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Before you read any further, please note that I only have 2 Myspace profiles: this page and another at http://myspace.com/mystikgeisha, which I use to keep in touch with close friends. I am not one of those people who have accounts all over the internet. As of right now, I AM ONLY ON MYSPACE, FACEBOOK and SAYNOW! Needless to say, I always hear about some fake profiles of me and how other people steal and use my pictures to spam, talk to guys, send hate messages around or whatever. I'm annoyed by this so please beware of fakos and report all abuse as you see them. Thank You!

<3 TOKI TALI

Even though I constantly brag about being good-looking, I’m not as self-absorbed or shallow as people often think I am. Honestly, growing up, I’d never really considered myself as being super pretty or anything but for some reason, everything that I go through (whether good or bad) all revolves around my appearance. Either, I would get a lot of compliments and attention from people that love the way I look, or I would get bad-mouthed and backstabbed by those that are insanely jealous.

Although beauty has opened many doors and opportunities in life for me, there is also a bad side to it that most people fail to recognize. It has always been difficult to have female friends for the obvious reason that most girls are not okay with hanging out with a girl who is gorgeous. Surprisingly, it has been just as hard for me to make guy friends as well since they would not be satisfied with a just platonic relationship.

Being beautiful also hasn’t helped me very much in the dating field. I get approached every day by people that I would never in a million years be interested in. But when it comes to the guys that I truly care for and would like to date, they’re usually always intimidated of my looks, assuming that I would be a high-maintenance girlfriend, or that I would cheat on them. Even when a guy is willing to give me the benefit of the doubt, it can be difficult to tell if he likes me for who I am, or just for my looks. I am usually very cautious, especially when the male species is biologically driven to only go after one thing. I would love to one day meet someone who notices my sweet personality before falling for my good looks, but perhaps that day would never come.

I truly believe that I’m more beautiful on the inside than I am on the outside but most people do not have the patience to dig deeper. They'd much rather rely on the stereotypes that beautiful girls are mean, dumb, and stuck-up. And that's why I LOVE to joke about my hotness. If people are going to judge a book by its cover by automatically labeling me as a bitch, then I might as well act like one beforehand and get a few good laughs from it. This is known as the "self fulfilling prophecy" that only those with a psychology background can understand :D

Yes, beauty is a curse and that pretty much has been the story of my life...

I’m only on here to keep in touch with old friends and make new ones. I’m NOT interested in Dating anyone so please do not waste your time or mine. Also, if you’ve been given the friend card, then you should keep it or leave it. Don’t ever try to push for more because it would make me feel really uncomfortable. Oh, and if you're one of those guys who are only interested in talking to me because I'm HOT, take your game elsewhere, or call an Escort instead. I have x-ray vision to see through jerks like you.

A little bit about me: I’m intelligent, independent, polite, ambitious, confident, kind-hearted, loyal, honest and very straightforward. Let’s just say that I’ve been through a lot and I have no tolerance for liars and backstabbers. Yes, I do carry a tough, bitchy exterior from time to time and therefore may come off as snobby, arrogant, or unfriendly to a lot of people but if I was being nice and smiley to every single person I run into, all the loserish guys out there would try to get into my pants and all those evil, conniving, jealous girls would be stabbing my back from every possible direction.

This is not to say that I am a jaded or distrusting person in any way for I definitely believe in the importance of giving everyone the benefit of a doubt until they have proven otherwise. In fact, I know better than to judge a book by its cover because I’m just so used to having people making ridiculous assumptions based on my appearance: that I’m dumb, spoiled, high maintenance, and shallow. But believe it or not, I don’t mind being misunderstood because at the end of the day, the ones who take time to really get to know me prove themselves as people who are patient, kind and loving. They are the type of friends that I would cherish for the rest of my life. Thank You...

"No matter who you are and what you do, there will always be critics so just say what you want, do what you love and screw the rest."

"Forgiveness is a priceless gift---given to you....by you!"

"Relationships and Friendships can Both Come and Go. Always put Family, Yourself and even Your Pets FIRST."

"Don’t be quick to jump to conclusions. Try to think of all sides of a question or situation. Intelligence without understanding is a jade without the caving – just a rock."

"In 3 Areas of Your Life: Love, Friendship and Career: Never Settle For Less Than You Deserve Because the Minute You do That, You Get Even Less Than You Settled For."

"Be Proud of Who You Are. There's at least one person out there who's secretly admiring or caring about you! You just don't know it."

"Don't be hesistant to do a good deed every once in a while because just like a candle, you will not lose anything by lighting another."

"There are already too A**holes in this World so try to be Kind & Gracious to Everyone. And if people aren't nice to you, They're Just JEALOUS!"

"An eye for an eye only makes the world go blind. Just let Karma take care of all Bullshit in Life."

"Everyone Pities the Weak but Jealousy Needs to Be Earned! It's Always Better to Be Hated on For being Fabulous than to be Well-Liked for being Ridiculous."

"Treat Everyone, Rich or Poor, Fat or Skinny, Pretty or Ugly The Same. Also be nice to people on your way up because you will meet them later on your way down."

"Keep in mind that love entails obligation, that respect and trust must be earned, and that 'please' and 'thank you' are not simply words to be mumbled at birthday parties."

"In a Society Full of Fakes and Morons: Love All but Trust Few and Rely on No One..."

"Most Importantly, Love Yourself. There's no Greater Love!"

DON'T EVEN BOTHER TRYING TO HOOK UP WITH ME Because: First of all, my Myspace motive has always been networking and making friends. It was never my intention to use this convenient internet resource to meet the man of my dream, or to get romantically involved with anyone. Secondly, being an old fashioned person, I am not fond of internet dating because it seems like everyone on Myspace, particularly from California, chats and meets up with each other. It’s actually kind of incestuous! Third, we REALLY Can't trust anyone online. There are just as many pimply and overweight girls on here who pretend to be models, singers and actresses just as there are many uneducated, unemployed guys who say they are PhD's, doctors, lawyers and wealthy real estate investors or film producers. It's pretty crazy how people can fabricate all kinds of stories to create an imaginary fancy cyber life on Myspace, with the attempt to mask their true failure in the real world. Perhaps they're even delusional enough to believe their own lies, but I don't have time to mind anyone's business but my own.

If I want to date, thanks goodness to my great looks and amazing social skills, I can easily meet someone in real life. My 2 favorite places to meet boys? School and the Sanrio Hello Kitty stores because good guys don't go online to desperately try to talk to anyone, they also don't approach girls at bars or clubs.

Please also Note: I DO NOT appreciate messages or comments with any type of sexual remarks. I WILL NEVER send provocative pictures to anyone so don’t even think to ask. I’m a good girl who comes from a family with class so I get seriously offended and annoyed by such sick requests. Give me your respect and I’ll give you mine. I didn’t ask for your nudes so don’t ask for mine. I’m not an adult film star, I’m not an exotic dancer, I’m not an import model and I’m not a soup kitchen either. THANK YOU!

"I'm not one of those hot girls who think that their crap don't stink and that they are better than everyone else but I've also been around long enough to conclude that very few guys out there actually deserve a woman of my caliber. I have my reasons to be picky AND JUST SO YOU KNOW: I'M NOT INTERESTED IN 99.69% OF THE MALES ON HERE." -TT

Do you watch reality TV shows such as The Hills, The Bachelor or America’s Next Top Model? Have you ever seen girls having catfights or arguing with each other over the pettiest things, like an outfit or because of a guy? Even in Hollywood, doesn't it seem like a lot of female stars usually trash one another and eventually go from being BFF’s to enemies overnight? In our own experience, we all have female friends who say and do nasty things behind each other's backs. I don’t even need to go in details for anyone to get the hint, the truth is: girls are probably the most venomous and vindictive living species on earth. This is why the movie "Mean Girls" will remain as one of my all time favorites.

My point really is: I’m not on Myspace to be any girl’s best friend and on the contrary, I’m also not here to make enemies or create and get involve in childish girls’ drama. I have no time for that. Further more, I’m a mature, intelligent and confident woman, therefore, I don’t need to compete, harass, gossip, make up lies, or put other females down in order to feel good about myself. MY RULES ARE SIMPLE: If you like me, I’ll like you. If you don’t like me, I won’t like you and if you hate me, I’m not going to give a crap. It’s no secret we live in a sick, competitive world, where a lot of people are evil and jealous towards others so when a girl (whether on Myspace or in real life) is nice to me, I’ll definitely be appreciative and sweet to her in return. However, if they are one of those immature and jealous girls who don’t like hanging out with someone pretty, or prettier, then they shouldn't try to be my friend in the first place. It’s their choice and that's perfectly fine since I understand everyone has insecurities. Just don’t be one of those shady and conniving girls who befriend me because they think I’m cool and nice but end up stabbing my back out of resentment, after getting tired of me always stealing the spotlight and them just being the little shadow.

This is not to say that men aren’t at all deceitful and manipulative but it’s a fact that males are natural born competitors so they are definitely more likely to compete or fight fairly. Women, on the other hand, are more likely to resort to pranks and using dirty tricks with someone they cannot beat fair and square. It is evidently true that women would much rather harm than help each other. Perhaps this is why in almost every profession today women are still getting paid quite a bit less than men. In the end, I’ve learned that when you’re a beautiful, fashionable, classy female with a good personality, like myself, you’d need to be careful around other girls since many of them will interpret kindness as a weakness, and eventually will either try to use, betray, or even sabotage you. Let us be fair, however, and not conclude that all women are mean and spiteful, hence the probability that Mother Teresa was not. Despite the virtually low number of nice women out there, I remain optimistic, that maybe one day the female’s world would no longer be as this complicated. For the two special females in my life who are also my best friends: MY MOMMY & MY SISTER: Thank you for always being so sweet and kind. You two give me the unconditional love, support, and inspirations to become this beautiful person inside out. I LOVE YOU!

"I love it when a girl says nasty things about me to her boyfriend. It only exposes her insecurity and how much she's afraid he'll fall in love with me." -TT

"Art washes from the soul the dust of everyday life." -Pablo Picasso

"Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise." -Benjamin Franklin

"He, who has health, has hope; and he who has hope has everything." -Arabian Proverb

"In the hope of reaching the moon men fail to see the flowers that blossom at their feet" -Albert Schweirzer

"An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind." -Buddha

"It is a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it." -Somerset Maugham

"Keep a green tree in your heart and perhaps a singing bird will come." -Chinese Proverb

"The real man smiles in trouble, gathers strength from distress, and grows brave by reflection." -Thomas Paine

"Love sought is good, but given unsought, is better."- William Shakespeare

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