Nick Tarlton

About me:

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Hello Everyone. Thanks for visiting.

5-29-09 - I felt it was time to update my about me section. As every person does, I have evolved and changed since starting my myspace profile. I have learned and grown. I have changed my goals in life. I have decided that life is about living rather than living by someone else's standards.

In this "About Me" section I want to be as honest as I can about the real Nick Tarlton. I have been through a lot in my life and I don't deny even the things I'm not so proud of because they have made me who I am today.

I am a relationship oriented individual. I truly believe that love is real and there for everyone. My beliefts about relationships are ever evolving, but I have core beliefs that will never change. I believe that once committed to someone then you should do what it takes to make that relationship work. I believe in today's society people give up to quickly when problems arise. News Flash for anyone that doesn't know...relationships are hard work. A relationship is probably the hardest job you will ever have. No relationship is perfect. Like a beautiful flower you must nurture your relationship to make it grow into a healthy and lasting bloom of love.

Personality wise I am a very loving, caring, attentive person. I value people above any material object. Although throughout my life I have learned that you have to keep your guard up and be careful of the people you let into your heart. People can be deceitful, mean, hateful, and hurtful. Weeding out the bad ones sometimes hurts, but its necessary. I enjoy making new friends, but to be honest some people can’t handle my directness and honesty.

A brief history - I'm orginally from Rockingham, NC. A redneck little town on the NC/SC border. I moved to Asheville, NC when I was 19yrs old to pursue a life impossible in Rockingham. Upon moving to Asheville I met my first partner of 7years. He was a great man, but we grew apart. We are still friends to this day. My second partner and his two biological children lived with me for 2 years. During this period I became a different person. I learned a lot about myself and grew. Children are a true gift and should not be neglected. I valued the time I had with these two precious souls. I love them and always will. There father made it very unhealthy for both them and myself after our split. In my effort to do what was best for the children I had to cut off contact, but rest assured I think about them everyday. I love both of them and will keep them in my heart. Hopefully one day when they are grown they will seek me out. Now I'm with my current boyfriend, Jesse Hilton. We have been together as of now, 1.5 years. Jesse is very different from either partner I have had in the past. He is funny, loving, and has a great spirit. We get along great. We are an intergenerational couple which brings with it positives and negatives. By Negatives I'm talking about outside opinion which means very little to me. Also our age difference sometimes causes misunderstanding as we were raised in different generations. Our outlook on life is different, but this is a good thing for both of us. It forces us to grow and learn.

Now, lets get to the truth, no bull Nick Tarlton. I'm very opinionated, direct, and honest. Most people can't handle my personality. I just see no point in being fake or sugar coating issues. While some can't handle it, some value it. Most of our viewers on youtube enjoy the fact that we have a no bull approach to situations. I'm the type of person that will tell you the truth even if its hurtful. Not that I intend on hurting anyone, but I believe people need the truth sometimes. I've been fortunate enough to have some people in my life that told me the truth when I needed it. Even though it hurts to hear the truth, it can help you grow into a better person.

I'm not perfect. I make mistakes all the time. But I can also admit my mistakes. Anyone that says they are "perfect" is not only flawed, but also a liar. Nothing nor no one is perfect. In fact I hate the word perfect. The word has no meaning because the definition fits nothing in this world.

I'm an atheist. While I use to be a passive atheist, I find that as time goes on I become for militant in my opinions. This is due to the fact that I see so much hatred from the religious. While I have the opinion that I have the right to believe what I want and you have the right to your beliefs, most on the other side of the aisle don't live by this. Christians try to "change" me all the time. Leave me be. You will not get me to believe in this imaginary guy up in the clouds that controls my destiny. Any educated person that can stand back and look at religion will see that the bible is merely a book. A book of short stories. Believe what you want and live with your delusions, but leave your delusions in your head and don't express them to me. I'm very close minded on this subject. It took a lot of thinking and years for me to come to the belief system I have. And just because I do not believe in God doesn't mean I have no morals as many try to say.

With that being said, I'm a friend to the end. I will go to the ends of the earth for my friends. I have very few people that I call friend because being a true friend is important to me. If I don't feel like I could call you from the side of the road at 3am in the morning and you'll be there to help then I don't consider you a true friend. Friendship is a two way street. Its like being in a romantic relationship without the intimacy and obligations of a romantic relationship. I have one true friend that I love dearly named Michael. This man would drop everything at a second's notice to be there for me as I would for him. He has proven this so many times over the years. To Michael, I love you my dear friend.

Opinions
- If the only pictures you have on your profile are sexually driven, semi-nude photos, and nothing else then you mean just that to me. You are a lump of flesh. Nothing is wrong with sexy photos of yourself, but show us something else that gives some hint to your personality. I look at people's profiles that only display these types of photos and I think to myself, "Is that all they have to offer?" If all you have to offer is a sexy body then you have nothing to offer.
- No one cares if you think you are the trendsetter, you think you are a celebrity, you think you are the best thing since sliced bread, or you think your perfect. We are not in High School here. You mean absolutely nothing to me until you prove that you are worth something. There is nothing wrong with being confident in yourself, but be self-centered and stuck on yourself turns me off to you as a person.
- I hate when people send me messages with no content. The biggest way to get me to ignore your messages is to type something like, "Your Fucking Sexy, would love to get to know you better! Text Me" I am more than a body. You know nothing about "me" from pictures. Anyone can be sexy, but what really makes a person attractive is what's inside. I know a lot of people say that, but I mean it. Sure I like sexy bodies, but you better have a mind, heart, and soul behind those looks.

When I met Jesse I had no interest in a celebrity status or being popular. Over my time with him my goals have changed. As I started to get my opinions out there on youtube I found it to be liberating to be able to express my views. I now crave that. I enjoy the creative process and the feedback. I do what makes me happy and hopefully help a few people along the way through thought and laughter. I have fallen into a roll of counsel to young adults and teenagers. I value the trust and love shown by these individuals to tell me things about themselves that wouldn't normally be shared. The fact that they trust me enough with these secrets and find my opinions and advice helpful really brings me joy. I offer my opinion, but encourage anyone that is considering harming themselves or have severe mental issues to contact professional medical services. I’m not a doctor, but more than willing to discuss things with you.

To all the fans and viewers - We love you dearly and truly appreciate all your support. You mean more to Jesse and I then you will ever know.

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