I like this music; the Smashing Pumpkins, Mirah, Quiet Riot, Gwen Stefani, Big Bad VooDoo Daddy, Squirrel Nut Zippers, Nirvana, the Aquabats, Gogol Bordello, Garbage, Pearl Jam, the Cranberries, ATB, Tool, Ayla, DJ Tiesto, Bad Boy Bill, Dresden Dolls, the Mansfileds, Trans-siberian Orchestra, RHCP, Modest Mouse, the Killers, Green Day, BNL, Bach, Gunther, U2, ABBA, Bon Jovi, Snow Patrol, Pepper, Paul Oakenfold (old stuff), Lorena McKennet, 80's dance music, Sasha and Digweed, Blue man group, punk covers, the Echo, Irene's March, Save Ferris, Alanis, Flogging Molly, the Dropkick Murphies, No Doubt, Brian Setzer, The Briggs, Panic! at the Disco, Audioslave, Jet, Seal, J Geils Band, Fallout Boy, Rancid, a Perfect Circle, All American Rejects, the Brunettes, Deathcab for Cutie, Astray, and so much more. Lots of swing music, alternative, trance, and German Music: Wir Sind Helden, Christina Sturmer, Silbermond, Schnappi, Fettes Brot.
Other things I like: crime shows, CSI (all three), the L-Word, the Tudors, Project Runway, Without a Trace, Cold Case, NCIS, Criminal Minds, Close to Home, Dead Like Me, Stargate, Redwall, Buffy, Agatha Christie, Patricia C Wrede, Anne McCaffery, Orson Scott Card, Tamora Pierce, The Band Never Dances, historical romance novels, tea (loose), chocolate, white russians, grasshoppers (the drink), mojitos, buttery nipples, bailey's, peppermint schnapps in hot chocolate, good white wine, soup in a bread bowl, fries with buffalo sauce, chocolate, peppermint, dolmades, fondue, feeling safe, sushi, saag paneer, naan, noodles and co, falafel, latkes, cuddling, cats, animals, snuggling, spooning, forking, sporking, making out, boys, girls, trusting, feeling like I'm not alone, snickers, laughing, reading, star gazing, making snow devils, dressing up, wearing PJs, wearing cat ears, wearing devil horns, running around naked, kissing, tickling, driving, American Beauty, Kinsey, Secretary, Monty Python (all three plus the Flying Circus), Bang Bang You're Dead, Der Untergang, Coming Soon, Love Actually, Gosford Park, Coupling, Hetty Wainthrop, Mystery, Degrassi:the next generation, Pimp Mein Fahrad, alles Deutsch, German, Hebrew, Jew Crew, breasts (particularly my own), hipbones, punk girls, ruggers, hockey players with all their teeth, guys who hug properly, people that kiss properly, endorphin highs, IHOP at 3am, Pumpkin pancakes with chocolate chips, watching the goalies stretch at the hockey games (and do the splits, and save shots..and just be goalies), dancing in the rain, driving naked, acting, tech work, taking cat naps with my cat, talking about sex, sambuca, tattoos, piercings, king sized beds, knitting, being appreciated.
Orgasms.
Music
I hate; pink, heights, spiders, snakes, people who are closed minded, people who want to control women, people who want to control women's bodies, homophobia, transphobia, fat-phobia, rapists, onions, scallions, haunted houses, horror movies, roller coasters, death, being alone, my family driving me crazy, people who try to snuggle when it's 102 degrees, knee surgeries, getting infected with things like cellulitis, breaking my tailbone...twice, my windshield wipers freezing to my windshield, sketchy people messaging me...and so on.
Movies
I want; to feel safe, to love, to be loved, to be trusted, to trust, chocolate, a significant other I like, to want to cuddle, to make out, to sleep for a week, to find a job, to get out of debt, to stop being in pain, to move to California or Oregon or Washington for a bit, not to have another knee surgery, for my knee(s) to be better, to dye my hair, to hang out with more guys like I used to, to not fight, to find someone that understands me, black roses, sterling roses, another 3 tattoos....
Television
I have; more than I deserve. Not enough. Too much. A head full of thoughts and not enough time to write them all down. A brain in overdrive. A sex drive that scares most people.
Books
Current book I'm reading:
Some sci-fi fantasy by Anne McCaffery. And Opening Up, by Tristan Taormino. Re-reading lots of books I've already read over and over.
Heroes
My father (1947-1999). My grandparents who survived Auschwitz, Bergen-Belsen, Buchenwald and Treblinka. My cats who just chill all day and still give me unconditional love. Kate Bornstein. Leslie Feinberg. Anne Fausto-Sterling. Nina Hartley. Judith Butler. Dacia Ray. Jamye Waxman. Candida Royalle.
Check out my awesome website which has all sorts of exciting things, from toy reviews, thoughts (and rants) on sexuality, erotica, amusing videos, archives of my sex tips column, news stories regarding sexuality, as well as links to other sex blogs, and sex positive people.
It may not link ya, so check out www.essin-em.com.
I am; a nerd, a college graduate, a Master's of Education graduate, a feminist, a daughter, a sister, queer, a partner, a lover, a Femme, open to all genders, attracted to whomever I am attracted to, interested in human sexuality, a cat owner and lover, a former hedgehog owner, eclectic, unique, allergic to pink, a vegetarian, a figure skater, a former hockey player, a CC hockey fan, an insommniac, a born and bred Coloradan an internet addict, a non-smoker, an agnostic, a Jew, a jewish mother in training, a minister for the Universal Life Church, a friend, an enemy, a best friend, a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear, a counselor, a kid, an adult, a woman, a female, a sexual assault survivor, someone working to prevent sexual assault, a dancer, a chocoholic, a crime show watcher, a Buffy lover, a chick-flick hater, a cook, a sleep lover, a lover of girly drinks and wine, someone who loves to shake it with the best of them, someone who drops it like it's hot, a nanny, a theatre teacher, a sexuality educator hopeful, a roller derby referee and lover, someone who loves to drive naked (as well as be naked!), a sex columnist/sex tips writer, a porn viewer, a marketing assistant, a community outreach assistant, a sex blogger, someone in the adult entertainment industry, a sex worker, a sex toy reviewer, a writer...and much much more.
I played roller derby -- now I ref, after my 3rd knee surgery. Yes, it's real. Yes, I've broken my tailbone...twice. I write for a variety of sites, review of Jane's Guide and several toy companies. I write a column for Out Front Colorado and am on an advice panel for the Lesbian Lifestyle. I sing karaoke. I do physical therapy. I present workshops and classes on a whole plethora of sexuality topics. I'm trying to find a job in Phoenix, full, part or contract. When people ask me what I do for a living, I say "I'm busy".
Since I've been asked, here are top three adult films in each category (ask if you're looking for a specific genre, and I'll be more specifc myself):
Straight:
1. Afrodite Superstar
2. The Re-Penetrator
3. Fistful of Musketeers
Queer:
1. Champion
2. Lesbian Life: Real Sex San Francisco
3. Trans Entities
Studios I LOVE
Pink and White
NoFauxxx.com
Comstock Films (Sexumentaries)
Hogtied.com
Candida Royalle/Femme Productions
Trannywood Pictures
MadisonBound
Fatale Media
Really like me? Want to buy me cute clothes? Here's a link to Torrid WishLists - just enter my email (essinem@gmail.com). Or do you want to glance at my book/movie/jewelry/cooking stuff/cat toy cravings? Check out my .
Yes, I work for/in the sexuality industry. I do get to enjoy adult entertainment/sex/porn/etc on a daily basis. Problem with this? Go away.
I have more sex toys than you could ever dream of owning. Deal with it. Want to have some too? Let's talk!
Want me to review a product (toy/movie/book/???)?? Email me at EssinEm at Gmail dot Com.
Who I'd like to meet: People I can't meet: Kinsey (As in Alfred P, not my cat), my father again, Agatha Christie, Bettie Page.
People who I CAN meet and really want to: Tristan Taormino, Nina Hartley, Annie Sprinkle, Joanna Angel, Anne McCaffery, Matthew Grey Gubler, David Krumholtz, Billy Corrigan, and more.
As a friend: Anyone open minded...who doesn't mind hearing about sex. It happens.
Play partners (women, transfolk, genderqueer people): I am in an open relationship where I can play with others in a kink way, but I don't have sex with others unless I'm filming adult movies.
New friends!
Essin' Em at www.essin-em.com's Friend Space (Top 10)
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