJ is likely to put friends behind their God and their families in terms of importance, they do value their friendships. As idealists who have strong value systems, INFJs seek authenticity and depth in their close relationships, and especially value people who can see and appreciate the INFJ for who they are and what they stand for.
The INFJ is likely to spend a lot of time socialing with family members. If they are religious, they probably are social with members of their religious community. After that, the INFJ may have friends represented from any of the personality types. They are usually extremely intuitive individuals, who will have no patience for anyone they feel is dishonest or corrupt. They'll have no interest in being around these kinds of people.
All kinds of people are drawn towards the INFJ. They are usually quite popular, although they may be unaware of it themselves, because they don't place a lot of importance on it.
The INFJ is valued by their close friends for their warmth and consideration, their new and interesting ways of looking at things, and for their ability to inspire and motivate others to be the best that they can be. genuine article that they are.
Careers for INFJ Personality Types
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Whether you're a young adult trying to find your place in the world, or a not-so-young adult trying to find out if you're moving along the right path, it's important to understand yourself and the personality traits which will impact your likeliness to succeed or fail at various careers. It's equally important to understand what is really important to you. When armed with an understanding of your strengths and weaknesses, and an awareness of what you truly value, you are in an excellent position to pick a career which you will find rewarding.
INFJs generally have the following traits:
Intuitively understand people and situations
Idealistic
Highly principled
Complex and deep
Natural leaders
Sensitive and compassionate towards people
Service-oriented
Future-oriented
Value deep, authentic relationships
Reserved about expressing their true selves
Dislike dealing with details unless they enhance or promote their vision
Constantly seeking meaning and purpose in everything
Creative and visionary
Intense and tightly-wound
Can work logically and rationally - use their intuition to understand the goal and work backwards towards it
The INFJ is a special individual who needs more out of a career than a job. They need to feel as if everything they do in their lives is in sync with their strong value systems - with what they believe to be right. Accordingly, the INFJ should choose a career in which they're able to live their daily lives in accordance with their deeply-held principles, and which supports them in their life quest to be doing something meaningful. Since INFJs have such strong value systems, and persistent intuitive visions which lend them a sense of "knowing", they do best in positions in which they are leaders, rather than followers. Although they can happily follow individuals who are leading in a direction which the INFJ fully supports, they will very unhappy following in any other situation.
Possible Career Paths for the INFJ:
Clergy / Religious Work
Teachers
Medical Doctors / Dentists
Alternative Health Care Practitioners, i.e. Chiropractor, Reflexologist
Psychologists
Psychiatrists
Counselors and Social Workers
Musicians and Artists
Photographers
Child Care / Early Childhood Development
My Dark Side... Yes, I certainly do have one of these. Don't let it frighten you though. I'd like to believe it's compeltely normal and resultant of years of struggling to get by honestly. I manage to make do and won't let you down. If anything, I feel that what I do, and what you do trule matters and adds some spice to an otherwise failing humanity we have here in America, home of the brave land of the broke. Honestly... How much longer do people think that America can continue in his downward spiral of white collar corruption, government deception and overall greedy and selfish ways? Some people say "forever", not realizing that we've only had this amazing melting pot for a little over 200 years. Old civilizations like the Romans and othes were around for much longer and where are they now? See what I mean? If you run something into the ground long enough, it's bound to break.
The economy is horrible right now, especially in the Chicago area where it seems that 20 somethings with no real-life experience, but who have college degrees, are the only people with a decent shot at getting a job. The rest of the job market is saturated with under-paying positions entailing sucking-up to people as sales reps or customer service reps. Any of the good skilled trades jobs with matching good payscales are pretty much extinct as company's figure out that if they all work together to lower the common wage they can reduce their expenses and raise profits. Only thing they seem to have forgot, is that people need money to buy their stuff and when people make less, they spend less and round and round this ridiculous economy goes. Our American jobs have been outsourced and the jobs we have left are not only demeaning but offer such a low pay scale that we shop at Big-box stores, which only serves to degrade our economy even more a we send boat-loads of money to foreign countries.
Who I'd like to meet: While I'm on earth, I'd like to meet Bill Gates, Donald Trump, Madonna and a bunch of other self made people. When my time is done here I want to meet Jesus.
