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...Survivors...Changed by violence ... Rebuilt by healing... I am wearing a pair of shoes. They are ugly shoes. Uncomfortable shoes. I hate my shoes. Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair. Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step. Yet, I continue to wear them. I get funny looks wearing these shoes. They are looks of sympathy. I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs. They never talk about my shoes. To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable. To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them. But, once you put them on, you can never take them off. I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes. There are many pairs in this world. Some people ache daily as they try and walk in them. Some have learned how to walk in them so they don't hurt quite as much. Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt. No one deserves to wear these shoes. Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger person. These shoes have given me the strength to face anything. They have made me who I am.I will forever walk in the shoes of a human who has lost a Child,...............SHOES SHOES VICTIMS SHOES WHO WILL STAND IN THE VICTIMS SHOES????? ...............................................................“ Most of the people in our society are like sheep. They are kind gentle productive creatures who can only hurt one another by accident.” “Then there are the wolves and the wolves feed on the sheep without mercy” “Then there are the sheepdogs and I am a sheepdog. I live to protect the flock and confront the evil wolf.”......................The Legend of Two wolves. One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, 'My son, the battle is between two 'wolves' inside us all. One is Evil.....It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is Good.....It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.' The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: 'Which wolf wins?' The old Cherokee simply replied, 'The one you feed.'............................. .........................

99galleries.com | Send this image.................................................... When a loved one is Murdered When a loved one dies, bereaved families go through intense grief. When a child or other loved one is murdered, the anger, guilt, and confusion is complicated by the realization that another person intentionally took the life of someone who was loved. Adding to the family’s trauma are intrusions into their grief. Police, lawyers and other members of the criminal justice system need information, evidence and testimony. Television and newspaper reporters focus upon the victim and the grieving family. When a suspect is apprehended, preliminary hearings, post-ponements, trials and sentencing all force grieving families to face what may seem to be a lack of justice. In situations where the murder is unsolved or lack of evidence prevents an arrest, family members are emotionally forced to make their own closure: in either case, there is additional pain. Parents Of Murdered Children and Other Survivors of Homicide Victims (POMC) is the only national self-help organization designed solely to offer emotional support and information about surviving the loss of a loved one to murder. Members help one another by sharing experiences, feelings and insights, and by allowing others to do the same. POMC is a non-profit (501 3-c) organization. Donations are welcome. … By listening to each other, by crying together… their grief was lessened.Origin And Growth Parents of Murdered Children was founded in 1978 by Charlotte and Bob Hullinger of Cincinnati, Ohio, three months after their daughter Lisa, died from injuries inflicted by her former boyfriend. Father Ken Czillinger, a Roman Catholic priest active in leading support groups for the bereaved, directed the Hullingers to others whose children had been murdered. In their mutual grieving, the parents discovered that by listening to each other, by crying together, and by understanding how each felt, their grief was lessened. Parents of Murdered Children have expanded to include other family members and friends who are survivors and now have chapters and contact people throughout the United States and abroad.,,Why We Are Here,, POMC provides the ongoing emotional support needed to help parents and other survivors facilitate the reconstruction of a “new life” and to promote a healthy resolution. Not only does POMC help survivors deal with their acute grief, but with the criminal justice system as well. The staff of the National Headquarters of POMC will assist any survivor and, if possible, link that survivor with others in the same vicinity who have survived their loved one’s homicide. In addition, the staff is available to provide individual assistance, support and advocacy. The staff will also help interested parents or immediate family members form a chapter of POMC in their community. We will communicate and provide training to professionals in such fields as law enforcement, mental health, social work, community services, law, criminal justice, medicine, education, religion, the media and mortuary science, who are interested in learning more about survivors of homicide victims and their problems.,,,What Happens At A Meeting,,, Most meetings begin with introductions and each survivor telling of his or her loss. Often there is a topic to guide discussions, such as the grief process, the criminal justice system or favorite memories. Usually meetings revolve around group members’ own knowledge and experience, but occasionally outside speakers are invited to present information and to learn from survivors. Membership is open to those who have been cruelly bereaved by the murder of their child, family member, or other loved one. Some members attend meetings regularly, while others attend infrequently or maintain contact primarily by phone or mail. Members who have made progress in their recovery but stay with the group to give support to newly bereaved survivors sustain the group. POMC has no religious creed or affiliation.Minnesota Hope Chapter The first meeting of the POMC Hope Chapter was held in 1984 under the leadership of Pat Hartfiel. In that same year, Dick and Beverly Barrett became two of the first members after their son Dennis was murdered. In 1986, St. Paul meetings began in the home of the Barrett’s where Dick became chapter leader. The Barrett’s spread the word about the Hope Chapter through media and other resources letting homicide survivors know of the existence of the organization providing encouragement to attend the support groups. Many family members have continued to find support and healing through connections with others and active membership........................................................................................................Finding A New Normal for Yourself .............................................................

................. I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."..............................Finding a New Normal for Yourself............................................ In the early days, weeks, and even months after our child dies, most of family members. friends, and colleagues are very supportive of the ways we mourn the death of our child. They understand and encourage us as we weep, talk about our child, express our devastation.They understand that we are deeply sad, even depressed, have no joy in our lives, and can hardly function. But at some point, many of these same friends, family, and colleagues begin to wonder - and some will even ask - when we are going to back to NORMAL again. They want the old happy, productive, focused, fun person to return. What they don't understand is that we are now NORMAL. And if we weren't behaving and feeling as we are, we would not be NORMAL- in fact we would be ABNORMAL. When we lose a bet or a job or wreck our car or suffer a financial setback etc., the loss can hit us pretty hard. However, we don't say, "Oh well. that's life," and just move and forget about what happened. The loss lingers with us. Fortunately we find ways to deal with the losses fairly quickly. When we have a serious disease or lose our sight or arm or leg. it hits us harder.. And we certainly don't say, "Oh well, that's life," and just move on and forget what we've lost. These losses are usually life-changing. We try to find ways to deal with them, but it can take a long time, - and many times our life is drastically different than it was before. We arrive a new NORMAL, which even involve a wheelchair, nursing care, etc. We usually do not advise people who have lost their sight or a limb to "Just get over it and get on with life" or " to get back to NORMAL. Yes, it is terrible to be infirm, and it is terrible to lose a limb. But the death of our child is like moving to a whole new planet. And most of those who have not been on that "planet" don't understand this. There is nothing we can do to have our old life - from before the death of our child - back. Yes, we do move forward. And yes, we do find ways to deal with loss and to absorb it into our new life. But mourning the death of our child takes a long time - perhaps the rest of our life. In the beginning, that shock, numbness, weeping, questioning, sense of hopelessness, loss of joy, etc. are NORMAL. And at that time we are NORMAL. Not the NORMAL we were before our child died, but today's NORMAL. And over time, as the shock and numbness wear off but the reality and the pain flood in, our sense of hopelessness and loss of joy, our inability to function as we used to in work, home and life, our crying, deep sadness or depression continue and even deepen. This is NORMAL. As time goes on, we find ways to cope with our new life, ways that are helpful to us in our mourning, ways to deal with the world. Our pain and sadness remain, but we find ways to make these deep feelings part of our life rather than the forces we have to battle. And we may begin to have some hope and to find meaning and joy in life - not like we had before, but some. That is our new NORMAL at this time. And eventually, while the pain has not lessened and our sadness at the death of our child has not lessened or gone away, we have grown and strengthened to the point where we know we can live with that pain and sadness and that we can live a full life. This life will always be different than it was before the death our child. What is meaningful to us now, what brings us joy now, what is important now, is vastly different than it was. This is our new NORMAL. Dave Alexander Jamie Alexander's father ......................................................................................................................When You hear me laugh one moment in time, Do you think...Oh great! she seems just fine. The smiles you see, don’t reach my eyes... Nor do you hear my silent anguished cries. My heart is breaking, can’t you see... Without my sweet child here with me. My heart and soul have taken a big hit... Yet some loved ones tell me, "get over it." Each new day is an emotional strain I pray none of them experience this pain. Only another parent that is grieving too Can understand what I am going thru. My precious child has died, that is true, Why must I hide this pain from You? ............................

99galleries.com | Send this image...............................The Agony of Grief What is there to say about grief? Grief is a tidal wave that overtakes you, smashes down upon you with unimaginable force, sweeps you up into its darkness, where you tumble and crash against unidentifiable surfaces, only to be thrown out on an unknown beach, bruised, re-shaped, and unwittingly better for the wear. Grief means not being able to read more than two sentences at a time. It is walking into rooms with intentions that suddenly vanish. Grief is three-o'clock-in-the-morning sweats that won't stop. It is dreadful Sundays, and Mondays that are no better. It makes you look for a face in a crowd, knowing full well there is no such face to be found in that crowd. Grief is utter aloneness that razes the rational mind and makes room for the phantasmagoric. It makes you suddenly get up and leave a meeting in the middle, with-out saying a word. Grief makes what others think of you moot. It shears away the masks of normal life and forces brutal honesty out of your mouth before propriety can stop you. It shoves away friends. scares away so-called friends, and rewrites your address book for you. Grief makes you laugh at people who cry over spilled milk. right to their faces. It tells the world that you are untouchable at the very moment when touch is the only contact that might reach you. It makes lepers out of upstanding Citizens. Grief discriminates against no one, it kills. Maims. And cripples. It is the ashes from which the phoenix rises, and the mettle of rebirth. It returns life to the living dead. It teaches that there is nothing absolutely true, or untrue. It assures the living that we know nothing for certain. It humbles. It shrouds. It blackens. It enlightens. Grief will make a new person out of you if it doesn't kill you in the making. BY Stephanie Ericsson ...........................................................Childhelp USA® National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-4-A-CHILD 24 Hours a Day Child Abuse National Hotline 1-800-252-2873, 1-800-25ABUSE National Youth Crisis Hotline National Youth Development 1-800-HIT-HOME (1-800-448-4663) ....................National Runaway Switchboard This hot-line is a referral service for youths in personal crisis. 1-800-621-4000 *****IN MINNESOTA Call If You Need Help-- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255)-- Twin Cities Crisis Line 612-379-6363 Toll Free MN 1-866-379-6363-- Men's Line Twin Cities 612-379-6367 Toll Free MN 1-866-379-6367---------------------- Minnesota LinkVet 1-888-LinkVet (1-888-546-5838)---***Sexual Assault Resources 24-hour help line 612-626 9111 The Aurora Center provides free and confidential support for victim/survivors and concerned persons effected by sexual violence, domestic violence, or stalking. An advocate is also available through the help line 24 hours a day to join anyone in the emergency room who has experienced sexual assault. Walk-in hours: 8:00am – 4:30pm. Located at 407 Boynton Health Services on the U of M East Bank In Minneapolis...........................................................................................................*****If you or someone you know is having a crisis and/or is in immediate danger, please call 911! Dangerous crisis situations can include, but is not limited to, assault, robbery, suicidal behaviors or threats, homicidal behavior or threats, irrational dangerous behavior, or excessive consumption of alcohol or drugs. If you are not sure whether the situation represents immediate danger, err on the side of caution and place the call..911................................................................................................................................................This project was supported by the Office for Victims of Crime, US Department of Justice. Points of view in this document are those of the author and do not necessarily represent the official position or policy of the US Department of Justice or POMCNational, PGR,LDS,NRA Μολών Λaβέ !ΜΟΛΩΝ ΛΑΒΕ! ******************************Papito Dios llega a los Niños* ****** *****************************************************************************************************TURN OFF SOUND ON MUSIC PLAYER TO WATCH ANY OF THE VIDEOS***********************************************************************Tribute
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In Loving Memory Of A Dear POMC Friend Debbie Vicari Now in Heaven with her Sister and Mom We Are The Survivors There are those of us whose mothers have been taken from our arms, There are those of us with children we could not keep safe from harm. There are those of us who've lived to see our fathers lose their lives, and in our dreams we'll keep them all alive, cause each and every one of us survives. Chorus: We are the survivors, left behind to carry on. We are the survivors, joined together we are strong. We will speak out for our loved ones who were not given a choice. We are the survivors, hear our voice. Maybe some of us have brothers who were here, but now they're gone, You can ask about our sisters, because their memory is strong. We are sons and we are daughters, we are husbands, we are wives, and friends who try to keep their dreams alive, And each and every one of us survives. Repeat Chorus: Bridge: With a part of us that never heals, and a fear of the unknown, There's a strength in knowing through it all, you're not alone. We are the survivors, hear our voice. ***The project team would like to acknowledge Mike Jimenez of CCPOA for his constant encouragement and unselfish support!!!! Thank you from the bottom of our hearts!*** If you would like to order a copy of "We Are The Survivors", please call us toll free at (888) 818-POMC. Patriot Guard- A Pittance of Time
“WE’LL BE THERE” We are the Patriot Guard We’ll be there to send you off. We’ll be there to welcome you home. We’ll be there to watch your backs And help your loved ones while you’re gone. We are the Patriot Guard We’ll be there, be it hot or cold. Flags of honor, we’ll proudly hold. Through rain and sleet, we will ride, To pay respect for those who died. We are the Patriot Guard We come from all walks of life. Factory workers, farmers, doctors, teachers, old soldiers and soldier’s wives. We’ll be there to celebrate with you. We’ll be there to hold on to. We are the Patriot Guard People ask us, why we do what we do. The answer is simple. It’s for our soldiers, And it’s the right thing to do. We are, the Patriot Guard. By Ron Mackedanz July 10, 2007 Copyright: 2007 All rights reserved Minnesota Patriot Guard ************************************************************ No matter who you are, no matter where you go in your life, at some point your going to need somebody to stand by YOU. When the night has come in your life. TURN OFF SOUND ON MUSIC PLAYER ON BOTTOM LEFT TO WATCH ANY OF THE VIDEOS
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Up to $150,000 Reward Up to $150,000 is being offered for information leading to the arrest and conviction of person(s) responsible for the murder of Kevin Brewer. Kevin Brewer Kevin Brewer, 11, was murdered just after 10 p.m. on August 3rd, 2000 near Cottage Park in North Minneapolis. Brewer, who was shot three times, was with a friend when they stopped to watch a fight among men who were gambling near Cottage Park. Approximately 100 people were present when the incident occurred, however past rewards have not yielded a break in the case. Please bring closure to the family and friends of Kevin Brewer, and bring his killer to justice. Anyone with information about this case is requested to contact: Minneapolis Police Department at (612) 673-3786 or (612) 673-2358 or the Minnesota Bureau of Criminal Apprehension, Cold Case Homicide Unit at 651-793-7000 VIDEO BELOW DEAR SHOOTER PLEASE WATCH THIS

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