Sha'nology

Chilling with my kids and getting tossed with my husband....and I can't say the rest..... LESSON #ONE: (Get a pen) KNOW YOUR PLACE. In this life time you will be one of three things to a man; in some case's you maybe all three. You are either the "Chick on the side", the "Girlfriend" or the "Wife". In either role it is important that you know your role, responsibilities and duties. To my "Chick's on the side" know that your main role is to shut up and give good sex (doing all the things the Girlfriend or Wife refuse to do). If he wanted to hear someone's feeling's and emotion's he would be with the "Girlfriend" or "Wife". Play or role don't call to often and you might get up graded; not likely but you might. Please note: The “Bitch on the side” is not the girlfriend. You can not be the Girlfriend if another women has papers on him. To my "Girlfriends" you are almost there but not there yet. It is very important that you know and understand your role as well; most girlfriends do to much and that’s why they don’t become the Wife. Don’t get me wrong there is a lot you need to do but washing clothes every week and cooking every night is not one of them. Wash here and there and cook when you feel like it. Let him see all he could be getting. Don’t nag to much and STOP calling every five minutes. If he is doing dirt play your role and he will soon stop. If he doesn’t LEAVE! He’ll come back and if he doesn't he isn't what you need. He is not ready for the "C" or a "R". This is not a bad thing, he just needs more playing time and you do not have the time. To my “Wife’s” do everything you were doing as the Girlfriend times two and / or when you were the Chick on the side. Run a little, keep things new and make him feel like he is the only thing in this world that means anything to you. Stop complaining and make stuff happen, still making him feel like the man he is and if you feel like he doesn’t see or appreciate your hard work, just STOP and let things slip a litte. Make him see your worth in a way that is demeaning. Don't get crazy about the small things. So what he doesn't clean up behind his self, at least he is there. So what he doesn't put gas in the car after he drives it, just get the dollars and do it yourself. Understand your man and work around it. I am sure there's somethings about you he would like to change but he can't so he just works around it. You will have to walk away a lot, bite your tongue even more and turn to your higher source even more but know that a change is coming. There will be more to follow in the next class.