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Advice on “The Challenge”

So I notice this one waitress at a bar I frequent, anyway another time I’m in there just before I’m going to leave I approach her ask her if she’s single.

She replies kind of anyway I ask her if she wants to meet me for a coffee on a Thursday and then I ask her how I could get in touch with her and she gives me her number.

Anyway come Thursday we talk for a while then head our separate ways, that weekend my buddy and i are in the bar watching the game and we were kind of tuned but she kept serving me pitchers.

When i told her to not listen to my friend anyway I paid her little attention that night after that I try to give her a call Sunday, get no answer.

So whatever, then I try another day and sent her a text message and like a week later I still cant get a hold of her.

One thing I found out was that she goes to the same school as I do and have seen her when I have a break with her, I’ve left her with space but still haven’t talked to her formally since I was kind of wasted that night.

I blame this on her due to the fact I didn’t want that pitcher and she still brought it out and I’m not letting beer go to waste.

Anyway what’s your take on this? My instinct would be to say screw her and move on, if I’m going to attempt to put forth an effort and I cant even get a sniff I don’t need to deal with her BS.

Orlandomac:

(In an infomercial tone of voice)

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Have you had a girl who has turned on you? Don't know what Test 3 is? Why am I so attracted to The Challenge? Feel like a cat on catnip? Why is she stuck on my mind? Have I lost my Confidence? Maybe I'm just not that good? Maybe I will never get any again? If I just do her I will have my confidence back... Call 1 800 MIND PUZZLE Let's break down the harsh info you provided.... 1) You are Confident 2) You are good looking and or have elevated status (enough to pickup a high traffic high value waiteress who is possibly taken - NICE this is a bonus) 3) You lack serious skills but have made up with looks and confidence so far to date 4) She must have been pretty hot for you (to offer you booze for free even after a non spectacular first date that didn't end heated) 5) You then rewarded her with arrogance 6) Then you began to act like all the loser guys who try to get with her (her thought- by stalking her with calls) -This shifts the Balance and now she is in control- from high EV's to Low EV's (FROM THE PEDESTAL TO THE FLOOR) 7) The Beer was a test and you failed First off my first advice is don't call the 1 800 number it is probably the Crack Version of the Psychic Hotline lol... Second you are right.. the easiest way and probably the best is to just walk away... you still have your good looks or High High Value... learn from your errors and move on... no big deal... too much work for too small a a reward at this point. If you want to DEAL she gave you the What If... Mind Puzzle and your Confidence has been affected... this is a chink in your armour... if allowed to fester this will amputate you of your shiney coat and you will no longer be a Prince in your own mind as well as in others... Test 3 is The Challenge you failed it and she gave it to you... She is now the Challenge.... but what women want is a Challenge... A special Man is just that. Just like guys don't think easy girls make girlfriend material... women don't think that easy guys make for a good Challenge and boyfriend material... You demonstrated that you were easy by chasing her with calls... lowering your Value. Even for lovers women want a man as good as or better than them... you started out great but dropped down to a normal guy by being an easy drunk lush... which was your choice not hers... Women love confident guys who are in control.... you showed a lack of it. But all is not lost my friend... all it takes is time and patience.... Besides you will be busy with other women in the mean time... Here are some suggestions.. to get her addicted once again... Since you have to use an ACTIVE EVASION since she is already ignoring you... here is some food for thought.... Send her a text with some Chick Crack Statement such as: I noticed something about you that no one else has..... this is what I call a Cliff Hanger just like TV another episode is warranted... send one if she doesn't bite and ask what..... then leave it for a bit... Patience is a Virtue... and once you have Low Value it takes time to reinforce that you are High Status...

Also you can go to her bar sit in her section (She will be forced to wait on you)... and Tease her about being too sensitive... "OH no not the sensitive server"..... this conveys High Value because you are negging her... but you have to be careful because she has taken your good looks and or status and reinforced her beliefs with what she perceives as you being arrogant... a dangerous combo that requires a gentler touch... So tread lightly with the Teasing... make it funny... "besides it would never work out between the two of you.... because she is too sensitive and couldn't handle a real man like you" Use The Opposite on her with some Role Reversals.... and you will regain control... Tell her "That you thought she was just trying to get you drunk to take advantage of you, and that you’re just a poor innocent boy" devil grin Those are just a few different ways to go about it... As you can see there are so many ways to get back in while you are moving on... once you regain the Power and get her back... You will once again be The Challenge and you can walk away from her... leaving her with the Mind Puzzle she has on you now... Good Luck my friend... you will soon be at the top again. HAVE A DIFFICULT SITUATION OF YOUR OWN THAT NEEDS A RESPONSE- MESSAGE ME FOR FREE- THE BEST I WILL POST HERE OR ON MY BLOG- CHEERS