I enjoy photography, massage, poetry, writing, and Buddhist meditation. I adore cats, hot tubs, lying nude in the sun, art, modern dance, butoh, contact dance, music, yoga, cuddling, kissing, sensual pleasures, laughter. I'm curious about people, exploring new places, tattoos, piercings, gender identity, androgyny, conscious sexuality (tantra), contortionists, other cultures. I like road trips, people watching, deconstructing identity. I love France, especially in the south, and want to explore Thailand, Bali, Cuba, and Brazil. I try to practice kindness, compassion, patience, curiosity. I learn many lessons from cats and children. I think sax and stand-up bass are sexy.
Love You are a lover of love. You love to love and be loved. You are perhaps a hopeless romantic but those are rare nowadays. Think of it as a gift. Whether you are saving yourself for that special someone or you have already found him or her. You are part of an almost extinct species of human. The kind that believe in true love... Because love is truly beautiful!
Almost everything - except opera. Aerosmith. Agent Orange. Alabina. Alana Davis. Alanis Morissette. Alcione. Alpha Blondy. Angelique Kidjo. Ani DiFranco. Animal Things. Art Blakey. Art Pepper. Au Pairs. Avengers/Penelope Houston. Banda Eva. Bauhaus. Beausoleil. Beny More. Billie Holiday. Black Eyed Peas. Bloc Party. Blue Oyster Cult. Blurt. Bob Dylan. Bob Marley. Bonnie Raitt. Breeders. Bush Tetras. Cab Calloway. Cabaret Voltaire. Cal Tjader. Celia Cruz. Chaba Zahouania. Charlelie Couture. Clara Nunes. Clash. Concrete Blonde. Counting Crows. Crass. Cure. Damned. Daniela Mercury. Daude. Dave Matthews. David Bowie. Dead Kennedys. Debbie Davies. Delta 5. Diana King. Dizzie Gillespie. Doors. Duke Ellington. Dum Dum Project. Elvis Costello. Eno. Eric Burdon. Etta James. Eurythmics. Factrix. Fall. Fang. Fiona Apple. Free/Bad Company. Gang of Four. Garbage. Gil Scott-Heron. Graham Parker. Gun Club. Hakim. Hank Williams. Howlin' Wolf. Iggy. India Arie. James Brown. Jefferson Airplane. Jill Scott. JJ Cale. John Cale. John Mayall. John Prine. Johnny Cash. Joni Mitchell. Joy Division. Kana. Keri Leigh. Kevin Ayers. Khaled. Koko Taylor. Laura Love. Led Zeppelin. Legal Weapon. Leonard Cohen. Linda Perry. Lionel Hampton. Lou Reed. Magazine. Mano Chau. Manu Dibango. Marisa Monte. Mekons. Me'Shell Ndegeocello. Michael Franti. Michelle Shocked. Midnight Voices. Misfits. Mission of Burma. Morphine. Mose Allison. Mott the Hoople. Moving Units. Mutants. Najma. Natacha Atlas. Neil Young. Nina Simone. Norah Jones. Patti Smith. Patsy Cline. Penetration. Pere Ubu. Peter Gabriel. Pharcyde. Phil Ochs. Poncho Sanchez. Pretenders. Prince. Pylon. Quicksilver. Radio 4. Rahsaan Roland Kirk. Richard Hell. Rickie Lee Jones. RL Burnside. Rolling Stones. Rory Block. Rosie Ledet. Roxy Music. Ruby. Ruts. Salif Keita. Salt-N-Pepa. Savoy Brown. Shakira. Sheila Chandra. Shelby Lynne. Sheryl Crow. Shriekback. Siouxsie. Slits. Sly & The Family Stone. Social Distortion. Steppenwolf. Stiff Little Fingers. Sue Foley. Susan Tedeschi. Talking Heads. Tegan & Sara. Throbbing Gristle. Tito Puente. Tito Rodriguez. Toni Price. Toxic Reasons. Traffic. T Rex. Tuxedomoon. Van Morrison. Violent Femmes. VKTMS. Wanda Jackson. White Stripes. Yeah Yeah Yeahs. Shall I go on?...
Movies
My MA was is Film Studies so I watch and collect all kinds of movies. Amelie. Apocalypse Now. Bellocchio's Devil in the Flesh. Billy Elliot. Blood Simple. Blue Velvet. Body Heat. Bound. Brazil. Carny. The Conversation. Crash. Death in Venice. Diva. Doctor Zhivago. Don't Look Now. Foxfire. Ghost Dog. Harold and Maude. Hopscotch. I ♥ Huckabees. In Search of Gregory. John Woo's The Killer. Kill Bill. Kiss Kiss Bang Bang. Koyanisqaatsi. Kundun. Kung Fu Hustle. The Last Wave. Leon (The Professional). Le Samourai. The Little Girl Who Lives Down the Lane. The Lover. The Matrix. Memento. Montenegro. Out of the Past. The Passenger. Prime. Pulp Fiction. Run Lola Run. Sea of Love. Siddhartha. Sin City. Spring, Summer, Fall, Winter...and Spring. Steelyard Blues. Sundays & Cybele. Sunset Boulevard. The Terminal. Thelma & Louise. The Third Man. The Tin Drum. V For Vendetta. Whale Rider. The Year of Living Dangerously. Most film noirs. Lately I am enjoying Hong Kong cinema immensely - and have an extensive collection. I love to cuddle and watch a good - or even a bad - movie.
Television
Inside the Actor's Studio. The West Wing. The Closer. House. Coupling. Alias. 24. Friends. La Femme Nikita. The Net. Dark Angel. X-Files. C-16. Ally McBeal. Northern Exposure. Twin Peaks. Spenser For Hire. Sherlock Holmes. Kung Fu. The Avengers. The Colbert Report.
Henry Miller, Albert Camus, Andre Gide, Louis-Ferdinand Celine, Alain Robbe-Grillet, Simone de Beauvoir, Jean-Paul Sartre, Jean Genet, Marguerite Duras, Vladimir Nabokov, Herman Hesse, Joyce Carol Oates, John Fowles, Thomas Pynchon, Kurt Vonnegut, J.G. Ballard, Philip K. Dick, Robert Heinlein, Richard Brautigan, Sylvia Plath, Anais Nin, Anne Rice, Kathy Acker, William S. Burroughs, Jack Kerouac, Charles Bukowski, Tom Robbins, Franz Kafka, Gunter Grass, Jakov Lind, Carlos Castaneda, Joseph Chilton Pearce, Roland Barthes, Michel Foucault. I like poetry and art books, particularly photography. I love Netter's Atlas of Human Anatomy.
Heroes
I don't know that I have heroes - or believe in heroes - but human beings I have respect for include the Dalai Lama, Aung San Suu Kyi, Mohandas Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Gautama Buddha, Abbie Hoffman, Arundhati Roy, Amy Goodman, Dennis Kucinich, Buckminster Fuller, Ajahn Chah, Ajahn Sumedho, Ayya Khema, Bell Hooks, Osho Rajneesh, Merce Cunningham, Moses Pendleton, Trisha Brown, Bill T. Jones, Laura Dean, Edward Weston, Robert Mapplethorpe, Erwin Blumenfeld, Hans Bellmer, Auguste Rodin, Henry Miller, John Cage.
I'm intrigued by Angelina Jolie, Shu Qi, Johnny Depp, Eric Roberts, Gary Oldman, James Spader, Donald Sutherland, Natalie Portman, Jessica Alba, Jolene Blalock, Gina Gershon, Ellen Barkin, Jessica Biel, Jessica Lange, Julie Christie, Angel Boris, Leonard Cohen, Ani DiFranco, Fiona Apple, Jet Li, Chow Yun Fat.
San Francisco State University
San Francisco, CALIFORNIA
Graduated: N/A
Student status: Alumni
Degree: Master's Degree
Major: Cinema / Semiotics of Art
1986 to 1990
College Of Alameda
Alameda, CALIFORNIA
Graduated: 1986
Student status: Alumni
Degree: Associate's Degree
Major: Dance
I have another myspace account that showcases some of my photography and writing. CLICK HERE if you'd like to see some of my art.
I'm a kind man who tries to make the world a better place - and himself, a better person. I have a strong body, a positive spirit, and a bright mind. I am a teacher, a writer, and an artist. I am well-educated, creative, and have a good sense of humor - sometimes a quick wit, sometimes silly. I am responsible, reliable, and honest. At the same time, I am independent and tend to think and live "outside the box." I adore cats. I live in the quiet, lush green outskirts of Chiang Mai in Thailand. I am not all that concerned with money but quality of life is very important to me. I value friendship and truth. Life is short and I want to live it well.
If you cry because the sun has gone out of your life,
your tears will prevent you from seeing the stars.
~Rabindranath Tagore
It's not easy for me to ask for help (or to accept it) but it is clear that I need to learn to do so. I have advanced colon cancer and have run out of resources. I have come to Thailand to try to heal myself, having refused radiation, chemotherapy, and surgery. If you are able to contribute to my medical care fund, this will allow me to pursue alternative treatments. I have been touched deeply by the generosity of my friends, my students, and even complete strangers. Thank you for your assistance, your love, your kindness, your warm thoughts.
Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
~Frank Outlaw
We are what we think.
All that we are arises with our thoughts.
With our thoughts we make the world.
Speak or act with an impure mind
And trouble will follow you
As the wheel follows the ox that draws the cart.
...
Speak or act with a pure mind
And happiness will follow you
As your shadow, unshakable.
Who I'd like to meet: FRIENDS: I'm happy to expand my circle of friends, both locally and around the world. People to hang out and have fun with. An extended family around the globe. People to confide in, trust, and share quality time with. I am particularly looking to expand the creative influences in my life - artists of all ages and backgrounds. I appreciate diversity.I love my friends from all over the world but now that I'm all alone in a new country - Thailand - I'd love to make friends to actually hang out with and who can help me learn the ins and outs of Thai life and language.
You can also find me on tribe.net. MODELS: As a photographer, I'm always looking for people to work with. Check out some of my work at BodyDharma and let me know if you're interested in some artistic collaboration. I have numerous projects I work on but at the moment I am very interested in faces.
You can also see some of my work at DeviantART and usefilm. [The contrast on my monitor was off when I touched up the images so I need to redo them all, Ugh!] PEOPLE INTERESTED IN NETWORKING AND/OR BARTER: I'm currently working on some video projects and would love to meet others with relevant skills to work with. I'm open to sharing my skills with others engaged in creative projects. I enjoy massage exchanges and I am also open to offering therapeutic massage in barter for other services. Photography is a skill I'm happy to offer. I have numerous skills. Let's talk. Now that my health is less than great, there are certain things I need help with and it would be wonderful to be able to do some kind of exchange other than monetary.
IN GENERAL:
Due to my history, I have issues trusting men. It's nothing personal. They are just my issues. It would be nice to have some male friendships, but I don't seem to meet the right men.
I obviously am not the age listed. Please get to know me for who I am, not when I was born. I will do the same for you.
I am attracted to people who live their life creately, who appreciate art, who question conventions and think for themselves, and who value truth.
I tend to not have much in common with people whose vocabularies include Faggot, Nigger, Bitch.
I don't much care for people who use the names of body parts that I have great affection for (you know the words I mean), to derisively refer to other people.
Three credos that guide my life are: "You are the result of your thoughts"; "Know thyself"; and "The unexamined life is not worth living."
I really would like people in my Friend Space to be people who I actually know or who are willing to interact in some way. I'm not looking to collect or be collected. I have a fantastically diverse group of myspace friends, each of who I hope to learn from and I will do my best, given the limits of my health and energy, to be available as a real friend to you. I am not one who reserves friendship for a few, like it were some scarce resource that could be depleted, but rather I see friendship as a natural abundance that grows the more it is given. I love ALL my friends!
I know this is not as good as your kitty's but I was hoping it would put a smile on your face. I am sending my love and birthday hugs your way tomorrow and every day.
hey hey hey ..happy birthday! not sure if i'm early or late...i never manage to show up exactly on time :) but have a great day today! and a great decade, in case I miss it the next few years ;) mwuah~lelia
Hey, you! How are you doing? I know this is an early birthday wish for you, but I don't want to forget! I wish you calmness and laughter on your day. I also hope you get some great presents! :) Blessings and hugs, Ashleigh MySpace Happy Birthday Comments
hello beloved friend. I am in San Diego for a bit. Has been a rough summer and have had quite a bit of medical issues so traveling was intense. It feels good to ground out here for a bit. I got an old R.V. so i have a home on wheels to travel in. I am feeling well right now and doing a lot of dietary adjustments to help my body heal. It has been a great learning experience, this traveling, this life on the road. Nepal and India were beautiful and i felt very much at home in Northern India. I send you lots of love and wish you beauty, light and love on your birthday and everyday. love love love love love love love love love
Sweet Barry! I have been battling my way to health and have been out of touch. I was thinking about you and haven't recalled an update in a while. My friend Dr. Al might be able to help. My daughter moved out and am free to wander. A new Couchsurfing Project member now, I plan to devirginize my passort and hope to cross paths and give you a big hug!!! Peace, Love and Light! Connie
Here I am, wonderful man, to let you know even though my kid has forbiden me to use my own pc while he's awake, I keep you in my heart and in my thoughts. Somehow I feel I'm with you. :)
I am thinking of you today and wanted to send you a hug. I am in nursing school and its been a challenge to even come up for air. I miss you and am sending my love your way.
"My religion is to be kept alive by Love: life derived from this animal soul and head alone is a disgrace. The sword of Love sweeps away the dust from the lover's soul, for this sword clears sins. When the bodily dust is gone, my moon shines: my spirit's moon finds an open sky. For so long, O adored one, I've been beating this drum of love for you to the tune of "See, my life depends upon my dying. " Rumi
Hello Barry! How are you doing? Hope everthing is ok there. I've finished my thesis defense since last month and next month I'm going to Korea for a conference and travel :) You have a wonderful weekend and take care.
These three things are to be taken note of: the lowest love is sex - it is physical - and the highest refinement of love is compassion. Sex is below love, compassion is above love; love is exactly in the middle.
Very few people know what love is. Ninety-nine percent of people, unfortunately, think sexuality is love - it is not. Sexuality is very animal; it certainly has the potential of growing into love, but it is not actual love, only a potential....
If you become aware and alert, meditative, then sex can be transformed into love. And if your meditativeness becomes total, absolute, love can be transformed into compassion. Sex is the seed, love is the flower, compassion is the fragrance.
Buddha has defined compassion as love plus meditation. When your love is not just a desire for the other, when your love is not only a need, when your love is a sharing, when your love is not that of a beggar but an emperor, when your love is not asking for something in return but is ready only to give - to give for the sheer joy of giving - then add meditation to it and the pure fragrance is released. That is compassion; compassion is the highest phenomenon.
Osho Zen, Zest, Zip, Zap and Zing Chapter 3
thinking of you and sending love always. I am in Port Townsend, going to Orcas Island. Tried to head to Shasta but the smoke was too thick, so i turned around and went north :) peace to you brother.
Dad... I have been looking for that radio interview of Obama a few years ago. You shared it with us when we came up there is June. If you still have it could you please email it to me. I have been thinking of you and I miss you very much!
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