Kim's Stats:
Agreeableness: -1
When someone needs my help or wants me to do something I think before I act. See, at heart I believe deeply in personal freedom and individual responsibility. I think it is vital that people learn to take care of themselves so that they don't become dependent upon others. I believe that actions have consequences, and people need to accept the consequences of their actions if they are to learn from their mistakes and grow. I believe I wouldn't be doing anyone a favor if I lift someone out of trouble; they will never learn to lift themselves up if I keep rescuing them. And if I keep giving people a second, third or fourth chance, I have seen that people seldom develop the character they need to live decent and responsible lives.
I believe that compassion has a role to play in my life, in a structure of values that encourages people to take care of themselves. Uncritical tenderheartedness does as much harm as good. I much prefer if people understand, in factual, empirical terms, how they got into trouble, and how they can lift themselves out of the mess they are in. In an emergency, of course, I'm there to offer help and if someone has helped me out in the past there is no question about my loyalty. But whenever it is realistic, I am convinced people should take care of themselves.
Openness:+1
I am a very creative and imaginative person who is especially open to new ideas or new ways of thinking about old problems. I love to approach a conventional idea or a traditional way of doing things by walking around to the other side and explore it from a novel perspective. I'm intellectually progressive.
I learn from personal and interpersonal experiences as well as from classrooms and textbooks. I crave new information, and toss and turn it in my vivid imagination. Not everyone is thrilled by my adventurous mind however. Many people are content with the ideas that have served them and their culture well, and with visions they've grown accustomed to of what is and is not true. They're not lit up at the prospect of moving out of their comfort zone. Others are afraid of new ways of thinking and creative ways of solving problems because they are somewhat fragile in the sense that they have trouble maintaining serenity in their current worlds and don't want someone like me pushing out the edges of their intellectual and cultural cosmos.
Emotional Stability:+4
When emotions get chaotic, most of the time I keep my feet on solid ground. When some of my friends lose control of their feelings, I'm able to stay relaxed and even. It's not that I'm cold-hearted or without feelings. On the contrary; I can be fun-loving. I'm hurt when a friend is in pain or is in trouble. I get along with people who are as stable as me, as opposed to people who ride emotional roller coasters and create drama.
Conscientiousness+3
When I take on a task at work or at home, I am reliable; I get the job done. In an organized way, I define the goal, lay out a plan, figure how long the task will take, and get to work.
As my dualistic nature presents me, I can say at the same time it's important I'm not a slave to the plan. I'm committed to it, but not chained to it; the connection is more casual and informal. I know that sometimes "the best laid plans" fall off the tracks; when this happens, I clean up the train wreck and start over, undeterred.
I have an interesting combination of qualities, organized, but casual; solid, but compliant; and dependable, but informal. I have the perfect balance of flexibility and focus.
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