James Lingerfelt

About me:

I am 29 years old, was married almost five years now to no good, unrepentant, lying, cheating excuse of a wife. We are getting divorced because of irreconcilable differences, she thought it was ok to sleep with another man, I couldn't reconcile that. I was willing to work on things if she was willing to admit she had made a mistake, but alas she insists that he is just a friend and defends his identity and her actions. I always thought marriage was important that it was a bond that while fragile at times could always be saved with dedication and hard work. So she doesn't want him to get dragged into this, but she has kissed him and who knows what else, and she knows what she did was wrong, but won't admit it because that would make her a bad person, and so she will continue to act as if she did nothing wrong and that I am a bad guy, so that she can feel good about herself. She has issues from her childhood she needs counseling for, things that she never dealt with from her parents divorce and now she is just repeating the same mistakes. Thinking her life isn't good enough and wanting that to change over night, so she is looking for a daddy. I was never here to be her daddy, I was here to be her husband, I tried to support her in the tough times, but somewhere along the way she stopped telling me when she was having a hard time, so now we move on. I have no illusions that we will end up good friends down the road, as soon as the separation is legal I look for her affair to come out in the open, why would she have a need to hide it. And once it is truly clear proof positive that she has done this, why would I want to be friends with someone that could do something like that to someone they claim to care about. I have heard that she wanted to see me cry, that she takes some twisted pleasure in the turmoil she has caused. She will not see me cry, because there are no tears, I am dry, there are no tears left for our marriage. I am looking for someone who is able to appreciate the person I am and respect me, not belittle me to her friends but talk to me when they have a problem with me. She has told me she didn't tell me what she had done with him because she didn't want me imagining it, but then said nothing has happened, seems she is lying to herself as much as to me. Go read her blog, she only has one it's called stupid people and how she hates when someone needs you they are with you and when they find someone they like better they are with them and don't even tell you to your face. With her actions it is the most hypocritical thing I have ever read. We have a son named D.J. I have one brother, Josh who is married with two children. My mom and dad are Fredda and Albert. I work with my cousin John, we own L&H Monuments where we make tombstones. I love to read, play airsoft, watch football and nascar, and listen to music.