I thought a lot about Casey's family, especially his mom, dad and brother and his family, on his birthday- November 22, 2009. He would have been 29. I especially thought of them on the TWO YEAR anniversary date of Casey's death on March 11, 2009. And AGAIN on the day Tolly Carr was released from prison on Monday, May 18, 2009 after serving two years for Casey's death. Tolly Carr to face uncertain future
What was your life like when you were 29? Or maybe you haven't reached 29 yet. I was thinking about what I was doing when I turned 29. My oldest was about to celebrate her second birthday and her sister was only a few months old. My husband was in graduate school and we were living in student housing, having sold our little house in Winston-Salem to make a go at a new future. The possibilities were endless.
And then, I think about Casey's family and friends. The grief is still there. The loss is still current even two years later.
Casey would have been looking towards completing his studies in culinary art at one of the best schools in New York City. He would have been looking at the future of being a fine chef. Maybe love and marriage and kids were just around the corner.
We will never know. No one ever will. Casey is certainly in a better place than all of this. But, it would have been better to have him here on his 28th birthday. Sadly, March 11, 2007 was the last show.
In the spirit of Casey's enthusiastic support of indie music artists, the music player features some artists you may not be familiar with. Click on them and check out some new music!
Casey getting down to the Avett Brothers at Rock the Block 2006, Winston-Salem, NC. Casey is on the front row, on the left in the green T-shirt. He loved music and supporting North Carolina bands like the Avett Brothers!
DRUNK DRIVING sneaks up and STEALS away your life.
DRUNK DRIVING digs a hole of sadness and anger in the heart when you lose the one you LOVE.
DRUNK DRIVING is not just a cause.
It is PEOPLE- Moms and dads, sons and daughters, brothers and sisters, aunts, uncles and cousins, boyfriends, girlfriends and best friends, buddies and co-workers who will never come home again.
It is PEOPLE- the people who are left behind to miss their loved one for the rest of their lives.
When it comes time to CHOOSE- Have a DESIGNATED DRIVER, CALL a FRIEND, CALL a CAB or be a true friend and TAKE the KEYS. There's too much to lose by DRINKING and DRIVING.
TONIGHT doesn’t have to be- THE LAST SHOW…
Note from Karen, keeper of this MySpace page
This MySpace page was started shortly after a tragic event occurred in the city where I live- Winston-Salem, North Carolina. A local television news anchor named Tolly Carr got into his pickup truck in the early morning hours of Sunday, March 11, 2007 after a night of drinking with friends at the local bars. He drove down a street closed to construction and ultimately veered off the street and hit and killed Casey Bokhoven, who was standing on the sidewalk across from his home.
I was so moved by what happened to Casey that I began to put the news videos on YouTube and started this page shortly thereafter. After a spring and summer of considerable media coverage, Tolly Carr, in addition to a drunk driving charge, pled guilty to felony serious injury to his passenger and friend Fjola Wilson. He pled guilty to felony death by motor vehicle and is currently serving a sentence of 25 to 39 months for Casey's death. Carr was located first in a medium security prison near Raleigh and then in a minimum security facility in McCleansville, NC near Greensboro. He was allowed to spend short amounts of time outside the prison walls starting November 2008; this level of freedom was based on good behavior.
The Bokhoven family brought a civil suit against Tolly Carr and three of the bars that overserved him that fateful day and night before the accident. Tolly Carr and two of the bars settled for an undisclosed amount. The third bar was forced to close as a result of the suit. The lawsuit was filed by the Bokhoven family in hopes of making a statement beyond the minimal time served by Tolly Carr for Casey's death, and to serve as a beginning point for their petition to the North Carolina legislature to hold establishments liable for the amount of alcohol served their customers.
Tolly Carr was released from prison on Monday, May 18, 2009 after serving approximately two years for Casey's death and the other offences. This was the low end of his sentence duration, based on his good behavior while serving his time. Tolly Carr is residing in the Greensboro area and faces an uncertain future at this writing. He has to put in 100 hours of community service as part of his sentence. Whether he will fulfill this by advocating against drunk driving is hard to tell; the Bokhoven family has stated that the face of this drunk driving case be Casey's not Tolly Carr's. Employment for Tolly Carr in the media? It would seem appropriate only in a behind-the-scenes capacity.
I didn't know Casey or his family before this happened, but as I have kids, I couldn't imagine going through something so tragic. When a loved one is killed by a drunk driver, the loss is devastating and far-reaching. I am grateful to have met some very incredible people through this page who have experienced this loss and it has given my own life a perspective I never would have imagined.
Life seems more precious and a lot more fragile and filled with the possibility of the unexpected. I have seen vulnerability and bravery standing side by side in the midst of incredible grief. I have sensed the strength of friendship in supporting one another one day at a time.
I appreciate Casey's family being supportive of me telling his story and ultimately theirs as well. They lived an extremely difficult time of sorrow in the public eye, and while the high profile nature of the case brought desired media exposure, it also came with a loss of privacy. The family needs that now and therefore this MySpace will no longer focus on Casey exclusively.
Casey loved music. He taught himself how to play drums and guitar. Casey loved supporting local musicians by attending performances as often as he could. He loved being with his family and friends. Casey Bokhoven and his life will always be the heart and soul and influence behind The Last Show.
"Gone from our sight, but forever in our hearts"
Photo credits-
Winston-Salem night sky by sayitloudbap at Flickr
Illuminate & Loss by Shirlaine Forrest Photography
Drummer by Benjamin "Sir Fats" Browder
Band Entrance by Benjamin "Sir Fats" Browder
Love Wins Copyright Stacey Ingram/Girlwithpistol Courtesy of crissykills
David Cook- Dare You to Move by American Idol, 19 E Ltd and Fox Television
AI Drummer by American Idol, 19 E ltd and Fox Television
IT'S EXTREME- BUT SO IS DRIVING DRUNK- This is the raw reality of driving drunk at its bitter end. GRAPHIC IMAGES. Please fast forward if they are too much. Admiration for silver666Fire and the skill it took to put this video together.
BOTH SIDES NOW- family of the victim and the truly remorseful young man who took a life by driving drunk and is serving time. Excellent video from Tallahassee Matters
IT REALLY HITS HOME when it happens to you and your friends-
IT HURTS EVERYONE IN ITS PATH- Watch this video to the end. Stunning imagery of the drunk driving victim's family being tossed about wherever they happen to be at the time of their loved one's accident.
Remembering Kelli Laine Lewis of Tega Cay, South Carolina, just south of Charlotte, North Carolina, who was killed by a drunk driver eight years ago. Please visit her site by clicking on the banner below.
CLICK the banner below to Friend request GRIM REALITIES- Be warned- this site has graphic photos of the horrific human damage inflicted by those who choose to drive drunk-
Please check out EVERY 15 MINUTES- drunk driving provides plenty of bad drama- so why not provide some realistic drama before the drinking and driving begin?
NOT EVERYONE DIES
Chadwick was hit head-on by a drunk driver in the summer of 2006. In this case, the drunk died and Chadwick almost didn't make it. His legs were crushed and it took months of rehab to recover. With his blood type written on his casts, "B positive" encouraged Chadwick in difficult moments. He is so grateful to the medics, fireman, police, doctors, nurses, his family and many others who helped him, he has gone back to thank them all and posted their photos on his MySpace page. It loads slowly- but worth it. Chadwick's zest for the gift of life jumps out of the page! Click here- Chadwick B+
ALCOHOL is just ONE of MANY things that should NOT be combined with DRIVING- Check out CRASH PREVENTION- great MySpace!
Deborah Salinas loved being in the Echo Company of the JROTC at her high school. She was only 15 when she left this earth. Deborah is greatly missed by her special friend Jacob.
The focus of THE LAST SHOW is those who have been killed or injured in an alcohol-related car accident. That being said, I am posting the following for a friend, a sister whose love for her only brother compels her to seek his killer 4 years after his murder on November 24, 2003.
Man discovered murdered just one block from where Wayne Walker was killed four years ago. The homicide of Michael Magby on Friday, February 1, 2008 is eerily similar to that of Wayne and both men were in their 50s and had similar lifestyles.
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Did you receive a friend request from me and wonder who I am? I welcome EVERYONE and ANYONE to THE LAST SHOW. Drunk driving affects us all.
My name is Karen. I live in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, where a young guy named Casey Bokhoven lived. He was only 26-years-old when he lost his life to a drunk driver on Sunday, March 11, 2007. I will never forget the shock of that day.
I didn't know him or his family before this happened. But I have kids, and I can't imagine losing any of them. I was so touched, I had to do something. So, here is the something.
I respect your privacy. It would be wonderful if you decide to be a friend, but my first hope is that you will take a moment to meet some of the people on this page. Drunk driving takes real people like you and me.
REAL PEOPLE who didn't know that TONIGHT would be THE LAST SHOW
Families of lost teens challenge law enforcement to action
Four North Carolina teens died in tragic wreck on Memorial Day Weekend- not far from Winston-Salem- in Davidson County. Authories say high speed was the determining factor. Alcohol was found at the scene.
I really feel for these families.
Chad Calvert's mom cries for him, her son, her "baby."
The love this mom has for her son touches me.
Friends remember Jacob Mayo, Chad Calvert, Robert King and Zachary Main at the crash site. The heartbreak is difficult to take in.
MONTH OF JULY 2007- Something positive from something so horrible
4 NC teens' wreck leads to CRACKDOWN- SPEEDERS, DRUNKS BEWARE!
Four NC Teens Died in High Speed Wreck- videos
These videos can be seen on my channel NCProud2 on YouTube- Click here-
Kelli Laine Lewis is a South Carolinian who lost her life in a drunk driving accident at age 18. After being served alcohol at a drink house run by adults, she got into a vehicle with two guys instead of going home with a designated driver. Tommy, who was driving, lost control when he started racing a kid in another car. They crashed into a tree and Kelli and Tommy and Jason died. The kid in the other car lived- never charged and a Breathalyzer test was not done. Her MySpace page is kept by Kelli's mom- Pam tells it like it is! Excellent site!
Jessica grew up "down east" on the coast of North Carolina. Recently taken by a drunk driver, her little boy is missing his mom.
Speaking of little boys missing mom, how about a mom missing her little boy?
Kevin is "FOREVER FIVE." His mom Heike is very involved in the fight to prevent YOUR child from being hurt or killed by a drunk driver. "Forever 5"- Precious Kevin makes me hug my own kids and appreciate them every day.
Perhaps THE saddest drunk driving deaths- Katelyn and her boyfriend James were riding in his car when the impact came: a drunk driver slammed into the passenger side where 8-month-pregnant Katelyn was sitting. The paramedics did an emergency c-section to save baby James, but he didn't make it. His daddy cried as he held his baby son in his arms and said goodby to his little family.
Petie Shultz was a chef and enjoying life in his 20s when he was killed by a drunk driver.
Your all-American beauty, Ashley Ann "Peachez" Perry had just turned 18 and was finishing her last year in high school in Virginia. A drunk driver hit her car and two young men pulled Peachez out as it burst into flames. Sadly, she died from her injuries.
Jeremy Cole died at the age of 26, a drunk driver stealing him from those who loved him. Jeremy's little boy didn't understand it all. He justs wants his Daddy back.
A pedestrian, Jessie was hit and killed by a drunk driver as he was walking on October 8, 2006. He leaves behind his girlfriend Kelly and his son Devon, who had just turned 2-years-old.
Best friends, Heidi and Sadie are "forever sweet 16" because their car was hit by a drunk driver. "When found at the scene SADIE had her head laying on HEIDI'S chest and HEIDI had her arms around SADIE. "The ANGELS came and entwined them and carried them up as one."
Kristian was your everyday girl. Hanging out with friends on a hot summer day was ideal! Chillin' out at nite in jeans and a sweat shirt was her thing. Until, a "friend" bought some beer and started drinking while he was driving. Instead of taking her home, he wrecked his SUV and Kristian lost her life.
Donna Rehm was living life as a sister, mother, grandmother and friend. She was killed on December 24, 2006. What a horrible thing to receive during the holidays- news of your loved one's death at the hands of a drunk driver.
Tamara has lost two of her three children. Little Heather, age two, died when the pickup truck she was riding in was struck by a drunk driver. She and her carseat were pinned under the vehicle. Cody was fifteen when an act of teen violence took his life. How could a mother live through such sorrow- not once but twice?
Kayla Lynn Miller was killed in a tragic car accident in January 2007. She was only 16. The driver who caused the wreck was recently charged with driving while under the influence- this time, the influence of marijuana.
Christina Lemon went out with friends and everyone was drinking, including the driver who later lost control of the car they were in. Christina was ejected from the vehicle and died. She was only 14. Her family including her parents are missing their daughter who brought sunshine to their lives.
Hayden Vann had lived a brief 19 years when she was killed in 2003 by a drunk driver near Marietta, Georgia. Her sister, still haunted and devastated says "I wish everyday that Hayden had not gotten in that car with a drunk driver. Being young does not make us invincible."
If you have a banner for someone killed or injured by a drunk driver, please send it to me and I will post it here.
Makayla Jade Marie Laurion
She DIED before she was BORN- killed by a DRUNK DRIVER
Makayla's mom was counting the days until her unborn baby was to arrive. Sadly, Makayla's mom was hit by a drunk driver on May 7, 2005. She was eight months pregnant and when the doctors were checking her out, they discovered that baby Makayla no longer had a heartbeat. Labor was induced and two days later on May 9, 2005, Makayla's mom held her baby girl, still and lifeless. An autopsy showed the baby died as the result of blunt force head trauma when the drunk driver hit the car her mom was driving. The drunk driver was not charged with Makayla's death because the accident occurred in a state where an unborn child is not protected under the law when she is killed by a drunk driver. The driver got a "slap on the wrist" and has gone on to rack up two more DUI arrests, all before his 21st birthday.
Thank you to Pooka, Makayla's aunt for bringing this heart wrenching loss to my attention. Sympathy to Makayla's mom and all of her family who miss this little girl. Innocently sleeping in protection under her mother's heart- and yet, still not safe from a drunk driver.
Makayla Jade Marie Laurion ~May 9, 2005~
Easter Weekend 2008- Celebration joy evaporates- mother, daughter and daughter's husband are killed by drunk driver
HILLSVILLE, Va. -- Three North Carolina residents were killed in a head-on collision on Interstate 77 near the Virginia-North Carolina border.
State police said the driver of a southbound pickup truck lost control, crossed the median and struck a sport utility vehicle shortly before noon Saturday.
The three people in the SUV were killed. Police identified them as 45-year-old Jorge Alberto Guerra and 45-year-old Isa E. Dollyhigh, both of Greensboro, N.C., and 73-year-old Coleen Huffman Dollyhigh of Mount Airy, N.C.
State police Sgt. M.T. Conroy said all five occupants of the pickup truck were injured, but none of the injuries were believed to be life-threatening. The driver, Gary Edward Hicinbothem, 46, of Pilot Mountain, N.C., was airlifted to Carilion Roanoke Memorial Hospital.
Conroy said Hicinbothem has been charged with driving under the influence and three counts of involuntary manslaughter.
Copyright 2008 by The Associated Press. All rights reserved.
Three family members killed by drunk driver Easter weekend 2008- Videos
Former television news anchor Tolly Carr sentenced Monday, August 13, 2007- ACTIVE PRISON TIME of 25-39 MONTHS for Casey Bokhoven's death.
Click on the news videos in the Stagegold players to find out more and/or go to my NCProud channel on YouTube. If you would like the codes to embed these videos on your blog or website, you will find the codes there on YouTube-
NOTE: I have one more player to add back here- it has all the videos leading up to Tolly Carr's hearing. All videos can be seen on three channels on YouTube-
Tolly Carr Sentencing Hearing Videos- August 13, 2007
Tolly Carr's Statement- August 13, 2007
"I fully support the decision rendered (Monday) by Judge Smith and I look forward to serving my debt to society. I hope to emerge from prison a better man whose number one priority is to contribute to our society. I am terribly sorry for the tragedy that I have forced the Bokhovens to endure, and I hope that everyone will consider their privacy so they may continue to grieve. I've disappointed a lot of people through my irresponsible actions, including family members and friends, who have supported me throughout my life. Please, forgive me. Thank you dearly for all who have sent words of encouragement since the accident. To everyone hearing these words, if you will elect to drink, please don't drive. You have everything to lose, and nothing to gain."
Your comments are appreciated. All comments will be posted per approval and will be closely monitored to keep a respectful atmosphere.
Who I'd like to meet:
Casey Bokhoven and the family and friends who loved him
I made a Christmas wish for you, For a holiday full of pleasure, Friends and family all around, And memories to treasure.
I wish for you a Christmas filled With joyous holiday cheer; I wish you a Merry Christmas, And a very Happy New Year! and have a Jolly Week,Debbie and Angel KJ
Hello Dearest friends, we wanted to let you know that if you head over to our website (www.therunmusic.com) and sign up to be a website member (which just means entering your name and email address) you can download 10 free unreleased songs. It our way of saying thank you for your patience while we work on making sure this next album is as good as it can possibly be. The songs are:
1) Setting Fire Free 2) Nothing Personal 3) Sunlight 4) Sell out to Save the System 5) A Field of Fireflies 6) Remind me to Forget Your Name 7) Wonderwall Acoustic 8) Stepping Stones 9) Time Spent Driving (Electroacoustic version) 10) What if the New Road has my Old Fear
Happy Downloading!
And while you're there be sure to check out our cover of "Never Say Never" by The Fray featuring Jeff Langlois on keys. It is on the sitewide player and should play as soon as you get to to our site. Happy holidays from all of us!
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Thanks for having me as a myspace friend...I really need your help.I'm Nominated for the QC awards and I need your Vote..Please go to www.queencityawards.com enter site click on nomination,scroll down to Country Artist (Male) and please throw me your vote.. Promoted by Missongwriter Promotions NOW BOOKING 2010 South Carolina ,North Carolina,Virginia,Georgia,Tennessee Call 843-450-0171 for submission details and requirements
If you want to know first where my next shows will be , watch new videos and hang out with other fans. Then join the Jeffrey Allen Edwards Fan Club Go to or click on the link below and I will see you there soon. This is all very new to me and I look forward to any and all things that bring me closer to my friends and fans.
Thanks for having me as a myspace friend...I really need your help.I'm Nominated for the QC awards and I need your Vote..Please go to www.queencityawards.com enter site click on nomination,scroll down to Country Artist (Male) and please throw me your vote.. Promoted by Missongwriter Promotions NOW BOOKING 2010 South Carolina ,North Carolina,Virginia,Georgia,Tennessee Call 843-450-0171 for submission details and requirements
If you want to know first where my next shows will be , watch new videos and hang out with other fans. Then join the Jeffrey Allen Edwards Fan Club Go to or click on the link below and I will see you there soon. This is all very new to me and I look forward to any and all things that bring me closer to my friends and fans.
On November 13th, PinUp Productions will be hosting the Battle of the Bands Finals at The Avalon, THE premiere live music venue in the San Jose area. The final 6 bands (started with 54) will compete for the $10,000 grand prize in what will surely be a night to remember. All ages with a full bar. Come out and support your favorite band. This event WILL sellout, so get your presales now at www.letswoosh.com or by clicking on the flier below. This will be a show talked about for years to come, hope to see you out. BTW If you have just a couple of minutes, we encourage everyone to default the Battle flier as their myspace pic. If you care about your local music scene, or any of the bands playing please show your love. If you do default the flier, please send us a message letting us know so that we can add you to our top friends! Thanks so much guys.
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