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Signs of an Abuser
..Jealousy ..Past Battering in other
..Controlling Behavior Relationships
..Quick Involvement ..Breaking or striking
..Isolation Objects
..Blames Others for Problems ..Any Force During an
..Blames Others for Feelings Argument
..Hypersensitivity ..Low Self-Esteem
..Unrealistic Expectations ..Tight Control over
..Cruelty to Animals and Children their Finances
..Verbal Abuse ..Objectification of
..Rigid Sex Roles Women
..Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde Personality
..Minimization of Violence
..Close Minded
..Manipulation through Guilt
"WHY DOES SHE STAY"
This is the most frequently asked question by our society to domestic violence advocates. When phrased this way, doesn't it appear to blame the victim? There are many barriers to the victim leaving but the ABUSE is NOT their fault!
The real question should be...
"WHY WON'T HE LET HER LEAVE?"
If his partner is "misbehaving" that he must verbally, emotionally, physically, and/or sexually abuse her, why won't he just let her go? Why does he beg her to come back when she leaves? Why does he promise to get help? Why does he stalk her? Why does he kill her?
Victims of Abuse stay for many reasons, here are just a few: Fear of what the abuser might do based on threats or past behavior, Fear of losing custody of children, Lack of (social support, support from institutions, housing alternative, money), Beliefs, and Pressures.
USING THE LAW TO HELP YOU
Protection or Restraining Orders
Ask your local domestic violence program who can help you get a civil protection order and who can help you with criminal prosecution
Ask for help in finding a lawyer
In most places, the judge can:
Order the abuser to stay away from you or your children
Order the abuser to leave your home
Give you temporary custody of your children & order the abuser to pay you temporary child support
Order the police to come to your home while the abuser picks up personal belongings
Give you possession of the car, furniture and other belongings
Order the abuser to go to a batterers intervention program
Order the abuser not to call you at work
Order the abuser to give guns to the police
If you are worried about any of the following, make sure you:
Show the judge any pictures of your injuries
Tell the judge that you do not feel safe if the abuser comes to your home to pick up the children to visit with them
Ask the judge to order the abuser to pick up and return the children at the police station or some other safe place
Ask that any visits the abuser is permitted are at very specific times so the police will know by reading the court order if the abuser is there at the wrong time
Tell the judge if the abuser has harmed or threatened the children; ask that visits be supervised; think about who could do that for you
Get a certified copy of the court order
Keep the court order with you at all times

So in my desire to re-do the layout...I somehow lost our story...(go me)<~~~sarcastically...I am going to try to find it and put it back here...If not I guess we will be sitting down and doing a re-write...But for now leave us a message if you would like information or just to talk...If you have anything useful please let us know and we will be more than happy to add it....Robbie and Derrell Bartlett
***Later the same day***
So I looked everywhere I could for our "story" that use to be here...no such luck...its drifting out there in internet land...(wonder if its in the same place that the sock that gets lost in the dryer goes too?)
Hopefully by next week we will have a re-write of our story...
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Dec 18 2009 7:09 PM
May a song of thanksgiving resound in your heart daily as you sing praises daily to our LORD God Almighty! I hope that you have a blessed Thanksgiving day as we set aside a special day to count our blessings and give thanks to our wonderful Heavenly Father for the abundant grace, love and blessings He has showered upon us!



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"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all".
-Dale Carnegie
I hope that your weekend brings you inspiration and peace my friend
Love and Light,
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Wishing you a beautiful week my friend!! Peace, Love, and many Blessings~~
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