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THE POWER OF ONE
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CONDEMNATION
Until you've walked a second mile
In someone else's shoes.
Or stood an hour
in the heat
Of hurts you did not choose;
Until your heart
has felt the sting
Of criticizing tongue,
You cannot taste
the salty tears
A wounded soul has wrung
Unless you've walked
a moon or more
Along a thorny road,
You cannot feel another's need
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Divorce Poison is the only book on the market that gives you practical, useful techniques that you can use to help combat parental alienation. Dr. Richard Warshak is a clinical, research, and consulting psychologist who is arguably one of the world's leading authorities on parental alienation, its causes, and its effects. Dr. Warshak has produced a truly groundbreaking work in Divorce Poison.
In Divorce Poison, Dr. Warshak covers the subject of parental alienation thoroughly, including detailed discussions of why parents practice alienating behaviors, what form these behaviors take, and what to do in response to alienating behavior.
One of the most distinctive (and heartening) aspects to the book is its assertive "take charge " approach to the problem of alienation. Most other books on parental alienation caution you to 'sit tight' and not rock the boat, insisting that in time most children will 'come around' and 'see the truth' about what is happening. We happen to feel this kind of approach is the worst thing you can do- many children never recover from parental alienation and permanently lose any meaningful connection with the targeted parent.
Sitting by while your child is turned against you and not doing anything about it not only spells disaster for your relationship with the child, but it allows the child to be set up for a variety of emotional and psychological problems later in life. Dr. Warshak's recommendation to actively oppose the alienation is the only responsible course of action a parent can take in our opinion.
We think Divorce Poison is a true 'must have' for any mother or father dealing with parental alienation. Much like the value of a healthy parent-child relationship, the information in Divorce Poison is priceless.
This book is grounded in social science research methodology, and the most current and best contribution about a serious social problem devastating the lives of children. The fanatical hysterical protesters claiming that parental alienation doesn't exist or that it's a movement to give custody of children to abusers and molesters is a manifestation of insanity, a Salem Witch Trial mentality. This work is a major scientific treatise that is well written and well organized, a work that will encourage the hundreds of thousands of devastated alienated parents to never give up hope, that the politics interfering with the judicial system's response to saving these damaged children will eventually take a turn, because the science always wins in the end. Bravo to this researcher, her work will help make a difference, and reach all those struggling parents who are trying to rescue their children's lives and restore once love bonded relationships. One cannot ignore the stories this researcher has captured.
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Our heroes are simple people... fit and loving non-custodial parents who, despite all the adversity they face, continue to fight to be an integral part of their children's lives. No matter what hurdles come along, no matter how much they hurt, no matter how much they suffer, they put a smile on their face for their childrens sake. These are the parents that believe that no matter the label a court gave them, custodial or non-custodial, they are still first and foremost, a parent.
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NANCM.org Our apologies for not checking this page more often. Please find us on Facebook as well (which is monitored more often). Love to all!! Posted at 5:46 PM Nov 19 view more
NANCM is a Worldwide Non Profit Association based in Florida whose core belief is that children have a right to both fit and loving parents in their life.
NANCM is dedicated to providing a community of emotional support to Non-Custodial Moms through the provision of educational and supportive resources. It is NANCM's goal to continually update and seek out additional resources and support methods for emotional healing. NANCM is dedicated to obtaining charitable affiliations with organizations that can assist Non Custodial Moms; helping them maintain a loving and nurturing relationship with their children. NANCM is dedicated to educating all parents on how to best Co-Parent their children and reduce post-divorce stress in regard to custody issues.
Some custodial parents do their part to co-parent and keep post-divorce stress low. These Mothers and Fathers are to be commended for doing what is right for their children. However, some of the Mothers and Fathers who gain primary custody were abusive or controlling during their relationship with the non custodial parent. Post-divorce, they use the children as pawns to continuously manipulate, control, bribe and emotionally abuse the non-custodial Mother or Father. In many cases, it is the custodial parent’s way of punishing their former spouse for leaving the relationship. These custodial parents continuously make decisions which they narcissistically believe are in the “best interest” of the children, despite that their decisions minimize or remove the other parent from their children’s life. The undisputed fact is, the greatest harm that is inflicted through these decisions is heaped on the shoulders of the children involved. They are invisible and permanent wounds that our children will carry with them for the rest of their lives. Nothing justifies the minimization or removal of a fit and loving parent from a child’s life.
There are many issues which Non Custodial Parents face. NANCM is focused ..ing Non Custodial Moms face the top three issues which are primary aspects of being a Non Custodial Mom. This statement is not a “blanket statement” and NANCM realizes that there are Non Custodial Fathers who may face these same issues.
Negative Social Stigma
Loving non-custodial moms are facing a stigma in society that is reprehensible and unjust. People assume these Mothers do not have custody because they are drug addicts, alcoholics, child abusers, or they just didn't want their children .While there certainly are cases of dead-beat Moms who give up their children and walk away, in more and more cases today, fit and loving Mothers are losing custody against their will. In general, most people believe that Mothers always gets custody of the kids. The fact is, the Tender Years Doctrine has been abolished, more Fathers are seeking custody, and Father’s Rights Organizations have come a long way in (justifiably) demanding non gender biased decisions in child custody cases. While no gender bias in custody cases is a good thing, the unfortunate part is that in some of these cases, when the Father gains custody, he doesn't do a much better job than some non-custodial Mothers. Too many custodial Mothers and Fathers do whatever they can to alienate the non-custodial Mother or Father. Some move the children out of state. A lot of custodial Fathers insinuate that the Mother “gave them up” and a lot of custodial Mothers insinuate that the non-custodial Father "left" and "didn't care, and in some cases the custodial Mother or Father finds a new spouse to try to replace the non-custodial parent. All of these things combined create a recipe for a lot of horrible misconceptions about non-custodial parents.
This unjust social stigma can and does create havoc in a Non Custodial Mom’s life, to the point that it interferes with the ability to obtain medical records, educational status and other information regarding their child. Visitations when a child becomes ill become a major ordeal, not only because the child is ill, but because the Mother has been black listed in the Doctor’s office. School events become activities where a Non Custodial Mother finds herself sitting alone at the far end of the bleachers because other parents, teachers and even coaches are seen pointing and whispering.
When someone hears that a Father does not have custody, people do not immediately wonder, “why did the Mother get custody?” “What did he do wrong to lose custody?”. Yet these questions come automatically when it’s the Mother who loses custody; even if she was a completely fit and loving Mother with nothing more than a traffic ticket in her past.
Excruciating Emotional Pain
There truly are no words to describe the pain a Mother or Father goes through when being separated from their children. After feeling the child grow inside them for nine months; feeling them kick for the first time, feeling them turn somersaults inside their wombs, savoring every moment of the birthing experience that God bestowed upon them; for a Mother the pain is indescribable. It goes against everything nature intended. Are there Mothers who can do this without flinching, without remorse and guilt? Yes, there are. Are there Fathers who feel just as much pain? Yes, there are! The bottom line is, when the Mother or Father are fit and loving and have been the primary care giver of the child since birth, the separation is devastating beyond description.
For that reason, any fit and loving Mother who is separated from their child needs emotional support. Because it’s only an “up and coming” trend that Fathers are gaining custody more often, the Non Custodial Mother is also faced with the feeling of being “one in a million” and usually feels like she’s the “only Mother in the World to have lost custody”. Add the social stigma to those feelings and it turns into despair and sadly, certifiable depression. Social anxiety attacks are common among Non Custodial Mothers as well; due to the pressure of having to face others and get asked questions such as, “where do your kids go to school” and “what did you possibly do wrong to lose custody?”.
There is a very big “catch 22” that Mothers Without Custody must overcome. If a Non Custodial Mom doesn’t show sadness and depression, she’s looked at like she must not love her children. But if she does show signs of depression she is labeled as “unstable” and “unfit” and is reduced to supervised visitation where, if she shows too much emotion (sheds a single tear) the visitation is halted until she can “compose herself”. It’s insanity to say the least.
Financial Strain
In a good number of cases, the Non Custodial Mother was the primary care giver for the children prior to losing custody to a more powerful and wealthy X husband. After legal expenses the expense of getting a stable home set up, and in most cases being sued for child support by someone who makes 10 times their own income, Non Custodial Mothers frequently find themselves in financial ruin. Yes, this is an adult issue that many people face and it’s an individual’s responsibility to do what’s necessary to become financially stable. However, the fallout from this financial devastation is two-fold:
It effects the Non Custodial Mothers ability to feed and clothe her child during the visitation she has. Without custody, an NCM cannot file for food stamp assistance to ensure she has food on the table when the children are with her.
It effects the Non Custodial Mothers ability to maintain a nurturing and loving relationship with her child. This is especially true when the Custodial Parent moves the child out of state, adding travel expenses to the already drained household expenses.
NANCM’s vision is to help Non Custodial Moms overcome these 3 major issues through educational resources, grants, contributions, charitable affiliations and whatever other sources we can obtain.
Who I'd like to meet: We are interested in meeting other non-custodial parents, both male and female, who face the unique trials that only those without custody of their children can know. We are also interested in networking with other like-minded organizations who share in our core belief that children have the right to have both fit and loving parents in their lives on a substantial basis. If you believe that children have a right to both parents, please visit our website at www.nancm.org
Sending out my passion for all you non custodial parents. I am here for all of you just email me. There is no reason to feel shame...... lets work together to find ways to improve this hard time for our children. HUGS!!! Beverly you are an awesome woman I will always concider you on my top!!! hugs
Ten years this coming April. Ten years since this hell began. Ten years later I still cry myself to sleep and I'm constantly tormented. What can I do. I have yet to find the specific answer.
Good Love to all NANCM moms and those to come. I'll welcome advice and support from any of you.
HAPPY NEW YEARS!! PLEASE JOIN US.. FATHERS FREEDOM RIGHTS Hello to all you fathers and citizens that support this cause. I'm pleased you found this web page. My name is DADDYO; a proud father of two boys. I started this page to help fathers like myself fighting for child custody. My means to this page is to express my thoughts about children needing their fathers. I went to court , only to be stared down, hushed, assaulted and given an unfair order made by the judge. I was upset, angry, and sad; I never wanted to give up. Then I thought about it and came up to the conclusion that I will never give up on my two sons and I will not give up on all the good fathers out there. This page is dedicated to all the fathers out there. Keep in mind... Children grow up and they will eventually see the wrong in the courts and the mothers and whoever else that is trying to take you away from them. Persistence, determination, keeping promises, spending time with your kids means a lot to them. Just be there in their lives and think smart when it comes to the courts. This page will continue to grow as we the fathers continue to fight & speak out. Things will change when our voices get stronger and louder for them to hear us. Things happen for a reason. Best things come for those who wait, but not on the sidelines. Thank You For Your Support, Daddyo
Hi Beverly!!! I am always here for you and all the girls. It has been hard lately in my own life dealing with my son living with his dad (he and his wife are starting to tell my son bad things about me again) HATE IT!! SOoooo I just keep loving my boy and working with him to show him a loving home when he is here with me and the family. Always nice to hear from you Beverly!! TAKE CARE....
Remember girls if any of you need a chick to talk to I AM HERE!!! :)
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I have just been Notified that Shelly Johnson/Dowen has moved leaving no forward address or location with the court or my attorny. This is the second time that she has broken the court order. The first time I acted Pro se and entered and Ojection to the move, And asked for her to be held in contempt. Judge Reynolds dismissed my plea, with out giving me a chance to speak, Julie Vance my wifes attorny Spoke first with a rebutal full of over 5 slanderous and Libel acts of perjury, No jusrist prudence was practiced, I was not alloewed to speak first or rebult her lies.
Once again I have no Idea where my children are residing, and in what conditions. I was informed of this by the Supervisor of my visits today when I called to arrange my visit next saturday. She has broken the court order again, it will be interesting to she what my Lawyer will do about it. I spoke with her tonight and she said she will filed an objection. But what about Contempt? What My wife has done, is no less serious an offence than when I broke the DVRO by returning her request for emails. For which I spent a total of over four months in Jail, the second time on charges that were kater dropped.
ALL MY FRIEND NOW IS THE TIME TO PRAY FOR DANTE AND ARAMIS, Ask the lord to protect and look over the innoccent victims. Matt
Hi moms!! I just wanted to wish you all a great NEW YEAR.. I know the holidays can be hard. If any of you need someone to talk to please know that you can talk to me........... I am here for you and am always happy to make a new friend.
Thanks for always being a source of strength, hope, inspiration, and guidance through the journey that has brought me to where I am so I can now pay forward to what you have given me. Thank you for being a shining example of light in the dark. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you and yours.
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