I live in Underhill, Vermont. I lost my thirteen year old son, Ryan, to suicide on October 7, 2003. At the time of his death, Ryan was a student at a middle school in Essex Junction, VT. It was revealed in much greater detail after Ryan’s death that he was ridiculed and humiliated by peers at school and on-line.
In memory of Ryan and in just a few months after Ryan’s death, I spearheaded the Vermont Bully Prevention bill H.629 during the 2004 legislative session which was signed into law as ACT117 on May 18, 2004. He also successfully led the passage of bill H.630 pertaining to suicide prevention education in public schools during the 2006 Vermont legislative session which became ACT 114.
I became outspoken about the need for more education and prevention of bullying, cyber bullying and teen suicide throughout the United States and Canada. Ryan's story and the accomplishments in response to this tragedy have been told world-wide by countless print and TV media such as the CBS Morning Show, CNN, Inside Edition, Good Morning America and radio programs including the BBC World Radio and NPR. Primetime with Diane Sawyer devoted an entire episode to cyber bullying and Ryan’s story on September 14, 2006 called “Cruel Intentions.” My wife Kelly and I also appeared in the PBS Frontline special called “Growing Up On-line.”
My ninety minutes student assembly presentation begins with a short video collection of home movie clips and still pictures of Ryan as a way of introducing Ryan to them. I then begin to tell the story of Ryan’s life and the factors that led up to his suicide. The audience gains a perspective from inside a family of a child who is a victim of bullying and cyber bullying. They also gain a deeper understanding of the devastating impact of a teen suicide on a family. There are many powerful life lessons imparted, including forgiveness and finding ways to turn a tragedy into change and hope for others. Thirty minutes at the end are set aside so the audience has the opportunity to ask questions. I have been told by administrators after every presentation that they have never witnessed before a speaker who captured and held their students’ attention so completely and had such a lasting impact too.
I encourage you to visit a website named for Ryan: http://www.ryanpatrickhalligan.org for more information.
John, Thank you for everything you've done. You've truly made an enormous impact on my life and with that I give all the thank you's in the world to you and your family. Best of wishes, Alexis
hey jon, i was looking on ryans page and i notice how you turned this sad depressing story into something really amazing i am glad that you have made a difference in somebodys life i will never be the same after hearing that story (its a good thing ) thanks again sooo much for all you have DONE! I WILL NEVER FORGET YOU OR YOUR SPEECH!!
P.S. THANK YOU FOR MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN MY LIFE!
Hello Mr. Halligan! Im so very sorry for your lose but I believe God now uses your son as an example. It teaches us that we shouldnt bully. And admit I can be mean at times and when you came to Henry County Ky that encouraged me to stop. Thank you so much! God bless you!
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So you came to BFA Fairfax twice and every time I was amazed by the intensity of yours and ryans story. I enjoyed every visit and I hope you really made a difference!
you went to my school and talked about ryan your son. and i would of cryed on the stage. i cried on the video. your son prob saved a lot of lifes right now, everyone changing because of this story your telling everyone. your doing a great thing. i suppert "to write love on her arm" and after your story.. my life changed. now i help people, this girl had probs at my school and i helped her. and she thanked me and it felt good inside. i say hi to people with heads down in the halls. because the word "hi" can change someones day. this girl wanted to die. i sat down and helped her. i told her story's i knew from people who comited suside in my life. For people that have tempter probs, i told them to get your angrer at something your good at. like sports. Im a 13 year old that plays hockey on the ice, i feel proud of what i have done and i'm gonna do it for the rest of my life. a lot of people out there are looking up to your stories. Im sorry about your son..i'm gonna keep helping people. i want to help... one of my goals is to make a girl in rehab have a smile on his/her face i know you have a lot of stuff to do but this stuff came to my heart and i just wanted to share. this suside stuff needs to stop.. but sometimes you cant control it.. and everyone needs to open their hearts and lend them a hand.. your story changed my life. it be cool is you write back but you million lives to change. thanks, shannon
IM deepley and truley sorry for your loss. Im sure it never gets any easier to tell ryans story. He was an adorable kid. im sure hw would have made it far in life. espceially with you as a father. Yoru story really touched me. And it make sme think about how i think of life now. I know that you miss ryan but you'll be with him one day.. and im sure you cant wait. I cried my eyes out at the assembaly on monday. i came up and gave you a hug afterwards and im sure you appriciated it. I just want you to know ryan is always in my heart. much love, Christina Litchfield
when you came to the jr. high and talked to the middle school students in stroudsburg you changed everone in my schools life. no one bullies anymore. well the 6th and 7th graders. no has said anything rude in the hallways. everone was so touched by your words that day. i am truly sorry about ryan. he seems like a great kid. and im sorry fro your familys loss. May God bless your family and friends. Thanks for coming to the jr. high and talking to the 6th and 7th grader.
like i said when i added you, my mother heard your story recently over at the middle school in stroudsburg. she was deeply touched, and came home and told me all about what happened to your son. i am deeply sorry. bullying is horrible, and i see it everyday in school. it used to happen to me too. the loss of friends, the feeling of just not wanting to wake up or do anything. i'm sure you know who Miley Cyrus is. she is the star of Disney Channel's Hannah Montana. i recently read her book, and she endured hard core bullying when she was in 6th grade. these girls would shove her into bathrooms, and threaten her bodily harm. when her mother called the school, the principle didnt really do much about it. and the parents that saw these girls ganging up on, the girls' parents nontheless, just laughed it off. it was horrible for her. i just now twittered to her, and numerous other celebrities, your website in memory of your son. and hopefully they all twitter it out to their fans so the message gets out. that bullying must be stopped in our schools. God Bless you and your family. what you are doing is truly amazing and inspiring.
I just posted a ruf cut of my new song about Bullying called "Me". My daughter has been bullied this year and this reflects the pain it has caused our family. Thank you for your voice. Please feel free to use the song if you can!
John, Thanks for accepting my friend request. I so admire you and what you are doing. The epidemic of bullying across this country needs people like you, and all the parents of bullied children to take a stand that we will no longer accept this behavior! I was so saddened by seeing your story on Oprah. As the parent of a bullied child I know all too well the devastating effects it can have. I am blessed that my son is still here. When I see or hear stories like yours, and the ones recently I must stop and say............"There but for the grace of God go I"
Thank you, thank you, thank you for all that you are doing!
John, I admire what you are doing and appreciate you stepping up and taking a STAND on bullying! I too have been bullied severely and regardless who you are noone I mean noone should ever be bullied. God bless you and for getting the word out there. I am so sorry for your son and the terrible loss you have had to endure. Thank you for standing up!
I saw Your story on Oprah, I am so sorry about what happened to you! I hope you see him one day in thee future, but right now you have a beautiful angel watching over you [:
You came to my school a while ago. Haviland Middle School. But i still remember everything you said, and how it touched me. I cried! Because a couple days before your assembly, i was bullied, and I would go home and cry. But after your assembly it stopped. So thank you so much :) I am very sorry about Ryan :( I cant imagine the pain you were in.
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2009/11/13 00:12
Thank you for everything you've done. You've truly made an enormous impact on my life and with that I give all the thank you's in the world to you and your family.
Best of wishes,
Alexis
2009/11/4 20:13
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2009/10/28 18:38
i was looking on ryans
page and
i notice how you turned
this sad depressing
story into something really amazing
i am glad that you have made a difference in somebodys life
i will never be the same after hearing that story (its a good thing
thanks again sooo much for all you have DONE!
I WILL NEVER FORGET YOU OR YOUR SPEECH!!
P.S. THANK YOU FOR MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN MY LIFE!
2009/10/4 04:41
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2009/9/13 18:53
give my grettings to your wife and all.
2009/9/13 13:39
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2009/9/6 18:29
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2009/7/1 20:04
your son prob saved a lot of lifes right now, everyone changing because of this story your telling everyone.
your doing a great thing.
i suppert "to write love on her arm" and after your story.. my life changed. now i help people, this girl had probs at my school and i helped her. and she thanked me and it felt good inside. i say hi to people with heads down in the halls. because the word "hi" can change someones day.
this girl wanted to die. i sat down and helped her. i told her story's i knew from people who comited suside in my life.
For people that have tempter probs, i told them to get your angrer at something your good at.
like sports.
Im a 13 year old that plays hockey on the ice, i feel proud of what i have done and i'm gonna do it for the rest of my life.
a lot of people out there are looking up to your stories.
Im sorry about your son..i'm gonna keep helping people. i want to help... one of my goals is to make a girl in rehab have a smile on his/her face
i know you have a lot of stuff to do but this stuff came to my heart and i just wanted to share.
this suside stuff needs to stop.. but sometimes you cant control it.. and everyone needs to open their hearts and lend them a hand..
your story changed my life.
it be cool is you write back but you million lives to change.
thanks,
shannon
2009/6/24 07:30
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2009/6/12 01:55
much love,
Christina Litchfield
2009/6/10 02:29
it definitely can't be easy to go
from school to school, talking about
your son.
he is forever in my heart.
i'm so sorry for your loss.
2009/6/2 11:10
when you came to the jr. high and talked to the middle school students in stroudsburg you changed everone in my schools life. no one bullies anymore. well the 6th and 7th graders. no has said anything rude in the hallways. everone was so touched by your words that day. i am truly sorry about ryan. he seems like a great kid. and im sorry fro your familys loss. May God bless your family and friends. Thanks for coming to the jr. high and talking to the 6th and 7th grader.
2009/5/23 22:31
mr. halligan,
like i said when i added you, my mother heard your story recently over at the middle school in stroudsburg. she was deeply touched, and came home and told me all about what happened to your son. i am deeply sorry. bullying is horrible, and i see it everyday in school. it used to happen to me too. the loss of friends, the feeling of just not wanting to wake up or do anything. i'm sure you know who Miley Cyrus is. she is the star of Disney Channel's Hannah Montana. i recently read her book, and she endured hard core bullying when she was in 6th grade. these girls would shove her into bathrooms, and threaten her bodily harm. when her mother called the school, the principle didnt really do much about it. and the parents that saw these girls ganging up on, the girls' parents nontheless, just laughed it off. it was horrible for her. i just now twittered to her, and numerous other celebrities, your website in memory of your son. and hopefully they all twitter it out to their fans so the message gets out. that bullying must be stopped in our schools. God Bless you and your family. what you are doing is truly amazing and inspiring.
-jamie w.
2009/5/20 19:35
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2009/5/17 06:45
2009/5/12 18:43
Thank you, thank you, thank you for all that you are doing!
2009/5/11 23:07
2009/5/10 16:42
I hope you see him one day in thee future, but right now you have a beautiful angel watching over you [:
2009/5/7 21:50
school.
thanks
it really changed my life about bulling!!
2009/5/7 00:18
2009/5/3 15:00
Haviland Middle School.
But i still remember everything you said, and how it touched me.
I cried!
Because a couple days before your assembly, i was bullied, and I would go home and cry. But after your assembly it stopped. So thank you so much :)
I am very sorry about Ryan :(
I cant imagine the pain you were in.