New Mexico Coalition Against Domestic Violence
www.nmcadv.org
National Latino Alliance for the Elimination of Domestic Violence
www.dvalianza.org
New Mexico Safe Date
www.nmsafedate.info
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
http://www.ncadv.org
Love Is Not Abuse
www.loveisnotabuse.com
Choose Respect
www.chooserespect.org
Love Is Respect
http://loveisrespect.org/
End Abuse
www.endabuse.org/programs/teens/
Stalking Resource Center
www.ncrc.org/src
See It and Stop It
www.SeeitandStopit.org
Break the Cycle
www.breakthecycle.org
When Love Hurts
www.dvirc.org.au/whenlove/
National Center for Victims of Crime – Dating Violence Resource Center
www.ncvc.org/ncvc/
Women’s Advocacy Project Teen Justice Initiative
www.women-law.org
Victor Rivas Rivers
http://www.victorrivers.com/
Movies
TOUGH GUISE/Men & Boys Against Violence by Jackson Katz
Katz is one of America's leading anti-sexist male activists. An educator, author and filmmaker, he is internationally recognized for his groundbreaking work in the field of gender violence prevention education with men and boys, particularly in the sports culture and the military.
He is the director of the first worldwide domestic and sexual violence prevention program in the United States Marine Corps & creator and co-creator of educational videos for college and high school students, including Tough Guise: Violence, Media, and the Crisis in Masculinity (2000), Wrestling With Manhood (2002) and Spin the Bottle: Sex, Lies and Alcohol (2004).
Books
A PRIVATE FAMILY MATTER a memoir by Victor Rivas Rivers.
Rivers is an author as well as a veteran star of more than two dozen films, with a worldwide following for such memorable roles as Magic Mike, the prison gang warlord in the cult hit BLOOD IN/BLOOD OUT and as Joaquin Murrietta, Antonio Banderas' ill-fated brother in THE MASK OF ZORRO.
Why has this movie bad guy taken on the most underreported crime in America? Because Victor, himself, lived it. As a victim and as a witness to brutal abuse. Read his story in his memoir "A Private Family Matter". And many thanks to those who stepped in as his champions thus helping him to break the cycle of violence.
Today, Rivers is the National Spokesperson for the National Network to End Domestic Violence.
Heroes
These are just some CELEBRITIES/MUSIC ARTISTS who are against domestic violence:
Ashanti * Kevin Bacon * Eve * Faith Evans * Salma Hayek *
Harrison Ford * Big & Rich * Martina McBride * Shania Twain * Stevie Wonder * Babyface * Christina Aguilera *
Ludaris * Mary J. Blige * Victor Rivers
With the majority of myspace viewers being young adults, we thought we could really get the 'word out' about domestic violence and dating violence prevention through myspace!
Please add us to your 'myspce friends' and demonstrate your will to educate teens and young adults about dating violence.
We also invite you to read our alarming statistics on our awareness page - and also let us know what you think about our powerful "teen dating" story in our blog by leaving us a comment.
We look forward to everyones thoughts on this ever-growing issue as you join in our efforts in "breaking the cycle".
To learn about our domestic violence shelter and programs, please visit our home page at www.lacasainc.org
Control and abuse are NOT love. The two never go hand in hand. When you first started dating, you actually looked forward to that one text message letting you know you were being thought of or perhaps missed. Now all of a sudden, you receive 10-20 or more an hour wanting to know why the he** you never responded to that first one. When did things suddenly change? Or did they? When it comes to our own relationships, we tend to see things in shades of grey, instead of black and white. Isn't it always easier that way? And choosing to ignore the warning signs in RED are even easier. That's because it’s hard to see our own relationship problems from the outside in.
You may wonder when things started getting so scary and unpredictable, and when did things get so distorted? Perhaps the warning signs were there all along but they were much easier to ignore and push aside as normal. Now looking back, you realize things were always a bit uncomfortable and confusing. And how the humiliating put-downs, the never-ending text messages asking for your whereabouts, the approval and disapproval of your clothing and jealousy over the time spent with your friends and family just suddenly crept into your relationship. Or were those things always there but we chose to ignore them because we brushed them off as no big deal?
Those were all warning signs...or red flags. Signs that should never be ignored. The more red flags you push aside as you continue along, the more dangerous the path in your relationship becomes. Will you be able to recognize them before it's too late and see things in black and white as they really are?
The American Medical Association estimates that over 4 million women are victims of severe assaults by boyfriends and husbands each year. About 1 in 4 women is likely to be abused by a partner in her lifetime.
Domestic Violence is a pattern of behavior which establishes power and control over another person through fear and intimidation, often including the threat of violence.
Not all domestic violence is physical. It can be emotional abuse, economic abuse, sexual abuse, threats, using male privilege, intimidation, isolation, and a variety of other behaviors used to maintain fear, intimidation, and power.
You are not to blame and you are not alone!
Domestic violence and family violence often takes place behind closed doors. In the past it was seen very much as a private family matter that society should not get involved with.
It can be difficult for those who are, or who have experienced violence to come forward because they may feel isolated, ashamed, confused or just too afraid to speak about their experiences. Sometimes they blame themselves for the violence because they have been told by their partner on many occasions, that they provoked it.
It is important to remember:
• No one deserves to be abused!
• The person being abusive is responsible for their own behavior.
• Abuse happens to people from all cultures and age groups.
• Everyone has the right to feel safe at home.
Domestic Violence is a CRIME, even when committed by someone you love. If you suspect you are in a domesic violence relationship, call La Casa TODAY 1-800-376-2272 or your nearest domestic violence agency before it is too late. TOGETHER, we can break the cycle.
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Who I'd like to meet:
People who are against violence.
People who want healthy relationships for themselves.
People who want healthy relationships for their family and friends.
• 1 in 3 teenagers experiences domestic violence in their dating relationships?
• 63% of boys ages 11-20 arrested for murder were arrested for murdering the man who was assaulting their mother
• More than half of young women raped (68%)knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, friend or casual acquaintance.
• 24% of female homicide victims are between 15 and 24 years old
• Relationship violence is the number one cause of injury to women between ages 15-44
• Six out of 10 rapes of young women occur in their own home or a friend or relative’s home, not in a dark alley.
In dating violence, one partner tries to maintain power and control over the other through some kind of abuse.
Dating violence crosses all economic, racial and social lines, most victims are young women who are also at higher risk for serious injury.
Teen dating violence often is hidden because teenagers typically:
• Are inexperienced with dating relationships
• Want independence from parents
• Have romanticized views of love
• Are pressured by peers to have dating relationships
Teen dating violence is influenced by how teenagers look at themselves and others.
Young men may believe:
• They have the right to "control" their female partners in any way necessary
• “Masculinity” is physical aggressiveness
• They "possess" their partner
• They should and can demand intimacy
• They may lose respect if they are attentive and supportive toward their girlfriends
Young women may believe:
• They are responsible for solving problems in their relationships
• Their boyfriend's jealousy, possessiveness and even physical abuse, is "romantic"
• Abuse is "normal" because their friends are also being abused
• They think they can "change" the abusive boyfriend
Teenagers can choose better relationships when they learn to identify the early warning signs of an abusive relationship. Teens can choose better relationships when they understand that they have choices, and believe they are valuable people who deserve to be treated with respect.
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"People are like stained glass windows: they sparkle and shine when the sun's out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is light within." ~Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
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(Sorry this isn't personalized to every individual, I'm sending this out to EVERYONE on the site) While I'm in the process of doing some 'friend cleaning' see blog, I thought it might be a good time to ask those of you who *want* to be here to subscribe to my blog if you haven't already. Not at all necessary to not being deleted, Just thought I might as well get it all done at once, since the process is going to take some time. It may also be a good time for those who don't really support the PTSD cause and/or don't want to see pictures or comments like this to just go ahead and delete, cuz I can't run this site afraid of who I can send what comments to. I mean if you want to delete the comment, but keep me/the site/the cause, that's fine. I just want it to be abundantly clear, if it isn't already, this is and will remain an MJ judgment/hate free site. You don't have to like him....just keep the hate elsewhere. Thanks, I appreciate your understanding and patience during this transitional time.
Just stopping by to say hello & remind you of how very special you are & all that you do. Thanks for your support in being a voice for every child in need of one. God's peace & glory always! Love, ♥ Angel Wings ;) ♥
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