Joy OHare

About me:

I am single, a mother of 2, and grandmother of 7. My family and my Lord Jesus are my life. I hope to write about my weight and life experiences to inspire others to follow and succeed. God bless everyone who reads this. You could sum up my life weight wise as "From Slim to Fat to Obese and Back". What makes us go from the slim youth we were to the larger than normal size we obtain later in life? I know women would say having babies is one and that is one problem a lot of women have to deal with. Then there is my daughter who just a few weeks after giving birth looked like she was never pregnant. Obviously she takes after her father’s side of the family. I was married to an alcoholic who played games with my head. Then I was married to a very controlling man. One thing he said was he would divorce me if I got fat. So what did I do? True to my rebellious nature, I snuck out with my stepson to Taco Bueno almost nightly and ate huge chef salids right in front of my husband. I did get fat, but he never divorced me. We finally parted ways, then he passed away a couple years later. My path was set – 5 pounds a year minimum gain. The weird part was that no matter what diet I tried, I would lose up to 10 pounds and no more. At that point in time I would get scared of being slimmer. Then I would binge and give up because ‘I am a failure – look at all my failures down through the years – and if that isn’t enough, just ask my kids’. Thank goodness (God) that I am changing now. I am going towards that healthy weight to avoid things like heart problems, sugar diabetes, etc. It is still a struggle with my head, but I am winning the battle. After all, my rebellious side, my dictator side, and me all want the same thing – the best health I can have – and the side effect of better looks isn’t bad either!